Help please with 12.3

[kudra]

Hello,

I have been working on inner turmoil to find inner peace and release negative life patterns. I asked the iching what type of person I could attract romantically if I can help myself. I got 12.3 to 33. I am not sure how to interpret. Can anyone shed light?

Thank you,
Kudra

 

[pocossin]

What type of person could I attract romantically if I can help myself?
12.3 > 33

A person who has also encountered difficulties in life and who is somewhat reserved and a bit formal. We are all flawed and don't need to be perfect to be attractive human beings. You probably don't have any serious flaws other than the belief that you are in some way flawed. Lenon Honor's view is that finding a mate is not about pursuing a mate. Finding a mate is about pursuing your greatest dream.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYDPSuot1Vo
The Pursuit of a Mate - Lenon Honor

 

[ginnie]

I once got 12.3 when I kept hidden certain things about myself because I thought the other person wouldn't understand or would think less of me if I revealed those facts about myself. I think you could say the other person had a right to know those facts, but I was feeling insecure and so did not mention them.

Maybe this means you would attract a person who struggles inwardly, like yourself, but who does not wish to to talk about this, out of shame about having such troubles.

 

[bradford]

If you can help yourself ... raise your standards and keep them there. This gua is about choosing between the superior and the inferior.

 

[kudra7]

Thank you all for your very nice replies. I lost my password and no longer use the old email so I couldn't log back on to say thank you. I can give you an update. At the time I was going through a divorce and afraid of being alone and why I failed at another relationship. My ex came back and we reconciled off and on over the last year. But it is over now for good. I would love to make it work, but the man is a controlling person and I am not willing to live my life walking on eggshells and not seeing my friends.

I love reading this forum and all the really in tune folks. I try really hard to understand the iching. Sometimes it is very clear in the answers and most times not. I wish I could see as clear as some of you do when reading the hexagrams and changing lines.

Again, thank you very much for your time and insights.