Do I have permission to perform this ritual? Hex 49.1.4>39 pls help.

[anon]

Do I have permission to perform this ritual? Hex 49.1.4>39 pls help.

It's been a while since I've honored my craft. In part because it seems like I have been blocked for the past three years. Everything I do either does not work or bounces right back to me. Lol


I feel like the witches they show on TV that are preparing a big pot of good stuff and the potion explodes in their face! Lol

Anyways ... I need help with this reading because I asked the Yi if I have permission from my guides to perform this ritual. Aiming at improving my love life.

The biggest contradiction is that everything that I do for family and friends ... Works every time. And not only works. But seems to be blessed with the best of fortune. ... Inducing permanent positive results in their lives .... But when I perform the same exact ritual for myself..... Poof! It becomes a mess.... I go a little nutty. Can't sleep. Can't concentrate. ... I usually end up un doing whatever I have done and or become obsessed with the outcome and results... I wonder what the heck is going on????

Please help. :bows::bows::bows:

 

[anon]

Now 49 is the hex of changes. ... And I believe that the lines talk about the specific need that I have to influence or to make these changes happen. And hex 39 is about a road block. And the obstruction that I am currently facing.... Hum. Let me think about this a little bit longer ...

 

[anon]

Anyone? A little help please :bows:

 

[Cathalina]

Hello. I'm not very confident in interpreting other people's I ching readings yet since I'm new myself but I'm someone so I'll throw my 2 cents until someone else jumps in. And for some reason I actually feel pretty confident in my interpretation of your reading, probably because I had a similar one myself.

I think the I ching is telling you NOT to do the ritual at the moment.

From my book (by Brian Browne Walker):
Line 1: Preserverance in innocent nonaction bears the greatest fruit at this time. Wait in humility and quiet restraint for a clear way to open.

From Deoxy:

Nine at the beginning means:
Wrapped in the hide of a yellow cow.

Changes ought to be undertaken only when there is nothing else to be done.
Therefore at first the utmost restraint is necessary. One must becomes firm in
one's mind, control oneself-yellow is the color of the means, and the cow is
the symbol of docility-and refrain from doing anything for the time being,
because any premature offensive will bring evil results.

From my book (by Brian Browne Walker):
Line 4: Great changes are only possible if your inner attitude is blameless. That which is not will simply not last.

Nine in the fourth place means:
Remorse disappears. Men believe him.
Changing the form of government brings good fortune.

Radical changes require adequate authority. A man must have inner strength
as well as influential position. What he does must correspond with a higher
truth and must not spring from arbitrary or petty motives; then it brings great
good fortune. If a revolution is not founded on such inner truth, the results
are bad, and it has no success. For in the end men will support only those
undertakings which they feel instinctively to be just.

I must say, in a way I love readings like this, they feel clear, they make the resulting hexagram make sense. Your lines speak directly of your obstruction.
My conclusion of your reading: Both line 1 and line 4 suggests that this is not a time for you to do your ritual. It is likely that there is a better alternative, such as more work to be done WITHOUT rituals. Or perhaps things are already in motion and you must simply wait to see how they play out. Line 1 definitely suggests there might be something else going on or another alternative (perhaps even one in which you have to do nothing but wait and watch play out, whether it's the outcome you want from your ritual or not it will be a very important turn of fate, what is MEANT to happen). Line 4 give sme different thoughts. Unlike line 1 (destiny, something already in progress, alternatives, basically external reasons why you SHOULDN'T do the ritual) line 4 speaks to me of INTERNAL reasons why you shouldn't do the rituals. You mentioned before that whenever you do rituals for yourself they don't work out as well as when done for others. Perhaps it's your state of mind? I wouldn't know, I think line 4 is telling you to look at the pattern you see in yourself. Please don't get mad at me for what I'm about to say, it's just for the sake of throwing ideas and it's something I've asked myself when I ask the I ching certain questions, perhaps you're being selfish? Not to say that you shouldn't do it but perhaps at the time that you do the ritual you are being guided by selfish motives (as oppose to when you help your friends you are being guided by compassion). It's something that happens in ALL relationships, when we desire something too much we lose out on it, in order to have a successful relationship one must be detached, it's a paradox but apparently it works, I wouldn't know first hand because I keep becoming too attached but I have noticed things go smoothly when I;m detached at the beginning. Anyway, I really don't know, but like 4 is strongly telling me that you need to question yourself and look for the inner obstruction. Perhaps that will dissolve the obstruction and you will be able to do your ritual then, after all, the most important thing is our state of mind.

 

[Cathalina]

I know my previous post is pretty long so I decided to make a 2nd one so that, if it's okay with you, I could share my own experience with hex 49 line 4 (and if it's not okay, well then, you can just skip this post ). You see, I recently reconciled with my exboyfriend but the I ching warns me that he and his exgirlfriend (if they even broke up) are actually working things out and 'pushing upwards'. And well, everything happened with us and them and us again so fast so it makes perfect sense that they have unfinished business. Other than the I ching the obstructions it has warned me about still haven't come to light. But the readings for them are mostly positive for them and keep pointing out at an obstruction and conflict for him and me. The readings for us are very auspicious, some are hopeful, some are very grim but open-ended, some make me feel like I'm setting myself up for a fail but yet, in a way, the I ching tells me to continue setting myself up. I have gotten the Obstruction Hex, the fearsome hex 25, and the Conflict hex but no Splitting Apart. Not that it always works that way but a part of me kind of hopes for it just for the sake of having a definite answer. In the past I did get the Splitting Apart hex when it came to him and we broke up.

Anyways, I directly asked the I ching "what if I just give up on my relationship?" I was thinking, after all, if there's a 3rd person involved ISN'T THAT WHAT I SHOULD DO?! I am actually surprised I haven't gotten Retreat either yet. The answer was 49.4 > 63. I researched similar answers containing 49.4 here on the forums and read someone say "it is saying that a 180 turn is possible". Then suddenly it made perfect sense. In my case it WASN'T saying that. It was telling me to ASK MYSELF IF that 'revolution' was possible? Was my inner attitude blameless? I've realized it's not. In the past I gave up on him too quickly and that is one of the main reasons I couldn't let go after we broke up, guilt over the blame of my inner attitude. So I realized it's not necessarily that the I ching is telling me that him and I WILL work out, nor that it's telling me that we WON'T work out, it's telling me the only way I can be free (whether the obstruction is his exgirlfriend or whether the obstruction is my attachment for him) is to continue following proper principles and let the situation play out (like I said, the obstruction hasn't even come to light yet, acting prematurely wouldn't be very innocent of me). Otherwise, if I DO give up right now, the relationship will definitely end (hex 63) BUT the worst part is there WON'T be a positive change or revolution within me. I will STILL be stuck on him (49.4) because I will wonder if our relationship wasn't meant to work out of if I just killed it like I've done in the past and my guilt will keep me from moving on.

I LOVED my reading. It gives me a sense of peace and reminds me God (I'm a religious person but The Creative, Fate, etc. can be interchanged) is taking good care of me, I just have to let Him. The I ching is showing me the way to be free. Like the I ching says 'what belongs to us can't be lost, even if we throw it away'. If he's mine everything will sort itself out in time, we just need to get ourselves out of the mess we got ourselves in by trusting the process. If he's not mine, I will finally have the blessing of acceptance, having had this second chance and done everything right. Definitely acting prematurely and letting go right now would rob me of either one of those blessings.

I hope this is of some help to you (of course our questions were different but perhaps you can relate to it in some way to your question). Either way, it's nice to share one's own readings. Best of wishes to you.

 

[anon]

Wow cathalina thank you so much. You are amazing!!!

And yes. I definitely agree with the selfish desires. I believe that every time that we "want" to influence things, people or situations, I believe that there is a bit of selfish motives behind it. .... Hence the word want. Because at times it could be the root of all evil.

Thank you for taking the time to answer my post and thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate it in more ways than you could ever imagine.

About your reading.... What I see is that it talks about a situation that became to painful for you.... There was a lot of emotion involved and it became overbearing or too stressful. ....so you decided to step aside and give it time to heal. And healing it is. .... In regards to your question. "What if I just give up on this relationship?" .... I see it as.... You feel like or are afraid that you would be missing a great opportunity for love. .... You see 49.4 is a hex full of emotion. .... Sometimes an overwhelming type of emotion... That if not managed well could end up hurting. Hex 63 is the calm after the storm. .... Is the time where you have dealt with the challenges and the struggle is finally over. .... When peace has finally been restored after a time of great struggle.

I hope I don't confuse you by explaining the way that I see the hexagrams. With the Yi I feel that it's almost like a math problem. .... I'm good at giving the answer ...but when I work out the problem , as teachers often ask....I get lost in translation. Haha

So your reading just shows that if you give up on this relationship .... Though you are afraid of loosing a great opportunity for love... You take a break from it, to gather your strength and your energy. And by experience... You find success in this retreat. .... Either he comes back and chases you, or someone even better will. So it's a line full of positive promise. But not an easy one to accept since in a way doesn't directly answer your question. It just tells you that you are doing the right thing by keeping to yourself. It is almost like you are taking time to heal while giving yourself a chance to see what happens. A very smart move if you ask me.

I find that it is so much easier doing readings for others than for ourself. ... Usually there is too much emotion and a bit of impatience that overshadows good judgement.... Plus it is hard when we are in desperate need of an honest answer, and instead what we usually get is advise.

To give you a little bit more info on my particular situation.... Well, I did perform the ritual. A simple, kind loving ritual. Asking the universe to open the necessary doors in my life to guide true love to me.

Then I read your response! ... I believe that everything happens for a reason. There are no coincidences in life. .... I believe in Synchronosity and your message talked to me.

Why force things? If it has the potential of becoming overbearing. We must wait for the things that are meant for us to come to us at their right and perfect time. ,... Because if not, then it can even be disastrous, because the timing was just simply not right!!!

And who wants that?!

So you are very right!!!

Needless to say I woke up in the middle if the night and undid what I had done. I set my wishes free. And this morning when I checked my email... I got the most powerful message in the world:

Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37

So there you have it!

THANK YOU!

 

[anon]

And after much soul searching, while meditating today, I got the answer I've been waiting for practically my whole life...... "why fit a circle into a square?".... "Why ask pears from an apple tree?"

I believe that the reason my rituals do not work for me, is because I know the truth behind it. And the truth is what makes me unhappy!

Because no matter how much you influence things, at the end of the day all that you will be left with, is an apple in the shape of a pear. And who can be truly happy with that?!

So I will accept fate and continue to patiently wait for my pear!

 

[sooo]

Do I have permission to perform this ritual? Hex 49.1.4>39

Everything I do either does not work or bounces right back to me.

Effective prayer typically works the same way: it's more effective when one does it for another. Like helping another to shed their old skin.

'course there's always the karmic slapback if you wish harm on another.