Friendship

[Lodestar]

There is a friendship I had last year, that really bugs me, as I don't know what caused it to dissolve.

I asked why it did and got 55.1.3.6 - 35

It was a case of this person seeking me out and making a connection. We got along great, laughed a lot and I just don't understand why she just backed out completely. Maybe as I often do, I imposed qualities on her she doesn't posess. Or her life is just really not great at this time and it leaves her with little energy or desire for connections. Though I am older and more adventurous, artistic, liberated etc, perhaps we really don't have much in common.

How does she see me? 39.6 - 53

I will come back in a bit and try analyse, but any help also most appreciated.

 

[sooo]

To be taken with..

55 - You were her sunshine
1. You were inseparable
3. You became eclipsed as her priority
6. She screened you off

35 - She desired to progress in ways that did not include you

39 Rely upon only yourself
6. Leave it behind you, don't go there

53 - Abide with your dignity and move on to higher ground

To Auld Lang Syne

 

[Lodestar]

Thank you Sooo, I find that so hard to swallow though. I'm very much of the vein of if we're friends I will maintain that friendship, unless there is a good reason to stop it, like bad behaviour.

But so many people are so shallow and self-serving. I'm still getting fooled by believing their overtures of friendship and then disappointed when it turns out they are just another person who will drop you the minute you are not useful to them.

How can I protect myself and judge people more accurately? How can I stop giving my affection away so easily?
53.5 - 52

'When moving forward it is common to separate from old friends'. I guess that's just the nature of things. I've got to accept change and not interpret it negatively. It is probably a positive sign I've lost this friend. She is in fact very stuck in her life.. I'm skilled at finding a way to make myself wrong. Maybe it's all just fine!

Think I'll have that tequila now.

 

[sooo]

53.5 does leave hope for reconciliation down the road, but not much to be done about it now.

Salute! ¡Salud! 干杯！

 

[bamboo]

Sometimes friendships naturally reach their peak; life changes and so do the dynamics of relationships...and it represents natural progress and change, even though letting go can be a bit sad. It doesn't have to mean forever, and it doesn't mean you stop loving them. You did nothing wrong. A most beautiful book on amazon kindle is Letting Go: The art Of Surrender. David Hawkins. Can't recommend it highly enough, it is quite magical and enlightening