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[vasanta]

My love relationship seems to be at a crossroads. Our differences have come to the surface after some time we managed to spend together.I would say there is a strong attraction of some sort,fascination maybe, not easy to define , a bit of a mystery to us both.We are both intelligent , artistic and very sensitive.Love is something that can hurt us both very much. He is diverced, I am still in a relationship , which is not overly bad but lacks sparks. Always had.
So, there is a man, there is affection of a mysterious kind , which means it probaly should not exist taking into consideration the difficulties we have had to come across.

I asked IC about the diagnosis of the relationship .

The answer is : 40.2>16

So, there are those famous 3 foxes to face, which i interpreted as being some blockages, problems between us that we have to sort out in order to release the tension in the relationship, and then see which way to turn.

The enthusiasm of hex 16 being the outcome or the atmoshere in which the process should take place? I mean, should i feel enthusiastic about the results?

I also asked IC about his views in the matter.

i got: 63.1.6 > 53

He seems to be taking it slowly, and wanting to leave something behind him, like the past problems or ...wanting a change.Not sure about that.

My position in the relationship: 38 unchanged.

And again: does it indicate my opposition , difficulty in letting go, or it suuggests i should keep my individuality at all costs, go step by step, gradually let go of the opposing tendencies? In short: am I one of the" foxes", the obModesty herestacles to overcome?

So i asked:
What is the best course of action now? I got 15.1.2.5 >5

Sounds like taking energoc,objective but smooth and very trithful, sincere steps to take.
Bur why wait (hex 5) ,isn't it contradictory.

Or: I should wait for his initiative in this specific "clarifying" situation?

Any helpul insights ? I would appreciate any hints as i am getting ready for the final resolutions.

Vasanta

 

[willowfox]

I asked IC about the diagnosis of the relationship .

The answer is : 40.2>16

The 3 foxes suggest your negative attitude that has to be overcome if you want to make a real go of this relationship, you need to be decisive in your actions and attitude, and hex 16 is saying that if you want him to indeed be excited//interested then it is down to you to arouse that enthusiasm in him by projecting it yourself. No soldier wants to follow a pessimist general.


i got: 63.1.6 > 53

It shows that he wishes to be very cautious and do the right thing but in doing this he is failing to get on with the relationship, he needs a wake up call to get more involved in the relationship then real progress will be made.

My position in the relationship: 38 unchanged.

It suggests that you are also holding progress up by your doubts and mistrust, you need to find a way to better cooperate with him, there is a need for an understanding between you, you need to get off the fence and start making a move.

 

[my_key]

What is the best course of action now? I got 15.1.2.5 >5
/QUOTE]

15.1 - Give up your negative thoughts and actions. Stay in your own space. Make no demands of the relationship. Allow a cooling off period.

15.2 - Let go of your ego. Be true to yourself - understand what is really going on here and decide what you really want. Act accordingly.

15.5 - Once you have made your mind up about what you want. Stand your ground. Be strong and firm, no matter what others may say. Stay calm and courteous. Do everything in a nice way.

5 - There may well be a stormy interlude. Rest assured, the things that you really need will come to you in time. However, you may need to wait a while.

Take Care

Mike

 

[kamiko]

Interesting guidelines and I am much obliged to both of you.Willofox showed me something relevant about who is following who , as I am used to being rather passive in love/courting issues.Throwing myself on men or pushing too hard is not my strongest point i would say, althoug I might sometimes do it when I feel that there is masculine pride involved.But on the whole it is still the old school I tend to follow,i.e. it is the man who drives the car, so to speak.So, when Willofox used that dashing imagery of a soldier , meaning my partner , following a pessimistic general, who would be me, then I had the aha! thing and felt the "fox".What I want to say is that I did not expect , and probably do not want to be the one in command Maybe I should take turn, something to work on, anyway.

Mike, your key as how to proceed and implicitly what to expect sounded like genuine support given to a beginner, thank you very much.As a result of the advice I have just received from you both ,I asked IC : What is the picture of the relationship with me that would reflect my partner's desire? The answer is 59.4>6 . Dispersion and Conflict.
My, my! I had the feeling that he is giving up something that is within reach, might be the relationship itself, wants to be impartial, which could mean leaving it up to me (that would make things really difficult to me). And hex 6 ,the Coflict, is something that I can interpret in two ways: either line 6 of hex 59 shows his way of avoiding/solving the Conflict ( say,my still being in a relatioship), or we are supposed to face the music.

What would you say, am I at least close to IC's message? Can I still count on your insight? Would be wonderful.

Vasanta

 

[kamiko]

Yea gus, that's me. I needed time to mature and to reveal some aspects, you se. Hope that will make things easier now Sorry fot that.

 

[my_key]

Mike, your key as how to proceed and implicitly what to expect sounded like genuine support given to a beginner, thank you very much.As a result of the advice I have just received from you both ,I asked IC : What is the picture of the relationship with me that would reflect my partner's desire? The answer is 59.4>6 . Dispersion and Conflict.

Vasanta
Thank you.:bows: I always try to be supportive in the posts I make. Remember though that these "answers" are given through my filters. You really should be spending time looking for the answers through your filters. Take time with each reading you get. Let it mature like a good wine - then you will get the best taste from it. Do not be tempted to open a fresh bottle too quickly.

The picture of the relationship he desires is:
59.4 - He wants a type of relationship that is free of rigid structures, ties, obligations etc. Something about the relationship needs to change, be given up in the short term so that something better can come out of it for you both in the future. Neither of you may be able to see this at the moment.
This could lead to a quarrelsome future.
I'd suggest that you spend a bit of time really trying to understand what is going on here. Re-read the interpretations in this thread and sit quietly and think through what might be going on. Try to see past the barrage of thoughts that are in your head right now.

Take Care

Mike

 

[kamiko]

Salut ! all is right and especially your discretion Pearls have been collected from beneath my feet, my lesson .Transparency ,if not deliberate , forces its way somehow.

May seem hot the water i like to bathe in , but being face to face with IC for a long time makes one panic at one time or another Turning the tap off and taking the last sip already made me float rather than hurl Tenderness has been able to operate,btw me and him online, some minutes ago.Dispersion, hopefully leading to somrthing new that has been awaited .
Just let me add that your clue that neither of us might be entailed to see ahead right now is a stroke of genius , thank you very much.
Vasanta

 

[my_key]

My pleasure:bows: