Hex 1.1.4.5 changing to 18 Relationship

[brianpatrick]

Thanks for all your posts.

I often wonder if my interpretations are colored by my delusions, for lack of a better word, so I decided to post.

Long story short, I'm a middle-aged man, finally found my soul mate 10 years ago, partnership ended 2 years ago, and I'm now stuck at this point expecting, believing, and wishing this person is going to contact me.

Question: What can I expect of waiting for contact?

Hex 1 (lines 1, 4, 5) changing to Hex 18

"I can expect more waiting. I can also expect to make a choice between more waiting or facing the fact that things follow their own course and progress without my influence and the only proper advice is to work on my own negativity.

This person is not going to contact you. Be patient, be true to yourself, and you will eventually work through this."

As I dread to hear there will be no contact, although just below the surface I think that's what I feel is true, I tried to put a friendlier spin on it:

"What if this person does contact you? Have you worked out all your issues? Get yourself together so if there is contact, it will be a success. Get yourself together so if there's NO contact, it will be a success."

Thanks for listening.

Briancalledbrad

 

[willowfox]

It boils down to a choice, either you can go your own way or you can get out there yourself and do something about the situation, the ball is in your court, therefore it is down to you to make amends or at least a jolly good effort to.

 

[brianpatrick]

Thank you, Willowfox. The simplicity and clarity of your comment tells me it's time to go my own way. The ball is in my court, after all. Considering so many other readings, I think Ms. Ching is telling me that ball might not have the desired qualities I wish for. The child in me desperately wants to go for it. The adult in me says, "Honey, it's only gonna hurt more".

I grew up with dogs (terriers... crazy dogs). If they ran away and you tried to chase them, they ran faster. If you ignored them, they'd eventually be in your lap begging for a banana.

Thanks again.

Briancalledbrad.

 

[tigerintheboat]

Duality

I'm a middle-aged man, finally found my soul mate 10 years ago, partnership ended 2 years ago, and I'm now stuck at this point expecting, believing, and wishing this person is going to contact me.

Question: What can I expect of waiting for contact?

Hex 1 (lines 1, 4, 5) changing to Hex 18

Briancalledbrad

It feels to me that what you presented is dualistic; either she comes or she doesn't. But H1 is dynamic; while you work on what is spoiled (H18), get out and do things. There are dragons everywhere. Yes, line 1 advises that the dragon is submerged, but you also got Lines 4 and 5. The dragon is flying and ascending. Hexagram 1 calls for strong action, not laying about waiting, but you can have strong, pointed action while you attempt to work on what is spoiled.

Don't get caught (any worse than you already are) in duality, either/or thinking. Make creative moves while doing what you can to remedy what is spoiled. Go forward and move on and be receptive to her return at the same time!

Tiger