Helping someone 24.1.4>16

[owl_]

Hi everyone,
I'm new here. I've been browsing around but this is my first post.
I've asked the IC, 'what can I do to help my father now?' and got 24.1.4 changing into 16. It's a bit difficult to understand, could anyone throw some light on this reading, please?
Just a little background: my father and I live in different continents and his older sister passed away a week ago.
Thank you.

 

[my_key]

Hi everyone,
I'm new here. I've been browsing around but this is my first post.
I've asked the IC, 'what can I do to help my father now?' and got 24.1.4 changing into 16. It's a bit difficult to understand, could anyone throw some light on this reading, please?
Just a little background: my father and I live in different continents and his older sister passed away a week ago.
Thank you.

Hi owl
This seems to be a tough time for your father and for you living so far away from him.
One take on your reading could be that what you can do to help your father now is......
24.1 - Give up the negative thoughts of regret that you are having about the situation
24.4 - Make your mind up to accept what is right for you and not bow to other pressures

16 - Be upbeat in all dealings you have with him - send him your love and prayers. try to understand what he is really going through and support him in all the ways that you can either directly or through influencing others.

Be Well
Mike

 

[owl_]

Many thanks Mike! Your interpretation rung true and was very helpful.
All the best!

 

[willowfox]

Be there for him, give him any support that he needs, because now is the time to reconcile any differences that the two of you have have had in the past, now is the time to become reacquainted in friendship..

 

[owl_]

You're right Willow, thank you.

 

[owl_]

Today I spoke with my father on the phone and although he said he was fine I felt in his voice that he was sad. I then told him I would like to go and visit him now to make him some company (as he is going through this grieving process and I'd like to be there for him but I don't want to be forceful or inconvenient for him). He replied that he prefered me to go later (as it is more practical due to some burocratic stuff we've been doing for some time and will need some catching up at some point in the near future, during next year maybe).

His option is more practical but maybe the time for me to be with him is now and not later, but again I don't want to be inconvenient.

After the call I asked the IC:
What should I know about this? 46.1.4.5>43
Should I travel now to be with my father? 14 unchanging
What would be best:
a) if I travel now to be with my father? 54.5>58
b) if I travel later to be with him, at the time my father says he prefers me to? 24.1.6>23

I can't see a clear answer. Could anyone help?

Many thanks.

 

[Trojina]

Today I spoke with my father on the phone and although he said he was fine I felt in his voice that he was sad. I then told him I would like to go and visit him now to make him some company (as he is going through this grieving process and I'd like to be there for him but I don't want to be forceful or inconvenient for him). He replied that he prefered me to go later (as it is more practical due to some burocratic stuff we've been doing for some time and will need some catching up at some point in the near future, during next year maybe).

His option is more practical but maybe the time for me to be with him is now and not later, but again I don't want to be inconvenient.

After the call I asked the IC:
What should I know about this? 46.1.4.5>43
Should I travel now to be with my father? 14 unchanging
What would be best:
a) if I travel now to be with my father? 54.5>58
b) if I travel later to be with him, at the time my father says he prefers me to? 24.1.6>23

I can't see a clear answer. Could anyone help?

Many thanks.

Do you have any instincts about this ? I'm not sure but it sounds like you really feel something is telling you to go now, that you feel uneasy about him being as okay as he says he is.., it doesn't quite ring true to you ?

Going later 24.1.6 >23 looks like missing the right time. To me it doesn't look so good to wait till he wants you to go, but then i guess you have to respect his wishes so its difficult.

Going now,(54.5) as i think your gut instinct is telling you, appears to be good in terms of service to him IMO. It may be a bit awkward, or maybe you may feel you're in the way...but this answer makes me think you can help him and he will benefit from your care, and its obvious you do care.

your first question, 'what should i know about this' 46 >43..well it looks like very much your call decision wise. Its a decision for you to make rather than you waiting on any kind of instruction.(43)..and it seems to me its about taking the initiative, even taking a little control. maybe you are growing into more responsibility re him, I don't know what your relationship is like but maybe theres some growth for you around it now...a bit of role reversal ? ( a bit of role reversal in 54.5 too)


I really feel you need to follow your instinct on this if you feel uneasy about him for any reason because waiting, the 24.6, doesn't look a good option to me even though, as I said we usually would need to respect the others wishes about when to visit.

As his son perhaps you do know whats best for him on this occasion ? perhaps you really do feel he needs you despite what he says ?

Simply from the answers it seems to me going now is better. 14 unchanging, 'should i travel now', often its says something like "you have it" to me,or "its yours"...thus you ask about going ? Yi says "you have it, you have the means, its yours" Also 14 is about sovereignity, you as your own ruler, your wisdom etc etc..'you already have wisdom in going '...maybe it says something like that.

Overall there is it seems to me a theme of you taking a degree of charge here rather than doing what your dad says...hmmm but follow your instinct on this because i think 14 is saying you do know , you do have instinct about this.

 

[owl_]

Many thanks for your help Trojan! Yes, I had an instict of going and that's what I'm doing, I'll be travelling next week and staying with my dad until after Christmas. He didn't seem pleased at first when I told him the news but a few days later he was very happy about it. Your help was invaluable! Many thanks to you and to all who helped me here! All the best!

 

[JoeCampbell]

Hi,
I just met up with my ex-wife, a kind of "getting closure" meeting now that we have both moved on to new relationships. It was lovely, touching and a huge relief. When I got home (somewhat sad), I asked "How to respond to today's meeting?" and got 21.1.4......and then Mike and Willow wrote these two responses to the same reading. Thank you both - bang on the nail. All the best.