ex came back! :s

[meganj]

Weird situation.. not quite sure what it means yet.
2 weeks ago I broke up with my bf and then now today I get a very late night msg from my ex bf... the one I wasn't able to get over for a year, in the beginning of me and this new guys relationship he called me and asked for me back, but I told him I was committed and wanted to make things work.. so he left me alone.
Honestly he has never really left my mind, thoughts of him would come and go.
Then after me and my bf broke up I contacted him, nothing big.. more of a nudge if anything. His response was really intense..
I'm not quite sure what to do, I have just gotten out this other relationship, but I always felt me and this guy didn't get our closure, it ended kind of badly.
Anyways I asked the Iching "what should I do?" (in a sense of like, should I msg him back, or what?) the answer was 38.2.4.6>24
then in a reading today about how I should think of the situation (we made plans to hang out) I got the answer 62.2.5.6>44 then a final question for the day.. "What is he looking for?" (why did he come to me?), 30.2.3>38
But now i'm just confused, because I feel like I need time to be by myself for awhile, his timing is just off.....

Megan

 

[elias]

But now i'm just confused, because I feel like I need time to be by myself for awhile, his timing is just off.....

Very good advice to yourself. If the old bf has waited around this long, he can wait around a while longer while you find your own space.

38.6 "Not an enemy, but a partner..." With time and reflection, you gain some objectivity and clarity into yourself, the situation, and other people. Then you will be in a better place to make sense of these relationship issues.

24 - Return. As the title says, you're coming around again in a recurring pattern. Whether this is a good and productive thing or otherwise, only you can decide. Obviously, the better you feel about this, the more optimistic you can be about starting things over.

Hex 62 generally speaks to plotting and planning and contriving, rather than simply letting things unfold in their own time and way. Whether you care to admit it or not, your past experiences -- good and bad -- with this other person are shaping your expectations. You've changed, he's changed; open yourself to discovering the present rather than reacting to the past.

44: Coming to meet. Quite an ambiguous hex, signifying the danger of unexpectedly encountering emotions you thought had been dismissed. On the other, such emotions are productive and creative and quite necessary in the dance of the sexes.

Your resultant hexes make an interesting combo: Chih-hsu (17th Century) says of these: "[24] represents inherent virtue, perceptive insight; in cannot be used right away, so it is like thunder being in the earth, and "the ruler does not inspect the regions." When what is 'parted' from the top (hex 43) goes back to the bottom, this is called Meeting ( hex 44): this represents cultivated virtue, concentration to stop confusion; this can be used effectively, so it is like 'wind under heaven' and 'rulers announce their directives.'"

"By return, you see the heart of heaven and earth; by meeting, you see the greatness of the significance of the time. 'Return' is creative recognition of a great beginning; 'meeting' is receptive action forming beings. 'Return' is skill through knowledge; 'meeting' is power through enlightenment" (Buddhist I Ching. trans Cleary)

Of your final question -- it is difficult, if not impossible, to get into someone else's head. Recasting it as "what are You looking for...." gives a bit of advice on getting an objective view of the situation, setting aside reservations over past experiences and agonizing over what might happen. Leading back to 38 -- getting past misunderstandings.

Wishing you all the best in this.

 

[meganj]

Thanks Elias.. it being a couple weeks since I posted this I now see how true it is!
We have gotten past misunderstandings, I can tell there are still feelings there.. but it has changed.
I still have dreams about him!!
I am not going after him though and neither is he, and I am totally alright with that.. not expecting much but friendship for now.
Anyways thanks again, things are much more clear now.

 

[meganj]

Weeew good ole 38....
There were many obstacles in this connection too many to work through, probably why the return to self is shown here -24.
38.2- informal circumstances? Two ppl by nature who belong together? That may have all been true but...
4- I think this is like a temporary meeting...we shared a moment during this period and connected for a short time.
6- he will woo at the right time... Well I waited nothing happened lol he did a 180 on me and went a different way It wasn't a very consistent connection. He came then he left.
I think I asked the wrong question here lol.
This one basically mirrored what was happening at present, it wasn't telling me what to do or giving me advice... It was just saying hey this person is here with sincere and good intentions.
Nothing else. I was open to communication by reading this, it was alright at that time.
62.2- for some reason when I read this I thought about my ex gary and my
Ex rick... I wasn't with Gary anymore so it was ok to meet with rick and make plans - no mistake!
It just makes sense that you know you go to where you belong and as opportunity presented itself it was with rick....
5- he was the right guy that time because of the connection I knew we had before it was a reliable connection idk....
6- a hit then a miss... Buddy stood me up, I don't know why.... I guess I should've seen it coming In a way...
I was very disappointed but oh well right. I guess my thoughts got too carried away.

Final question: what is he looking for? - 30 -38
Lines 2&3 it was something he wanted, he knew there would be difficulties...
And was caught between going after me or regretting it...

Like I said he ended up not... We had dated when I was 21 I am now 27, every once in awhile like pretty much once or twice a year well make contact... It's weird but I don't think that will ever change.