Help with relationship question

[Miss Mouse]

This is my first post and I could really use some help in interpreting. I have been married for over 30 years to a Man I love very much. Our last 3 years have been the most painful in my life. Every thing changed when he turned 50 but I think I have used that mid life crisis to explain away what is happening to us now. He is in an affair that won't go away. He says he loves me very much and that won't change. We have been to counseling but he had a very hard time opening up. There is anger and resentment that he won't tAlk about. I'm not sure why. We married young I have had some great successes publicly not so much him. Sometime he cries and says this is not where he thought he would be at 50. I have worked very hard to keep our marriage lost my temper after 3 yrs and he moved out actually my family told him to go after s big argument he went to his parents not to his lover. and and the question I asked was "after this what is still possible for a relationship with my husband?" I got 14.2.5.6>49
14 sounds real positive that we have something great
But does the radical change means we will not be together?
There has been so much pain. Not sure what my next move should be. I am so depressed and she'll shocked. Never in a million year would I have thought this man capable of this kind of behavior he was alway my friend my rock my love. At a complete loss.
Thanks so much for your help.

 

[newlife123]

Miss Mouse,

I am very sorry about what has happned to you. I went through almost the exact same thing and I was with her for 19 years. I don't think the Yi is appropriate for this kind of situation since the question is too complicated. If you know your birth time you can go here:
http://www.lightonvedicastrology.com/phpBB3_0/index.php
and the masters there will draw up your chart and let you know what stage of life you are at and why life has changed like that for you and when things will get better. It would also help if you know your husband's birth time.
Everything has a cause. Bless you

 

[kkappa]

I agree, that is not the most helpful question here, but it does offer you solace. It says that YOU have things in order in yourself and you have a lot to offer, stick to the vision you have of your preferred future, there is nothing wrong with being authoritative yet sympathising towards your husband, but more than anything, things are moving as they are supposed to. Everything has a cause, a reason, a lesson. Right now though there was a radical change (49) in things, try your best to accept it and find the lesson in all of this for you. Make peace with it, rage for a while if you must. Go through all the grieving phases you can and you will ultimately see what you had to take away from this experience.

On a more common sense level - if he needs to go into his man cave, let him. So much easier said than done, but know that you are on the right path.

Love and light,
K

 

[Miss Mouse]

Thank you both for responding. It gives me hope to know people out there understand. I am trying very hard to see the life lesson here but my family life has crumbled. Thanks again.