Donor? 45.2.4 > 29

[Juliah]

I have a suspicion that I am a donor/giver of energy for a person.

Is it so indeed? 45.2.4 > 29. I am inclined to see the positive answer here.

What do you think friends?
And how would you interpret 45.4 in this case?

Thank you in advance.

 

[Juliah]

Just to add: seems as if I am nourishing the abyss which is able to consume only.

 

[Tim K]

45 is opposed to 26(accumulation), so yes you are sacrificing(45) your energy (top trigram of 47, lake) to the water below. Until the amount of water/energy becomes equal on top and at the bottom.

Nourishing the abyss, exactly.
47.4 the process will take a long time (in 29 you have to fill every nook and cranny).

 

[Juliah]

Having realized it I started to distance myself from this person. Today she accused me of nothing trying to offend and to disappoint me. What was the true reason of her today's behaviour?

15.5 > 39

As if she had bumped up against my wall and attacked me.

 

[Tim K]

Spot on interpretation! 15.5 creating a wall distancing yourself from others.
But from the other side 39.5 wants your help.

Maybe you shouldn't distance yourself from her.
45.2 says good fortune, and 47.2 as well.
Hmm.

 

[Juliah]

I think that I acted correctly - I got 28.2.6. > 33 about my behaviour with her now, as it should be.

The load is too heavy. (It is all about my boss whom I will leave soon. I told about her and the current situation in my previous thread.)

 

[wind]

There is a term used for a person that does this to another under the guise of friendship or even with family members. It's called an "Energy Vampire". I am downright amused by how much is written about this term across the Internet- so don't think you're alone in having this happen to you.

I see 45 and the lines 2 and 4 saying, "Hey. You did the right thing here..."

"... And as long as you continue to do the right thing, you'll be in this persons good graces; which is a dangerous unknown place for you." And there's your resulting 29.

The choice is yours. Do you keep continuing to give this person power over you or do you put your foot down and catch her in her own game? Don't give this person the power over you and your genuine kindness... Or you'll be prey to an Energy Vampire.

39- You injured her by not going along with her rules, her game. So she felt she wasn't getting what she needed out of you 15.5

 

[Juliah]

Yes, I know about this term. The matter was that I asked about myself, not about her. I hesitated about calling the other side, not the energy vampire, not the recipient.

The phrase "a milch cow" is suitable here, as well.

 

[wind]

Another good term!

Yes. I saw that you asked from your perspective and that's why I feel the answer was saying that you've done everything right but to continue in this way is dangerous. I sometimes think "danger" can vary to what it truly means from one translation to another. For me, I always felt the best synonym for danger within the iChing is harm or harmful.

I have a colleague that seems to always have a "quick question" or "small favor to ask". While I don't mind helping this individual out, it's hardly ever quick or small and what should be small ends up HUGE. It leaves me mentally drained to me entertain every whim for this person. I have learned to ask for it be sent via e-mail or I end up being "too involved at the moment" in something else. It's not being evasive. I do it so I can do what I need to get done and then I answer or do the favor.

I have found that in doing so, most favors and questions get taken care of before I am able to respond. It's a win/win situation for all. I don't become drained and she has learned to be more independently resourceful.