health questionnaire

[diidii]

guys i know i am doing a lot of posts but and just to calm down tomorrow i will call the doctor right away
do i have hiv? hexagram 59.1>61
do i have hepatitis? 38.1.5>6
do i have hpv? 55.1>62
do i have herpes? hexagram 22.5>37

 

[Trojina]

Stop - you won't know anything about that by postinghere and your last thread only made things worse for you. That just got silly IMO

Just put it away and calm down for goodness sake. You swallowed some semen right ? The chances of you contracting anything from that are quite low I'd think. No point getting hysterical about things that will never happen and certainly no use asking people the impossible to tell you whether you have HIV or not . We don't know, no one knows so do something else until you have your Drs advice.

 

[diidii]

Stop - you won't know anything about that by postinghere and your last thread only made things worse for you. That just got silly IMO

Just put it away and calm down for goodness sake. You swallowed some semen right ? The chances of you contracting anything from that are quite low I'd think. No pint getting hysterical about things that will never happen and certainly no use asking people the impossible to tell you whether you have HIV ot not . We don't know, no one knows so do something else until you have your Drs advice.

you are absolutely right do you believe me i am hypochondriac from birth and only a way to calm down because I've been crying for two days. you're absolutely right believe me i'm hypochondriac from birth and just a way to calm down because i've been crying for two days. could you tell me something about the questionnaire just to make me feel more calm please?

 

[diidii]

I didn't swallow the cum (I threw it all out) I think

 

[Trojina]

I can't just make stuff up about the answers.

What are you really upset about ? It may not be what you think. Maybe you are more upset about the encounter than the possible consequences. I do doubt you have caught anything.


You don't even know that he had any kind STD, you could ask him I guess ? Yes why not talk to him, get reassurance from him ?

 

[diidii]

I can't just make stuff up about the answers.

What are you really upset about ? It may not be what you think. Maybe you are more upset about the encounter than the possible consequences. I do doubt you have caught anything.


You don't even know that he had any kind STD, you could ask him I guess ? Yes why not talk to him, get reassurance from him ?

and what could it be? I have been torturing my brain for two days, help me at least until tomorrow I will contact the doctor

 

[Trojina]

Can you talk to the man in question.

 

[Trojina]

I think you may be freaking out about the encounter more than the risk of disease.

Where is this man and why is he not comforting you.

 

[diidii]

Can you talk to the man in question.

I feel very embarrassed to tell him about it

 

[Trojina]

Why it's his problem.

I mean it's a really fcuked up value system if it's not embarrassing to give him a blow job but you feel you can't share your worries with him. Not saying your value system but the screwed up system in the world that pretends sex has nothing to do with feelings or intimacy or care.
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[diidii]

Why it's his problem.

I mean it's a really fcuked up value system if it's not embarrassing to give him a blow job but you feel you can't share your worries with him. Not saying your value system but the screwed up system in the world that pretends sex has nothing to do with feelings or intimacy or care.
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and what should I tell him? I think you have any disease because I am hypochondriac and I think I have caught all the diseases in the world? I started having fears ever since I got that pain in my mouth right on the palate, my mother says it's stomatitis

 

[Trojina]

and what should I tell him? I think you have any disease because I am hypochondriac and I think I have caught all the diseases in the world? I started having fears ever since I got that pain in my mouth right on the palate, my mother says it's stomatitis

You wouldn't say 'I think you have a disease' you'd say something like 'I'm really worried can you help put my mind at rest' 'I'm really worried, I can't help it, is there any reason I'd need to get tested ?'.


I mean you do see that you've gotten as physically intimate with him as it gets, I mean in many ways oral sex is more intimate than intercourse, it's crazy that having shared your mouth with his penis you can't also share your worries with him just as you are, no pretence.


He will be able to help you a lot more than us that's for sure.

Maybe you are crying over the fact you can't ask him because he doesn't care enough or you feel he doesn't care enough or if it's usual for you that it's perfectly usual for him or anyone not to care.

He bloody well should care, it's his job to care, it's his problem.



Possible guiding factor in the future is if you think a man isn't going to care enough about you to want to reassure you about risk of disease he really isn't worth having any sex with.

 

[diidii]

You wouldn't say 'I think you have a disease' you'd say something like 'I'm really worried can you help put my mind at rest' 'I'm really worried, I can't help it, is there any reason I'd need to get tested ?'.


I mean you do see that you've gotten as physically intimate with him as it gets, I mean in many ways oral sex is more intimate than intercourse, it's crazy that having shared your mouth with his penis you can't also share your worries with him just as you are, no pretence.


He will be able to help you a lot more than us that's for sure.

Maybe you are crying over the fact you can't ask him because he doesn't care enough or you feel he doesn't care enough or if it's usual for you that it's perfectly usual for him or anyone not to care.

He bloody well should care, it's his job to care, it's his problem.



Possible guiding factor in the future is if you think a man isn't going to care enough about you to want to reassure you about risk of disease he really isn't worth having any sex with.

but sorry but where did you manage to draw the conclusion that I did not speak to him because he does not care? I just didn't do it so as not to accuse him of something I'm not sure about

 

[Trojina]

It wasn't a conclusion it was a suggestion about the reason you are so upset. You know sometimes what we think we are upset about isn't really what we are upset about. All it was was oral sex you have no particular reason to think you have some dreadful disease.

If he does care then for goodness sake talk to him.

Why do you think you have to accuse him ? You don't have to accuse him you can simply ask him and if it's difficult then explain just the way you have here

you are absolutely right do you believe me i am hypochondriac from birth and only a way to calm down because I've been crying for two days. you're absolutely right believe me i'm hypochondriac from birth and just a way to calm down because i've been crying for two days. could you tell me something about the questionnaire just to make me feel more calm please?

So we all have our oddities and our bits of madness you can explain yours is hypochondria. Surely that way you aren't accusing him you are just asking him for reassurance.

If he can't reassure you

1. why are you even with him ?

2. there is no Yi cast that will depict what disease you may or may not have so no one here can tell you.



However as someone else explained the chances of contracting HIV this way are fairly remote. Hepatitis ? You really are thinking the worse aren't you....Just Google and you will probably see that you will be absolutely fine. I can't say for sure you'll be fine of course but neither can I say you have any of these diseases.



For today you can take it that you are fine, nothing happened yet and then tomorrow you can go and talk to a counselor at an STD clinic or whatever clinic is appropriate. I would imagine you would get a fair amount of reassurance as well as the appropriate checks.

 

[Trojina]

From the other thread this is useful advice

Hi Diidii,

This is non I ching related, just general advice. The chances of contracting HIV in the situation you described are very, very, VERY low. On the other hand, I think it's a nice opportunity for you to check where are your boundaries, what do you feel relaxed to do, and what makes you feel insecure sex-wise. If having unprotected oral sex is fine, as long as your partner doesn't ejaculate in your mouth, then trust your feelings and draw the boundary there. Use this situation to explore what makes you feel safe or not and then draw the boundaries for the future.

About the test: Did you think just to ask him?

In the long run, it is always good to be tested, not only for HIV but for other STDs. But to be anxious because you may be infected I feel a bit of a far stretch. Just relax and take a deep breath.

I mean this isn't only about what disease you may or may not have it's surely about the situation you were in as explained above. Surely that matters more for the future, that you decide what feels safe to you and what doesn't and that you don't end up doing things that make you feel scared and alone.

 

[diidii]

From the other thread this is useful advice







I mean this isn't only about what disease you may or may not have it's surely about the situation you were in as explained above. Surely that matters more for the future, that you decide what feels safe to you and what doesn't and that you don't end up doing things that make you feel scared and alone.

thank you and others for your help. I chatted and expressed my doubts to this person and he told me to be calm and that in any case the contagion occurred in that way is very low. tomorrow I will go to the doctor for the pain in the mouth and as always I will update you

 

[Trojina]

any updates ?

 

[marybluesky]

The casts don't seem like you've any of those diseases.
Have you taken the tests?

 

[diidii]

any updates ?

I went to the doctor for the examination of the mouth and nothing came out (for the other tests) I read that you have to wait a while to do them because false negatives can come out if done suffered

 

[Trojina]

'If done suffered' what does that mean

 

[diidii]

'If done suffered' what does that mean

if done immediately after an alleged infection