Evil eye 30.1.5>33

[Florafauna]

There's a lady I work with whom everyone at work seems to be overly obedient and gracious towards.
Now, it has been suggested to me by a professional that I may have 'mild' Asperger's, because of my lack of obedience to social norms that I disagree with. I'm willing to agree with that suggestion, however I also know that I'm very sensitive to personal power and manipulation tactics, and I see my refusal to obey as at least partially because of a spiritual choice, as I don't desire others to obey me if they don't want to.

This lady is very pleasant, but it's a very needy pleasant. She's the kind that can very sweetly insult and belittle anyone and everyone, and people kow-tow to her. I have noticed with myself and others, that she will look at our lunch with a very intense look, her face flushes, and it makes people feel very uncomfortable, and it makes me not even want to eat my food.

Someone mentioned evil eye, so I did a little looking online because it sounded like exactly what's going on. I didn't even mention evil eye to yi but I asked "please comment on my hunch that she has I'll will towards me."

Answer 30.1.5>33
Well, 30 speaks of the eyes, and clarity. So, is this confirmation that yes, she has Ill will towards me? I've always been very confused (line 1) and I have always gently and kindly refused to obey her, very docile, sincere and polite, and been confused by how very uncomfortable this whole situation makes me. Or is yi saying she is confused...

Line 5 speaks to the empath in me, that streaming tears as if mourning might be her situation at home and this is why she behaves this way, or is it saying that she wants to cause others to cry, that to her it would be 'good fortune'...

And 33 retreat...well I just don't know. Walk away is by first instinct. I didn't ask yi what to do about this, but maybe this is an offering of a solution? Or maybe it's commenting on her feeling like she would be insignificant if she didn't behave this way, that making people feel bad, and getting accolades and rewards for doing so, is what gives her value?

I'd really appreciate any insight on this reading as I have never asked a question like this before. I do ask a lot about people's behavior, but never asked for a comment on my own hunch.

Thank you!

 

[dfreed]

Line 30.1 is, Tread with care. Giving respect. No misfortune.

Line 30.5 is Weep away, cry ‘Lackaday (an expression of surprise)!' Auspicious.

Looking at the trigrams, they are both Light / Flame, with the lower (perhaps representing you) moving to Mountain, and the upper (representing her and/or your actions in the world) moving to Heaven.

Putting this altogether: I'm not seeing an 'evil eye' here at all. If anything, it could be suggesting that you need to (or consider how to) 'give respect' to her, and that this might surprise you (crying lackaday)!

With the trigrams, Flame turning to Mountain suggest that you have to 'stop the process' of seeing evil in her or in this situation, and Flame turning to Heaven suggests that you maybe need to take the high road - or the higher, more creative, more heaven-like path (Tao) in how you deal with her.

I once worked for someone who I found disagreeable (and some others did as well). What changed our situation for the better is when I realized that she was in fact my supervisor and I needed to put my ego on the back-burner, and follow her lead (though not including taking any abuse from her, which was really not her style anyway). Things got much better when I stopped acting as I had been, and instead decided to 'take the high road'.

I hope that's of some use to you. Best, D

 

[grassgrowing]

I'm likewise not seeing the presence of the "Evil Eye" here. I don't think she has any malicious intentions. It might be possible to bridge the gap between the both of you and create a better working environment, should you drop any ideas about her having it out for you! Even if she did have malicious intentions, the ability to see the best in others is powerfully transformative, and our reality is downstream from our mind.

 

[Florafauna]

Thank you both.
For almost 2 years of dealing with this, I was in an honest mindset of trying to understand and learn what I could do differently. I truly believed her requests to do things that were not work related, and things that would have serious consequences at work, as pure potential, without negative intent. I very much accepted her requests as innocent, but I never understood how politely refusing to fudge numbers by lightheartedly commenting how glad I was that we have such a great boss who can take care of those types of things, a boss who knows what to do about things like that, was met with such frustration and resentment in her. And when she would suggest going thru someone else's things, or rearranging our very particular coworkers desk, and I would just say, can you imagine if he came in and the stapler was on the right instead of at center, like I was giving her the benefit of the doubt by assuming she was being funny instead of actually suggesting we did something like that....even though my making light of it was met with more and more pressure from her to actually do it. It was only 2 days ago that I even entertained a malicious intent.
When she's look at my food, I tried so many ways to understand and respond, and everything I said made her very upset. I tried everything I could think of, from offering to share it with her, to commenting that I would probably be more productive if I ate healthier like she does, to telling her that I just can't seem to get my mom's lentil loaf recipe right, to asking her if the smell of my soup was unappetizing...
So I am still going to refuse doing things I know are outright wrong. But I will also refuse to even think she has malicious intent, and I will continue to learn more creative ways to interact with her and build some trust. I will see this as a learning process, experience, and not a threat.

Thank you both for your honest response, I know taking what you said to heart will improve this situation.

 

[grassgrowing]

You are most welcome.

To Yi: What advice should I give to Florafauna?
Answer: 14.2.5 > 13

14.2: A great chariot for loading. Proceed probing. No fault.
Focus on what you can do in this environment. Fill that carriage car with great treasures and you will carry it further than you first imagined. In terms of your specific situation, perhaps the contents you carry really are the deciding factor in the outcome.

14.5: His truth is then associating, then awesome (impressive).
That same discerning insight is an awesome power of yours that can be turned towards the effort of attracting your own good fortune. Study great leaders and take inspiration from the small and great who came before you. Everything in this life is relevant and nothing is trivial. If we take the whole of our life as a spiritual path, perhaps we can guard all of our companions from the "Evil Eye".

Small edit:
From the online Shen Shu oracle.
Spirit 77, Song of the Wind
When the mind has enough and to spare
But the strength is not sufficient
Then rely on the spring breeze
A song a melody

 

[rosada]

Please comment on my hunch that she has ill will towards me.

30.1
She gives off a lot of mixed signals which is very confusing. "Give respect" as in, recognize she's a real loose cannon and don't try to reform her.
30.5
Some people aren't happy unless they're miserable - and can make everyone around them miserable too.

33.
Retreat.

I don't know if the I Ching is saying out right she's specifically got ill will towards you but it sure reads to me like you should keep your distance.