Finding my soulmate...

[cris]

Greetings dear Yi friends!

For those of you who have read a couple of previous threads of mine, well, the IC was unsurprisingly right: after a few months of struggling with memories and inner resistance, detachment has come. It’s been a natural process, like the healing of a wound or the decay of an apple. I find myself free – and empty at the same time, as usual after any big enterprise or emotional effort. My life, my thoughts are back in my possession – and although I can’t complain about the pace of my daily existence, I wonder what the purpose is if I can’t share it with a special someone.

I casted a reading a few weeks ago, about how to change to attract my soulmate:
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=10188

A similar yet different question has been crossing my mind in the past couple of days, and the moment to ask just hit me.
“Dear Yi, please tell me, what should I do to find my soulmate?”
The reply: 25.2,6 > 58

Innocence to Joyous. Once again, a reminder to be true to myself, and align my attitude to the will of Heaven – just like Hex. 15 had indicated in the previous reading on this subject. “One does not count on the harvest while plowing, nor on the use of the ground while clearing it…”. It looks like I should move on with my life, taking care of my affairs, without purposely “looking”. Line 6 sends a somewhat consistent message in warning me against untimely action: be patient, hurrying the natural unfolding of events would only bring misfortune. I tend to relate this to the last failed relationship as well: taking it easier would have possibly spared me a lot of grief.

Joyous is translated by Lise as exchange: giving and receiving.
“Thus the superior man joins with his friends
For discussion and practice”.
Rings a bell… the previous reading too had invited me to open up and share more with people.

In a nutshell, in line with the first advise, I should just keep the faith, go with the flow, and try to not only maintain but to also express the inner joy lying inside of me. Overall, it looks pretty auspicious to me.

This is just my quick interpretation. Any other views out there?

Thanks in advance :bows:

Nighty
Cris

 

[iesha]

Hi Cris,

I know I'm not an expert in IC . But in my view I think you got the message from IC very very well. If you start to look, you will not be open for the surprises of destiny.

And, also, you can only bring nice people around you, when you are filling fullfilled with yourself alone first.

Good luck!

Iesha

 

[gato]

25.2 - looks like you are not very interested nor paying much attention to surroundings. use every and each opportunity, be present.

25.3 ....

58 proceed with joy and confidence

 

[willowfox]

Line 25.2 suggests live in the moment, meet men but do it for fun and entertainment purposes, do not keep thinking of a husband.

Line 25.6 suggests that you should not be actively looking for a "husband", because if its going to happen then it will happen in its own sweet time, and if its not going to happen then don't fret about it. You can't make a "soul mate" suddenly appear.

Hex 58 So, in the meantime , just relax and have some light hearted fun.

 

[cris]

Thanks so much for your insights.

Iesha, I really appreciated your contribution and support. You summed it up greatly! The second aspect you point at, especially, sparkles a variety of associations. "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself"... The reality around us is a reflection of ourselves... As I wrote elsewhere on this forum, we have what we want, deep inside. What do I want? is the real question.

Gato, excellent intuition. I usually don't pay too much attention to the environment around me; maybe I should, instead. How about 25.3? It must be a typo, as it's line 6 which is changing...

WillowFox, what's with the "husband" I've spent the last few years of my life declaring my personal marriage-adversity! I had elective affinities on my mind when I asked the question... although, should the right person appear, I guess I could give the big step a second thought. The Yi's message, in your interpretation, sounds like "Carpe diem... seize the day".

Would you agree that the reading is anyway encouraging?

 

[arabella]

I can readily agree with the ideas Willow Fox poses of "living in the moment" and not going forward with fixed ideas. My reasons are a bit different. I know that the idea of "soulmates" is readily discussed and assumed in these times. It is a fairly recent concept from what I understand of it, a bit trendy. Frankly, I don't believe in it at all because it presupposes ONE person you have to find, the human needle in a haystack. There are so many types and varieties of connections that translate into lifelong relationships that are beneficial. There is no evidence I know of that makes someone a "soulmate" versus a truly good friend. And you can have so many of those. In short, I would avoid the idea of soulmate -- generally considered to be that one individual in the world who fulfills something special, as you do for them. There is an infinite variety of great relationships out there. Maybe this is the innocence, the openness the iChing is recommending for you with Hex 25? Live with your eyes open, pay attention, be flexible and just enjoy. Maybe not narrowing your mentality to a "soulmate" ideal is important? Without such an agenda it seems to me there is far more possibility of Joy in Hex 58 and finding out that in billions of people there are easily as many options for happiness.

 

[cris]

Thanks Arabella. Yes, the idea of a soulmate is naive, and does not really deliver what I had in mind. I've used this expression mainly because I found it in the suggested questions on this site, and didn't bother translating it into my native language - where we have exactly the same, which at my age I would never think of using!!!

My last relationship, in all it's sadness, has sort of awaken my need for love, making me look at my life - once fulfilling even being single, or maybe more so being single - from a totally different perspective. So I find myself thinking how much a special relationship would improve it. A companion would be the closest definition I could quickly come up with - if not for life, hopefully long term. A friend and a lover. I find this desire a positive change. By nature, I tend not to limit possibilities, hence no pre-requirements as to age, status, looks or personality - just sex (I'm flexible but not "that" flexible). Let's hope the double lake brings at least some of the billions people up!

 

[cris]

I've spent the last few years of my life declaring my personal marriage-adversity!

Oops... I obviously meant marriage-aversion. I guess "marriage-adversity" was a freudian slip... hopefully not an involuntary prophecy