Ex-loves Reappearing All of A Sudden: 49.3.4>3 and Other Readings

[marybluesky]

Two guys I had the most powerful romantic feelings for in the past have suddenly contacted me in last two weeks, which coincides with the beginning of the solar year [=March 20th], the base of calendar in my country. One contacted me on WhatsApp in the first day of new year. The other has started following me on Instagram one or two weeks ago; I don't know the exact date as I don't use the application very much. Both are single at this time, and seem very eager to see me.

I don't have the strong feelings for them anymore; plus, they didn't put enough effort in our relationships despite being aware of my love for them, and tried to keep me on the limbo, so practically I don't owe anything special to them. At first I was hesitant about resuming these relationships, then I started to look at the situation from a more practical point of view.

As I said in my other post, I'm in a casual relationship with a lovely guy who doesn't intend to commit to me & I don't know where our relationship is going. So the door is open for other lovers to enter the scene. Of course I'm measuring the things logically, even politically, this time. They took my heart for granted in the past, so they have no right to complain.

I'd like to finally have a real boyfriend in my life & want to see if one of the ex-loves [A &P] or my current partner [Sh] can turn into a committed partner for me.

I asked the I Ching these questions:

Potential to form a committed relationship with A in next 6 months: 49.3.4>3
This is the beginning, I can't expect anything serious now, however comes a time when the mandate changes, the trust is established, and there will be good fortune.

Potential to form a committed relationship with P in next 6 months: 41.6> 19
A relationship with him is no mistake, we can get more intimate and it will benefit me in some way, however it doesn't bring me a "home" (committed relationship?).

Potential to form a committed relationship with SH (the current casual partner) in next 6 months: 41.1.2> 23
It confuses me: the first line talks about ending my business, decreasing it; while the second says constancy bears fruit, I can increase it but can't bring order. Then there's 23. I guess: the relationship can continue as it is now, however demanding more commitment will end it.

What do you think?

 

[legume]

well you sure been contemplating a lot on those past relationships lately! (i've read somehwere, i think in some youtube comment, that all this mask wearing could be the next step in our evolution by becoming telepathic ) and what a great way for that weird 19 from the previous thread to realise.

intuitively, somehow, the reading for A looks most promising to me, as if something's already sprouting here. though the hidden line (17.4) seems to be saying to be extra clear this time and that he's not clear at all about what he actually wants. so with 49.3 (also warning about commitment) and and 49.4 (change of the government) i think this says don't expect anything yet and just stay on your path for now.

i feel reading for P is encouraging you to explore this one more. but with servants rather than family or gaining servants but no longer has a separate home i wonder if he's potentially too clingy?

the last one i'm also finding confusing as with any resulting 23 (got it few times recently and still not sure how the situation will resolve so i probably won't be of much help here). so this could go either way. 41.1 says it's worthwhile to be steadfast but not be bold. as he's the one into the open thing, you might as well be completely honest here about the other guys, just don't brag about it. this may make him jealous and to want to pursue this relationship more (while letting go of the other woman) or he'll just show his true colours and let you go.

the line avoiding decrease increases one (Bradford) shows up in both 41.2 (Sh) and 41.6 (P), which i'd consider as let them both make advances, why not. maybe when A eventually finds out he's the 3rd in line, that'll be the smack on the head he needs to make him wanna commit?

 

[Topher]

I agree "P" is the best choice of all of them

 

[marybluesky]

Hi;

I exchanged some messages with P. Seems like he doesn't want anything serious and is just focused on getting physical. I don't know...

 

[Topher]

Well then 41.6 meant he wanted you to serve his own needs sometimes iching might not be clear then. unsure why iching would give such an answer

 

[legume]

41.6 mentions It furthers one to undertake something (Wilhelm) / Worthwhile to have somewhere to go (Bradford) so i'd think it's better to actually meet in person before making any judgment based on texting, especially if the questions pertain to a longer period of time, like half a year... i also think the being of service part relates to him being of service to you somehow, rather than you being of service of him, though i don't see these two as mutually exclusive. the line doesn't seem to be saying anything of serving one's needs, but gaining servants (maybe more like helpers) rather than family / home.

 

[diamant]

About P, the first reading results in 3, which is chaos and confusion.
41.6 - this connection is for benefits, not for a substantial relationship.

 

[marybluesky]

Now we are almost at the end of summer & I tell you what happened:

Potential to form a committed relationship with SH (the current casual partner) in next 6 months: 41.1.2> 23 He acted unstable & I stopped replying him.

Potential to form a committed relationship with P in next 6 months: 41.6> 19 Nothing happened. We exchanged messages but my heart wasn't in it.

Potential to form a committed relationship with A in next 6 months: 49.3.4>3 We confessed feelings and he pulled away after a few days. I said I didn't want to continue like that. We kept on talking but no romantic gestures. Once he asked me to hang out & said will call me the next day. He didn't. After that, he messaged me a couple of time & I didn't respond. Maybe 3 times- as "the call to radical change heard 3 times" in 49.3. I definitely changed the mandate: no romantic feelings, no regrets.