hex 18.1.3 Help please

[howl]

Hello there

Well, I was wondering if anyone could help me with this. I met this person recently and it seems like we could hang out more but cause I kinda tend to be paranoid (bad experiences) about things I asked the iching about him. I asked:

"what sort of person is x?"

I got 18.1.3.

18 is corruption right? So I thought yikes! A nasty person? Maybe should stay away if it means trouble i guess.

Well, very thankful for any help given. Nice day to all. :bows:

 

[icastes]

Best to break up now, rather than later.

 

[howl]

Thanks for the reply icastes!

You're right, best now then later. But I wonder if there shouldn't be the benefit of the doubt. Strange though how things turn out. Anyway, thanks :bows:

 

[hopex]

whatever you checked this guy out for is happening again

you are attracting the same thing - keep aloof and observe
not a good choice for a relationship
line one - putting right what the father/mother did wrong
line three - putting right the pattern

changes to 41 - decrease

for example, if you get taken advantage of then the
lesson is here again. Do you get taken advantage of
because that was the experience of a parent that you
witnessed. Correct it - dont be taken advantage of.

 

[elias]

To my mind the most important lesson of 18, especially the lower lines, is working on entrenched habits of mind

18 From degeneration comes great development. It is beneficial to cross a great river. Three days before, three days after.

1 -- issues "inherited" from the deceased father. Issues that cross generations in a family. You have the power to recognize and address these issues rather than carrying them forward.

2 -- (not part of your reading, but salient) Deeply entrenched issues learned in childhood -- gentle correction is required here; quiet improvements over the long term rather than drastic measures.

3 -- Issues inherited from a living father. Rather too forceful an effort is brought to bear on the problematic situation. Nevertheless, this is better than doing nothing (as in line 4)

When in doubt, assume the I Ching is talking to you about you. You have the strength and wisdom to address long-standing personal issues with strength, flexibility, gentleness -- that is "crossing the great river."

Take a good long look at what issues have tripped up relationships in the past -- Do you sabotage what could be a good thing by bringing in problematic family traits? Do you choose inappropriate partners that fall into a pattern? Once you've sorted through the old personal baggage, set a reasonable course on how to deal with these in the long term. That's "three days before, three day's after."

In the absence of big glaring problems with the new guy, there's no reason he shouldn't be a part of your process. The resultant 41 encourages this -- reduce yourself, your ego, your anger, whatever... give up the long-standing issues, move yourself into a higher spiritual place.