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Hello everyone!
As my saga continues, my husband asked me to move back with him, stop living in separate households and try to work things out by living together.
I asked "why he offered that?" And got 64 unchanging.
Then I asked IChing to comment on my decision to move in with him and got 27.6>24.
He wants me to be his nourishment in figurative and direct meaning of the word.
Then I asked "what is the responsibility connected with me moving back with him and received 64.1.2.4>27. This on puzzles me.
How can you comment on this!? I'm trying to figure out what real reason are behind this offer.
Is there any signification that he really wants to work things out between us?
Also, when can I ask Yi for an update on our situation. A month, a week from now? Or after something significant happens!
Thank you thank you thank you!
For all your patience and support!
Vikk
 

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I'm still an amateur but I'll have a go. But for the record, I haven't read any of your other posts (I am guessing there are more because you said saga) so perhaps I am missing context...

I asked "why he offered that?" And got 64 unchanging.
He isn't ready to end the relationship yet. He wants to keep trying.

Then I asked IChing to comment on my decision to move in with him and got 27.6>24.
In my book 27.6 looks good. Good advice, looks promising. "One who truly emulates the Sage gains a position of great influence. If you lead others now as the Sage leads you, great things will be accomplished." And it is attached to hex 24, which just reflects your situation but nothing seems to be blocking or opposing it. I would say either the relationship works or you get valuable closure, sounds good.

"what is the responsibility connected with me moving back with him and received 64.1.2.4>27
Line 1 is a good warning - "there is temptation to try to make rapid progress, An unbalanced enthusiasm only leads to failure and humiliation. Innocent non action is adviced at this time." Very straight forward.
Line 2 - "it is time to wait, but you must not lose sight of the goal. To rescue yourself and others, stay tuned to inner truth. Do not indulge in egotistical fantasies now."
Line 4 speaks of a struggle and has a very important warning - "to waver from what is correct in thought or action is to risk losing all you have gained."
All of this seems like befitting advice to someone in your position. By moving back you have a huge responsibility - doing things right, no matter how much time and effort they will take (and there WILL be challenges).

As for asking the I-ching on updates... I would almost recommend NOT doing it (at least not unless something major happens) because it is very likely thye will be contradicting. Even if we don't think of the I-ching for a second, we forget it exists, in life when a couple is trying to reconcile and make their marriage work... there will be moments when leaving will seem like the right now and moments when there are good breakthroughs.

Anyways, I hope someone else gives you better wiser advice. Best of luck! :)
 

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Hi Cathalina!
Thank you for your response.
I know that you are going through your own turmoil right now, but nevertheless you found time and effort to reply on my post. Thank you again!
As for my lines.
I'm not very enthusiastic about everything because I feel like he offered me to move back out of convenience. We lived separately for a while, lately I started staying at his place, cooking, cleaning, etc. I think he just want me to move in with him so I could take care of the chores and half of all the bills. I feel he didn't offer that to me because he really wants to be with me and have our marriage work out. Maybe it is line 1 in 64 manifesting itself. ))) I'm eager to have a fast progress which I don't see and get really anxious.
Plus, I do not see desirable enthusiasm on his part about our relationship. And this again leaves me smitten.
Really, not sure what to bet money on? Moving back with him and try to make it work or just leave and end this marriage.
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Hey guys!
Just wanted to give a quick update on 27.6.
So the line was saying that YOU are going to be someones nourishment. And if you are up for that, fortune will come.
When he offered me to move in with him, I was very reluctant. I had a feeling in my stomach that his offer was not sincere. Thing is, we lived separately, but starting christmas I started appearing in his apartment and taking care of him - cleaning, cooking, be supportive with kind word, etc. He was very pleased, but still I felt distance in him and no warmth therefore reluctance to move back in. I felt at some point that I was merely his maid. 27.6 was right on spot - I was his "nourishment" figuratively and literally. I was ready to play this role, thinking that if I stick around long enough, he will warm up and appreciate my effort and good fortune manifest itself (cuz all of that was to show him even on this basic level that I want relationship to work) ad we get back together.
Yesterday, (call me crazy, and Trojina if you reading this you are right about 47 from my previous post that I find it hard to believe what he says) I went through his phone and found conversation with his friend where my husband was saying that I was moving back in and now he has half rent and chores taken care of, giving himself pat on a back what a great job he did.
Really, someone's nourishment.
But what about part of good fortune? Is it still coming or not? Should I stick to this role even though I know what it is all about. Or good fortune for me is that found out and these findings could help me to make a decision to divorce him.
I REFUSE to believe that he is such a conniving person. I almost feel like he got possesed under the influence of his as**** friend. What happened to that person who I married 6 years ago? Where did that sweet guy go?
I do not want to get divorced, I DO truly believe that people make mistakes and can regret making them and that there is a possibility of a clean start. I beleive in the good in the person. How do I return that sweet guy? How do I get rid of this monster?
 
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It doesn't necessarily mean because you don't become his nourishment(as he sees it re the discovery of his phone conversation) that you have to divorce him.
You found it that's good fortune - as I've said before stop thinking about him and how you can work it out, work on yourself and see if that attracts to back to the loving relationship you've had with him.
My own story comes into this of course - all I wanted to do was make my marriage of 15 years of more work out where is was crumbling down at a rapid rate. We lived separately for 2 years and it was on and off again that many times it shook us all up emotionally - in the end I couldn't stand it as I loved him so very much and I moved back in with him at his abode - our home had been sold. Nothing had changed and after 5 months I moved out again, he found someone else and I said "I don't want anything to do with you again, if we're not married I don't wish to create any other sort of relationship with you".
I continued to work on myself and I didn't set eyes on him up close and personal after about 5 and half years and we had very minimal phone contact in that time which was only to talk about our children.
Whilst it took me a long time to get over the breakup I'm so very glad I continued to work on myself and not focus on him or his relationship with another.
Do yourself a favour, get on with your own stuff and see what happens. - Liss
 

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