Help please: 28.1.5>34

[meenimishimu]

Hello,

I am stumped about a reading I have received regarding my next steps. I am currently separated from my husband, and am considering taking a position abroad. In order to do that, one of the two of us would need to relocate in order to establish residency for divorce in a no-fault state. Complications are such at the moment that it is not easy for either of us to move.

When I asked about whether to sign the contract (have to decide soon) I got 53.4 > 33.
When I asked if my husband should move, I got 28.1.4.6 > 9.
When I asked what was in both our best interests, I got 28.1.5 > 34.

I should also admit that I have difficulty accepting the divorce, even though I realize the relationship is untenable.

I feel like I'm getting mixed messages of take action and wait.

Any thoughts?

Thank you.

 

[sooo]

Hello meenimishimu,

I think the emotional intensity is what's being pointed out to retreat from. Part of you wants to keep it together, the other part sees it as futile to go on the way you have been. I'm seeing strength in 34 as what is needed, but also not feeling as desperate, but being clever: finding or creating a way (perhaps jointly), which allows you both to work toward your common interest. Whether that means relocating, and the details of no-fault divorce, I don't know. It looks pretty mixed up to me, and you seem to be like a goose in a tree: out of your comfort zone, but able to mange footing. But to do so, you first need to retreat from the overwhelming feeling of it all.

It would be great if you two have that going on. Two cooperative heads can be better (more practical) than one. It is the nature of geese to maintain long family ties, and 53 is related to a flock of geese, which fly together as one.

This is something I normally wouldn't advise, but it appears to me as though you stay married for practical reasons, until such time as you both are 'set up' individually enough to legally divorce without it hurting your individual futures.

 

[gato]

When I asked about whether to sign the contract (have to decide soon) I got 53.4 > 33.

is not a suitable place for you but it could be a good thing for awhile

 

[meenimishimu]

Thank you both for the feedback.

As for the contract, that does seem true. It would be a two year teaching contract in the Middle East teaching in the public school system rather than an international school. There are definitely draws, but I also have my hesitations.

As for my husband, it's tricky. He had agreed to relocate before, but did not follow through. However, the I Ching assured me on a previous reading that things are progressing as they are meant to and to stay out of the way.

It's hard to stay out of the way when I have so many decisions to make, particularly when I cannot rely on my husband to act with any degree of certainty.

Every time I do a reading for any of the upcoming changes, I get be patient and wait...which for now, does entail being married. The above advice to disengage emotionally is very appropriate for me. I am way too entangled in both my husband and in trying to solve the situation quickly and to my liking. I faced significant medical challenges this past year and am ready to move on with my life...but it doesn't look like it's time.

Thanks again for your input. It helps to shed light on what is a confusing situation and a complicated reading.

 

[willowfox]

When I asked about whether to sign the contract (have to decide soon) I got 53.4 > 33. No not suitable at this time, so it suggests not for you to sign the contract but to look elsewhere for something more appropriate as regards to your divorce proceedings.


When I asked if my husband should move, I got 28.1.4.6 > 9. No he won't.