Finally!!

[kdedeaux4]

I am so delighted that after years of troubles with my ex that my heart and spirit have healed enough to open up to having sincere feelings for someone! I've dated here and there (or tried to..hahah), but mostly I've just been a damaged heart trying to heal in a safely protected environment.

Therefore, it was a pleasant surprise to meet a most wonderful gentleman (true thing when you're not looking at all, it happens!). He is a very genuine and kind spirit and I feel very natural and at home with him (at last) yet it still seems to have that exciting chemistry as well. Almost like 2 long lost friends who've known each other all their lives and suddenly get a lovely spark between them. It's just terrific

So, I asked the Iching for insight into this relationship and received:
Hexagram 50.6 --->32 Sounds pretty auspicious (beautiful actually) and I've researched this line around here, but I'd love some thoughts and insights.

The only drawback so far is that he lives pretty far away, but travels here frequently. Yesterday he was much quieter than usual and not being accustomed to the long distance thing, of course I wondered why the sudden quietness. I asked Iching, what's going on with R that's making him suddenly seem so withdrawn?
Response: hexagram 2.2.3. --> 46 This sounds positive, but I can't get a feeling for how it relates to my question and am hoping for some insight?
Thank you all so much
Namaste:bows:

 

[long yi]

Hexagram 50.6 to 32

Your six line layout and analysis explanation in English

出生时间：年　性别：女　
起卦时间：2012年07月14日06时31分
神煞：天乙—酉亥　福星—子戌　日禄—巳　羊刃—午　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：壬辰年　丁未月　丙子日　辛卯时
旬空：午未　　寅卯　　申酉　　午未

六神　 伏神 　　　离宫：火风鼎　　　　　　　　　　震宫：雷风恒
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟己巳火　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　子孙庚戌土　应
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙己未土　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　妻财庚申金　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财己酉金　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟庚午火　　
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财辛酉金　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财辛酉金　世桃花
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛亥水　世　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼辛亥水　　
朱雀　父母己卯木　▅▅　▅▅　子孙辛丑土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　子孙辛丑土　
Line 2 = you. You have him in your mind. He appears in your line. Day of reading is water. He is also water in this reading. You are not sure. Match is there.

Line 5 = him. He often thought of you, in particular, July 4 – Aug 4 2012. You soul appears in his line (soul mate). His character appears in your house of marriage relationship. You consider him very seriously.
You are yang line and he is yin line. Good encounter. 玄武 Fling in line 5 means this is a temporary feeling. It may or may not be permanent in his eyes.

勾陈 in your line. Either you know him for awhile or it seems that you know him for a long time.
Listen carefully to the weak spot in this hexagram:

Line 3 and line 4 are women at the door. They are female, but can be female friends (competitor) or other female in the family (non-competitor, interference). You have to investigate because in your heart, they sit empty under your house of spouse. You assume that they do not exist. You will know in around Aug, probably after Aug 8. They will show.

Here is what I guess: Line 5 (earth) produces line 4 (metal), line 3 is also metal, line 2 is water. Line 4 metal is external (his side female), line 3 female is internal). These two metal gates can block his access to you unless they get out of the way.

This hexagram 50 has three yang lines and three yin lines. It is an ancient wine container with 3 legs. In romance analysis, there are three parties and not two. If you are female, watch for the other female. It does not have to be a competitor (spouse, girl friend), it can also be female family members (daughter, mother, sisters, female friend etc.).

Line 2 and line 5 are in conflict. Both are so called the children line, meaning a source of wealth or your soul or a child or source of happiness. Therefore, there is another issue that is bothering him about this relationship.

Something is hidden under line 1, it is either a real estate asset, or business or parenthood, or even transportation vehicle.

Line 2 is in conflict with line 6 which sets line 6 in motion. Since line 2 is you, line 2 may be his career or another person moving to leave. That move is for the good of the person in line 6 (green dragon).
Due to responsibility of mature individuals, I do not see any commitment for serious intimacy for now (reflected under the hr of the reading). Both parties are mature in thinking.

Hexagram 32 means this relationship has certain requirements.

1. Upper trigram is chen (hard wood), lower trigram is sun (soft wood). Chen is the man and must go out to work. Sun is the female, she must take care of management of the family affairs. Based on the above, the relationship will last.

2. After an intensive passion for love period, the relationship can become normal and boring. Both parties have to work towards it to keep it going. It takes a long time before there is a commitment.
Suggestion: Figure out who is the third party female (ex, current, competitor or non-competitor etc.)
His love towards you is based on the continuity of all your qualities – not just your physical constancy. This is the Iching teaching.

Now, we identify the Tarot equivalency of hexagram 32

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What makes the Ace of Pentacles so special, however, is that it is the card of opportunity. When it comes to love, the Ace of Pentacles suggests that you should get ready to take some chances as luck is surely on your side.

In love tarot readings, the Ace of Pentacles urges you to put yourself out there. If you find yourself invited to an event, this would be the time to go. If you are attracted to someone, you just may want to let them know. If you have just embarked on a new relationship, this can be a period of steady growth and, for those of you who are in a steady relationship, you can expect your connection to your partner to deepen or even be taken to new levels.

When it comes to love, The Ace of Pentacles can represent relationships that are based in shared values and similar ideals. The Ace of Pentacles can also represent material comforts and achievements. Relationships that fall under its influence often represent those that come with some degree of financial security. Because the Ace of Pentacles is associated with abundance in general, it can represent a successful and long lasting relationship.

The Ace of Pentacles is also associated to practicality and stability. When embarking on a new relationship it would be wise to keep your head out of the clouds and consider if your relationship has a solid enough foundation to support future growth. If you feel the relationship is moving too quickly, it might be wise to get to know each other a little better. Taking the time to get to know your partner will help your relationship later on.

In some cases, the Ace of Pentacles can also refer to friendships that blossom into romantic relationships.

Symbol-Half male and half female figure

Meaning- union

At this point both the male and the female are freely generating spiritual, mental, and emotional energy. They each have a strongly developed psychic sense. They each have strongly developed astral bodies and they have each astrally created potential futures for themselves.

They both have a good understanding of the opposite sex and realize that no one can fill the emptiness within themselves. If there is something missing in their lives it is because they themselves have made that choice. No one else can make us complete. We must find completeness within ourselves.
The lesson learned is that when you feel that you need someone of the opposite sex you will never find the right person. Only after you have accepted the loneliness and found peace in a solitary lifestyle will you find the relationship that you seek.
Anyone and everyone is potentially a perfect mate because we are all part of the same universal soul. We are all part of each other. It doesn’t really matter who you have a relationship with if it is a good one.

Male experience:
He is content to live the life of a bachelor and find peace and joy in doing physical activities. Being and doing unite as much as possible and he is able to lose himself in the moment of day to day living.
He discovers the Goddess within himself and seeks to understand more of his feminine nature. He grows above his personal limitations and accepts himself as a sexually attractive person. He understands death and realizes that he is an immortal soul.

Female experience:
She is content to live alone. If she never finds the right man that is okay with her because she has him in her heart. She is a Goddess and life is opening up to her in total aliveness.
She does what she chooses and acts with gentleness and love. She is reborn and realizes once more that sex and male- female relationships are good. She knows that she needs sex for a full and complete life.
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From this reading, it tells me both of you are good persons. Definitely trying to sort things out. Hope that he is available to you and does not belong to another family. In hexagram 50, only two parties exist to the end. One has to take a walk.

It also seems that no one is eager to get married... just happy being alone with a date once in awhile..but life is better with two than one if you find the right person. With line 6, you can do whatever you want.
:bows::bows:

 

[dohara]

Yesterday he was much quieter than usual and not being accustomed to the long distance thing, of course I wondered why the sudden quietness. I asked Iching, what's going on with R that's making him suddenly seem so withdrawn?

hi, I am very happy for you! I am having similar problems sill, and I know how it feels.

Regarding this, did you tried to ask him? I don't think it is good if you don't talk to your new partner but to I Ching about how he feels. And I also don't think that you should concern yourself too much about every shift of mood of your new partner. Sure, it depends how serious it was.

Good luck!
(and in next post question for long yi)

 

[dohara]

long yi,

please tell me, since i had exactly the same reading today, about few hours before. regarding the similar issue (I asked what to expect in future regarding my ex that I still love very much).

Many things you said strikes my situation as well amazingly. Please, tell me, regarding the third person, is it a competitors n any case? Since I am a man, does it mean it is a man? Both of us have another partners in this moment. It seems that there is 4 of us But I would be very glad to return to her. So the third person in my reading is probably her boyfriend. Also, you said, line 2 is you, and line 5 is him. Does this apply in my scenario as well?

And... is there any clue who will most likely walk away out of the 3?

Thank you!

 

[kdedeaux4]

Wow!!

Long Yi,

Thank you so very much for your time and detail in responding!

Your insight is amazing!!! My friend has been divorced for only 2 years and has 3 grown daughters whom he's very close to (I love how important they are to him!!) and he has openly expressed some concern as to how they will feel about him dating, as it seems he has chosen not to date much since his divorce from their mother two years ago. He seems fairly confident that the two oldest daughters will be very happy for him, but the youngest whom he's closest to, he's very concerned as to how she will feel when we tell her. Thus, what you've said makes total sense. I know he adores me, but this is of great concern to him and he's very openly discussed this concern. The other primary issue he has been very open about is the distance issue. His daughters have very clearly told him they do not want him to leave the area where they all live (nor would I want him to). So I know another concern of his is that his daughters will be worried because I'm from his home town and that he might want to move here and he's absolutely certain they would not like that at all!

Your July 4th reference is absolutely correct! He was trying to visit me on July 4th, but couldn't get a flight out until the 5th and he was in constant contact with me that entire day because he was so disappointed he couldn't make it on that very day, so I'm certain I was very much on his mind that very day!

He has asked me to visit him at his home the weekend of August 4,5, and 6. I'm not sure if I'll meet his daughters then or not, but your time frame of this situation with the (three) other *very* important females in his life coming to a head or something around August 8 certainly seems plausible considering my visiting dates. I'm very nervous about that visit...but he invited me and I'm going because he flies here to see me often and I feel it's only fair... Either way, I suppose a great deal will come about from that visit

It does feel like we knew each other forever from the first moment we met. We both feel really great, but strange too, about that. It's comforting, comfortable, anmd oh SO exciting but confusing and "big" all at the same time! You're right, I don't imagine either of us are anxious to remarry anytime soon, so it's a very overwhelming feeling..this strong connection...

It feels though, like this is in contradiction....not a "long lasting" thing, but a solid thing nonetheless....? I'm not too worried about that part just now, but it's a bit confusing?

Again, I'm SO grateful for this wonderful insight you graced me with...you are very gifted!! It makes absolute sense and really helps me to see how deeply concerned about his daughters feelings he is (again, which I only adore about him!)
Thank you so very much!!:bows:

 

[kdedeaux4]

Dohara,
Thank you so much for your thoughts Yes, I have asked him directly about the odd sudden quietness and he very graciously responds that it's "nothing at all". I believe him, but I sense something so I did ask the Iching for greater insight. I have expeienced a great deal of loss in my life recently and he, being such a kind and compassionate soul, might really not want to burden me with his worries. In fact, I'm sure he doesn't! Which is yet another reason I asked the Iching. I keep telling him that I can listen to what he's strugling with, but he very clearly seems to want to protect me from those things. I want to be able to be coscientious and considerate of them if possible, even though he tells me nothing is wrong. So, I asked the Iching for additional insight
Namaste,
~k

 

[long yi]

Reply to dohara

long yi,

please tell me, since i had exactly the same reading today, about few hours before. regarding the similar issue (I asked what to expect in future regarding my ex that I still love very much).

Many things you said strikes my situation as well amazingly. Please, tell me, regarding the third person, is it a competitors n any case? Since I am a man, does it mean it is a man? Both of us have another partners in this moment. It seems that there is 4 of us But I would be very glad to return to her. So the third person in my reading is probably her boyfriend. Also, you said, line 2 is you, and line 5 is him. Does this apply in my scenario as well?

And... is there any clue who will most likely walk away out of the 3?

Thank you!

Dear dohara:

Each hexagram has different 6 line meaning. In six line analysis, the time of the reading (year, month, day and hour) are very important. The gender of the querent is also very important for relationship analysis. Iching is the book of change. Events change by the minute.

Next time, you post a reading with the reading time. I will take a look. You mentioned that you are male. This is good enough for the analysis.

Long Yi:bows:

 

[long yi]

Thank you for the feedback

Line 6 means that he moved to consult his daughters and then decide what to do.
All the best..

Long Yi

 

[dohara]

Dear Long Yi,

I casted another hexagram today (55.2,3,6->38) regarding this. I created a new post since it is out of the topic here.

Here is the post with all the background:
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=15368

I would appreciate much if you take a look.

Thanks! :bows: