harassment 42 unchanging

[Olga Super Star]

Hallo there

A guy I barely know wrote on my facebook page "Sooner or later I will **** you".

Now this was quite shocking. My page is public, I have 1thousand friends, anyone could see that comment, and we hadn't seen each other for months (we met at work but neither of us work there any longer). We hadn't even spoken to each other for at least a month.

So that makes me think he's one of those

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...hy-do-people-want-to-destroy-me-63-unchanging

that's what I meant by saying that people seem to want to destroy me!
I have noticed that he was interested in me, I went out with him twice, the first time there was also a friend of him, the second time it was just the two of us but we went out just as friends, just to have a walk in the city during the summer when no one was around! There was no dinner or movie or romantic stuff like that. There wasn't anything really. Just going out to take some fresh air at the end of a sunny day.

So I've asked
Why has he written that comment? 42 unchanging
because he's without limits and rules?

Since I have the impression that he would not have dared to write the same thing to somebody else's profile I've asked

What is my responsibility in this? 49.1.6>33
That I changed my attitude towards him withdrawing?
well there are reasons why I withdrew. But that doesn't entitle him to attack people.

He had already done something like that (though not so unpleasant and direct) years ago, and I had banned him at the time. Then I met him again last spring, he was with his 9 month pregnant fiance, apologised for having being so silly, so I readded as a friend. And since he was a funny kind guy I went out with him and his friend last summer, and everything was just normal.

Apart from the fact that he started to attack me publicly on my facebook page about any discussion or comment I would make! Till this comment here.

Now I'm asking Yi a suggestion to how I can avoid such things in the future 45.6>12

45 is gathering
mmh..
I got 45 unchanging when asking about whether a certain theatre show would be good for me. I interpreted it as "it will be a place where you will meet many people". here honestly I am lost


any help will be aprpeciated

 

[goddessliss]

You can change your settings on your facebook page so you can review what others try to put on your timeline.

 

[1eleven]

He sure sounds like a gentleman and a scholar!

 

[Trojina]

Why has he written that comment? 42 unchanging
because he's without limits and rules?

It doesn't matter in practical terms why he did it. All that matters is how you deal with it. Sure how you deal with it might depend on why he did it...but you won't get always get a clear answer about other's motives since Yi is a guide for you. I mean you can ask what you want I just think asking why someone does something can be an ineffective question.

Anyway I would look at the Image here ....er from memory it is along the lines of 'where one sees good one strives to follow that, to improve'. I think the answer asks you not to dwell on why he did it...try to focus on the positive.

Also, call me naïve but I don't know what the blanked word is here

A guy I barely know wrote on my facebook page "Sooner or later I will **** you".

is it 'fcuk you ?
'kill you '?


or something more benign

Since I have the impression that he would not have dared to write the same thing to somebody else's profile I've asked

What is my responsibility in this? 49.1.6>33
That I changed my attitude towards him withdrawing?
well there are reasons why I withdrew. But that doesn't entitle him to attack people.

Your responsibility ? er....have you looked around the world lately ? Do you think you are the only woman to get this kind of thing ? Linking to this I came across the other day...it's happening all the time so you must not feel personally responsible http://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...houting-back-women-fighting-street-harassment



Just withdraw and do what Liss said...block him from your facebook page.

No of course he isn't entitled to attack you...block him. The answer looks a bit like 'shedding him' by withdrawing...ie changing your privacy settings or better still closing your facebook account.

Now this was quite shocking. My page is public, I have 1thousand friends,

A thousand facebook friends and most of them you will know nothing about...so out of a thousand people one or two of them is likely going to want to be nasty/abusive etc etc....that's the internet for you. Quit facebook or make it more private.

Also re the 42, focus on the positive comments from facebook.....let all the friendly positive comments fill your mind right up. Don't dwell on this negativity....just shut him out.

 

[ginnie]

In hexagram 42, the I Ching urges us to imitate people in whom we see good, and seek to erase the errors we see in ourselves. It doesn't mention seeing bad in other people. And the I Ching will hardly ever confirm our feeling that someone else is in the wrong.

Can you block him and then ignore this incident?

 

[Olga Super Star]

Thank you all, yes I have blocked him! and no, facebook is just too important, I can't close it down.

I was just wondering WHY he did that because I think it's something to do with the way he perceives me, I am quite sure he wouldn't have done that to other people. He has been provoking but not everyone is provoking with anyone!

I once lived with a guy that used to put his feet and boots on the table while I was having my dinner, laughing like a pig, which was also appalling to me at the time as he had apparently no reason to do that.

ANd more appalling it was to discover that he had never done such thing with the girl that lived with him the previous year (whom I knew, so I asked her if that was his usual habit to do it. She was shocked too)

So that's it! I was wondering why this always happens to me. But if Yi doesn't answer this sort of questions it's ok.

The word is **** but if I write it it gets automatically ****
F and then U and then C and then K

Thank you all of you