experience with 9.3? got it again!

[philish]

This is a follow up to another thread on multiple readings, and specifically the thoughts we were sharing on 9.3. The other thread is here.

Just finished up my response email, and then asked the YI for an image of what I'd just written. You know, a little feedback.

Got 9.3,5>41

Now I KNOW I threw in a little white lie. Or a half-truth in my note. One of those "polite lies" we use so often in business situations or between people who aren't quite comfortable or intimate with one another. And the Yi told me I'd written a 9.3, but also 9.5. Or perhaps that I had turned a 9.3 situation into a 9.5?

This bugs me because Hilary's WikiWing actually cites an experience when a man used a stolen credit card to pay for readings and when Hilary herself did not prepare well for a performance. The outer appearance did not meet the inner truth. And here I can confirm it with the knowledge of my own intentions.

I'm not attempting to turn my acquaintance into a villain. I don't think I'm one, and I used a polite lie of my own in my note. And I'm not interested in trying to dig the truth from him. The situation does not call for it, and he would definitely shut me out if I tried.

Yet when the question is specifically about sincerity, I think 9.3 points to the lack of it.

Does anyone else have experience with this line? I'd love to hear what you think.

 

[tigerintheboat]

Breakdown in Social Graces

Balkin says of H9.3 that "a breakdown of social graces produces the opposite result ." He is referring to the opposite of good fortune, or poor fortune.

Tiger

 

[philish]

Heh, heh... What, you mean like little white lies or assuming a degree of familiarity with someone that wasn't invited? Those sorts of social faux pas?

I can imagine using a false credit card definitely falls under poor social graces.

But have you any experience with this line, TITB?

 

[tigerintheboat]

Quotes

Heh, heh... What, you mean like little white lies or assuming a degree of familiarity with someone that wasn't invited? Those sorts of social faux pas?

I can imagine using a false credit card definitely falls under poor social graces.

But have you any experience with this line, TITB?

Not much...I wouldn't have quoted Balkin if I had much person to say....I started looking through old readings and so far found only one instance of it, and it was such a complicated answer (4 moving lines) from a question about hiring to build software infrastructure that I couldn't relate it. I never made much sense of the reading at the time....or now either.

Since I have nothing personal, I am reduced to quoting: R. L. Wing says "the opposition appears minor and advance seems possible. Yet the situation is not in your control. If you insist on forging ahead confidently, you will be defeated...."

Tiger

(I like my new acronym, TITB, thanks for inventing it!)

 

[willowfox]

Just finished up my response email, and then asked the YI for an image of what I'd just written. You know, a little feedback. Got 9.3,5>41

Line 9.3 indicates that you invited him to socialize with you but he said that he couldn't do that as he was off and away. Therefore you felt put out and annoyed by his reply but remember it was you that was forcing the pace so to speak.

Line 9.5 this is about a good friendship and it suggests that you need each other which is the correct attitude to have. So, get over your feelings of "hurt" as they only apply to you, nothing was done intentionally by him to upset your applecart, it was the way that you took the message, kind of in a selfish manner.

Hex 41 advises you to control your annoyance, as you have to realize that you may think of yourself as being important but obviously he thinks that his job comes first, which is right. Without a job, there's no money, and without money, one is in trouble.

 

[philish]

Defending my honor here: I was not in any way annoyed with his response as I knew in advance how slim the odds were that he would be available. I even made this clear in the original note.

Rather I was terrified I had screwed up with the invitation and very much afraid I had encouraged him to distance himself. Fear, not annoyance was the operative emotion. What I'm fighting is my own projections. Yes, I need to control my own fear, as it is as likely to harm our friendship as anything. And yes, my thoughts were a little selfish, but I am also genuinely looking forward to seeing this person after almost 20 years of being apart. But I'm a big girl and with a little perspective and help from others, I can regain my patience. There's more at play here than simple disappointment about a ill-timed invitation.

Thank you for commenting, WF. I may not agree with the whole interpretation, but I do appreciate your ideas. You've given me more to think about. And a little shadow side reflection to consider.

 

[adarkana]

I have become very familiar with 9.3 over the past year. It appears whenever a friend of mine & I are out of synch, on the outs with one another, etc. I always "read" that it means I should cool my heels already & let us both get past it.

I do frequently suspect my friend of deceits major & minor, but don't link that to 9.3. As this post is a few weeks old I doubt you are still focused on that "white lie" angle, but just thought I'd attest to not having experienced it that way.

 

[philish]

Thanks, adarkana! This was really useful to come back and see your note, especially after I've had a few weeks to process my feelings about my invitation.

The problem of doubt is all mine, and I am sorting through the origins of my insecurity. I don't have any way right now to confirm the respondent's intentions, so I'm left to trusting the Yi. Out of synch aptly describes the situation between us, and that's a recipe for mistrust. I hope it won't always be this way.

But, yes, thank you for confirming the line with your own experience. I think WF was right from the beginning, but sorting through my fears and arriving at a less emotional conclusion wasn't possible until recently. Happening upon the thread again was a nice bit of serendipity today.