help please - pretty fed up

[carrie]

Just did an online reading. Asked if I should give up on my relationship. Got 29 Abysmal unchanging.

So water flowing- is that a yes or a no?

When I asked what were the prospects of us having a relationship I got 35 changing to 16 - so progress and enthusiasm.

I have no idea what all this means. I feel at a loss and so very sad. If there was hope in all this - even though it seems impossible, I would see some light. Can anyone help interpret this for me?

 

[icastes]

29 is rather bad for marriage or love. If you are interested in him for marriage, then it is not an ideal match with very little chance for success. The man may have been married before and is not of one mind for marriage at this time. If the question is about love (not marriage and don't forget that love and marriage have nothing to do with each other), there are too many ordeals to go through and thus very little chance for success. It seems to me that the very way you have framed this question is one of ordeal. So, yes, give him up. But 29 makes it very hard to move forward or backwards. 29 also speaks of being able to get through these ordeals and to have faith that things will be better.

 

[Tohpol]

Just did an online reading. Asked if I should give up on my relationship. Got 29 Abysmal unchanging.

So water flowing- is that a yes or a no?

When I asked what were the prospects of us having a relationship I got 35 changing to 16 - so progress and enthusiasm.

I have no idea what all this means. I feel at a loss and so very sad. If there was hope in all this - even though it seems impossible, I would see some light. Can anyone help interpret this for me?

I don't know the complexities of your relationship of course, but here are my 2 cents:

Asked if I should give up on my relationship. Got 29 Abysmal unchanging.

29 is about difficult situations that we often couldn't avoid i.e. they are learning experiences that help us grow. No one's fault, it just is what it is but how you meet the challenge is key. So, you have to deal with it and now is the time to do that and in a careful, methodical way. No hasty moves. Listen to your deepest intuition on this and let the solution slowly emerge. You may have been "in the pit" for some time, either in your inability to perceive things correctly and /or actual external conditions.

what were the prospects of us having a relationship I got 35 changing to 16 - so progress and enthusiasm.

This talks about reaching for progress too hastily and thereby creating problems. Just do what is necessary now and don't charge at it like a bull. Look deep inside yourself and regain your emotional balance as best you can. See yourself objectively as possible, your part in the relationship, why you are at this juncture and what part you played in it. Slowly you'll see things clearly and be able to make the decision necessary to repair it together, or to move on.

 

[diamanda]

Should you give up - 29, not really, even if you do give up, the same
issue will turn up again with someone else in the future. So try to
find what you can do to correct things here. Or this could mean
that even if things do get better between you two, the problem
will still arise time after time.

Prospects of relationship, 35, changing line 6, into 16 - there's
some detail you're getting wrong in the whole issue. There's
something you need to correct in yourself, an illusion perhaps.
Are you after an illusion in relationships? (just a guess...) Are
you perhaps waiting for a perfect human being to come along?
(yet another guess, i might be totally wrong here).

And yet again as a guess, perhaps if you stay truthful (29) and
correct yourself first (35:6), then why not - the vast majority of
relationships are based on difficulties anyway. I'd say hang in
there and do your best, there's still hope.

 

[carrie]

Thank you to everyone. Lcastes - yes I was in a negative mood and the question was probably framed incorrectly.

Topai - thank you. Yes, most of the situation is within me and I need to look within myself

Diamanda - you are scarily accurate! It's like you are inside my head! The relationship (as such) has been all on line and via the telephone. It has all been on his terms and I have been dancing to his tune but trying so hard to gain some control. I loved his words, his calls - it didnt matter that we hadn't met; I know how we felt. But he kept on putting off meeting and then 3 months ago went silent. I know - you all will say he has another woman. I know that is not it - I think sometimes when things are hard (he is in Canada I am in UK), some people take the easy option. I am a romantic - his words got me from day one. I would have flown to the ends of the earth had he asked - at the drop of a hat and I still would. But I am realising that is me - not him. After 3 years no matter that we never met - intensity sets the key as to whether there is any form of relationship. And it was intense - it was real. So I feel better. I have let it be and release him; I won't chase with emails and texts anymore. I hope he is happy. If he finds his way back to my path then I would be delighted to find out that fairytales really do exist; but if not then I am sure my life will evolve as it should. Thank you for hope. I do release him, but I take comfort in the crumb of hope in all this. Maybe, just maybe dreams might one day come true. Thank you so much everyone. Happy New Year - new beginnings for everyone. God Bless. Carrie