help with 44.1.2.>13

[megs]

can anyone help me with this ? My situation is that I have been living in quite a remote area for about 4 years now and although I love where i live and its beautiful surroundings I feel as if i don't really fit in. Everyone around me seems settled in their own family network. I am contemplating moving nearer to the city and I am aware that if i do this i would have to let go of what I know to be a lovely place/house.
I asked the yi two questions
1. Is it in my best, highest interest to stay where I am? 44.1.2>13
2. Is it in my best, highest interest to go nearer the city? 14.5>1

At first I thought it was obvious to go nearer the city but i am a bit confused with the hexagram 13. Its maybe saying that things would improve socially if I stayed? Maybe its saying that things are no good socially and that will become more apparent if I stayed.
If anyone can help me with this it would be most appreciated!

Thanks in advance

Megs

 

[linerider]

Interesting question
I think your best, highest interests will be served easier with a move to the city. The yi speaks in shades of gray, not yes or no answers, so think hard about the hexagrams you received and how they relate to your practical life. Maybe they say that a move to the city would be hard work, but enjoyable (yang energy), and staying would mean you have to work hard to change your attitudes internally (more yin) but you'd succeed in your goal eventually.

 

[willowfox]

1. Is it in my best, highest interest to stay where I am? 44.1.2>13 The trouble is that you are becoming too negative about the place that you are now residing in, you have that negative feeling of not being a part of the community, if you really want to stay then you must change your attitude and the way you see things, don't let your negative emotions take control, don't be influenced by your neighbours. Hex 13 is about getting out and making an effort to join in with the community.

2. Is it in my best, highest interest to go nearer the city? 14.5>1 Moving nearer the city is also very good if you want lots of friends but a word of caution, if you move choose your new friends carefully then all will go well.

So, your highest or best interest is with you whatever you finally chose to do, both answers suggest that it is up to you to make a go of your life wherever you chose to live, running away from a problem does not solve that problem.

 

[megs]

Thank you very much for your answers I will take time to evaluate anything negative from my side of things. I think I have tried pretty hard though to get some kind of social life going (have been here four years). There isn't a lot of folk like me around (single and not particularly looking for conventional living i.e.marriage ) so I feel I stand out like a sore thumb. Do you think that the negativity could be about the actual surroundings and not me? Or that it is like fitting a round peg in a square hole trying to fit in?

 

[megs]

.....I asked another question
3. Would it be in my highest , best interest to LEAVE?
I got 13.5 >30.
Does this mean a yes? that I have a close connection with the city or does this relate to the potential in staying /

any help appreciated thanks
Megs

 

[mirian]

Dear Megs

In my opinion, the Yi is addressing some difficulties that you have in terms of fitting in any community and there is no easy solution is this case. It seems to me that the answer to your last question suggests that moving nearer to the city would be beneficial to you. But, again, it would not be easy. Improving your social life and feeling really comfortable in this new environment is something that you would have to work on. You would have to find your way through in order to be part of this new community and not to feel awkward any more. It looks like quite a challenge but if you decide to face it my view on your reading is that you would have a good outcome eventually.

Best of luck

 

[megs]

Dear Mirian

Thank you so much for taking the time and effort to reply. It gives me a whole new approach to my decision.

megs

 

[willowfox]

.....I asked another question
3. Would it be in my highest , best interest to LEAVE?
I got 13.5 >30.

No, it would not be in your best interest to leave. The line says that you have a feeling of isolation but in your heart you know that it is the place to be, you have many obstacles to overcome but they can be overcome with a little effort on your part.

 

[megs]

Thankyou Willowfox

This is getting me a bit confused. I used to live in the city before I moved out here. The feeling of belonging somewhere i think could mean that I belong more where i used to be.
I have friends there who I bonded with and are still connected to
Any suggestions including the knowlege of that? I can't help but see that it is telling me to go back there .

Megan

 

[Trojina]

Thankyou Willowfox

This is getting me a bit confused. I used to live in the city before I moved out here. The feeling of belonging somewhere i think could mean that I belong more where i used to be.
I have friends there who I bonded with and are still connected to
Any suggestions including the knowlege of that? I can't help but see that it is telling me to go back there .

Megan

Yes I'm watching you get confused. I don't find the reading that clear, not being you, and if you are in doubt better to go with your instincts and good sense than tie yourself up in a knot over how different people see your reading. It seems you are really clear about what you want to do, and i always found about 99 % of the time when a feelings that strong its best to go with it. (BTW its clear to me you want to move to the city away from where you are now)

And if you don't ? If you don't do what you want to do because of readings here which you aren't at all sure about IMO that would be folly indeed.

FWIW I saw 44 to 13 answer as there really is nothing much for you in this community you are in - look at 44.2. 14.5 looks better to me and your other answers confirmed that which along with your gut feeling is a pretty strong indicator. If that confuses you, don't let it. How would you have made the decision before you ever came across the Yi ?

I agree with others moving to the city isn't all plain sailing,(13.5) but no big change ever is and it looks in the end to be worth it -

 

[megs]

Thanks Trojan!

You are right there are many ways we can use our instincts to know what we want to do. I've been clearing out cupboards (unreal for me) and throwing out things i don't need (er, once in a blue moon usually) Its the things I start DOING that speak the loudest. What's holding me back a little is all that horrible upheaval!
By the way i take line 13.5 to mean I will be sad at first but then joyful. Is that what you mean by it being quite difficult or do you see more than that? at the end 30.... that is good isn't it....clarity and light?
thanks for your down to earth reply i can stop fretting so much now......and do what i want!

Megs

 

[Trojina]

As you asked about 13.5 ... i think the reason you found it unclear as to how to take the answer is that the Yi often answers our real question underlying the stated one - like it knows our mind better than we do - so sometimes its not clear if we just look at the answer in terms of the stated question. When that happens you have to use your intuition a little and think of what was truly on your mind when you asked. I'm inclined to see this as you'll have opportunity to be reconnected with people and projects/places that you have missed. You finally come together after seperation and misunderstanding - and this seperation could just refer to your move to you current place. where you are now..or it could refer to a little difficulty settling back in to old friendships/connections - either way any feelings of strangeness will be overcome.

Yes 30 is clarity, but with one moving line i personally focus mainly on that.



Going back to 14.5 about if you do move back - 14 is being in great possession, I'm guessing this is your connections/friends there. 14.5 advises some discrimination, keeping your dignity, in other words if you feel lost when you go back its good if you don't just hang on to people cos you're scared - you can pick and choose your connections.

Anyway theres no 'shoulds' here - i think what you want is paramount - and afterall you may change your mind in the morning, lol

 

[megs]

Dear trojan

yes I might change my mind tomorrow lol! But its interesting about the discrimination part because the reason i left the city in the first place was because i wasn't descriminating enough and felt the need to diss-assoaciate myself with a number of folk who I know now were not good for me. I HOPE I know the difference now between what is good and what is bad for me.........(its a biggie!) ...so very apt description in the hexagram line (14.5)

Thanks once again

Megs

 

[ben_s]

Hi Megs,

Stay in the countryside?

44 shows a need to be alert! "It is an unfavorable and dangerous situation, and we must understand and promptly prevent the possible consequences." 44 predicts that something looks appealing, but if you give up your power of choice to this situation, you'll have regrets.
44.1 The problem is small now, but if you don't handle it now, it will get worse.
44.2 The problem is local now, but if you don't handle it now, the trouble will spread.

13 Mutual concern of the heart makes a collaboration powerful and successful. But if you just happen to bump into people who happen to be next to you, and there's not a connection of the heart, no great result will come about.

Go to the city?

14 There is a really big deal that will help everyone, but only if they start humbly and with the right attitude.
14.1 Be humble and not wasteful, and you'll make a good start.

Here is my interpretation of what the Yi is saying.

If you have an immediate opportunity, right away, to get into the "inner circle" with a heartfelt connection in the countryside - do it. However, if you can't immediately move beyond being "just an outsider" after four years, you might as well give up now - the problem will only get worse. As beautiful as the location is, the social isolation from not being with "your kind of people" will only get worse, until it is crushing.

Moving to the big city gives you big opportunities, but you might need to start small. For example, you might wind up in a small home, perhaps with roommates, or have a job where you are doing something routine. But with a positive attitude, you will soon find that you are in the right place for you: a place where you can find your own good group of people socially, and work your way up professionally.

Personally, I can relate. Shortly after I finished college, I got to live in the beautiful countryside. This was a long way from where I had grown up (in a very big, busy city.) It was so peaceful and relaxing! I heard the sound of the cows in the distance, and the river, and the wind in the trees. I could sit on the porch and look out over the orchard. But, it was over an hour to town for work! When winter came, I moved to a rented room in the city. This made it possible to interview for better jobs, which let me get better places to live.

To this day I hope to have a long summer vacation in a place like that again. But there's no way I could had my career, or many other good things in life, if I had stayed out in "the middle of nowhere."

 

[willowfox]

Hex 30 is also about clinging holding on to what you know, clinging to the earth beneath your feet, or the place in which you now reside.

Anyway, up to you what you eventually decide is the best thing to do, oracles give advice, people should make the decisions.

 

[megs]

Hi Ben
I think you sum up the situation very nicely .yes it is beautiful here and I have a great house but I think the soul needs to hav e fruitful human contact and opportunities for growth.
My personal take on 44.1.2 is suggesting 44 as a danger not to be seduced by my "nice house and surroundings". To not hold onto my possesions if you like . I know that by moving into the city I will definately have to look at settling for much less in terms of space/room etc. I will also have to let go of all the hard work I have put into making it a nice house.

BTW the line is 14.5 not 14.1!

Best Wishes and thanks

Megs

 

[megs]

Dear Wilowfox

Thanks for you advice on 30. Clinging. I have to choose what to cling to I suppose. my possesions or re-kindling my aquaintance with the city.

megs

 

[Trojina]

At first I thought it was obvious to go nearer the city but i am a bit confused with the hexagram 13. Its maybe saying that things would improve socially if I stayed? Maybe its saying that things are no good socially and that will become more apparent if I stayed.
If anyone can help me with this it would be most appreciated!

Thanks in advance

Megs

Its just occured to me to say the relating hexagram, here 13, can be the context of the whole situation which includes past and present. IMO it doesn't have to mean the way things will be. So here I just saw the 13 showing the background to your question which is your community - not a promise that things will improve socially. Thought i'd mention it as thats what confused you initially.

 

[megs]

Hi Trojan

You mean that hex 13 here is the big picture, 44.1.2. is the situation if I stay? I think you are right. 44 is creeping in!

Thanks

Megs

 

[Trojina]

Hi Trojan

You mean that hex 13 here is the big picture, 44.1.2. is the situation if I stay? I think you are right. 44 is creeping in!

Thanks

Megs

You could say 13 is the background 44.1.2 plays itself out on. So against the backdrop of this community you can't settle, you feel like a 'lean pig' raging around lol , and it doesn't further you to invite these people further in to your life 44.2.

 

[megs]

...Yes I do feel like a raging lean pig ( but lets not get too personal lol!). better get going before lean pig turns into raging large fat pig!

Megs

 

[Trojina]

Moving is such a big disruption I'm wondering if perhaps to be sure in your mind you could have a few weeks living back in the city to see how you feel without giving up the place you have now. Thing is I always think one can't be sure how one feels about living somewhere till after about 3 months

 

[megs]

I know what you mean ! Think I would prefer for my own sanity to choose now rather than keep weighing things up!

Thanks

megs

 

[ben_s]

Sorry I missed 14.5. I take this line as: When you are truly friendly, positive and caring, you gain trust and build positive relationships.

That seems to fit, doesn't it?

 

[megs]

Hi ben

yes , it seems to fit. I wish someone could wave a magic wand and everything would be moved...its that whole process.....very unsettling.........!

megs