Hex 19.1.2.4 > 16

[louie]

My partner and I seperated 3 months. Our 2nd wedding anniversary is in August. We connected recently and agreed to be rebuild the relationship by first restoring a friendship which got lost. After an evening out, where all the old behaviours that caused problems appeared and clearly nothing's changed, I asked the question : what benefit will I gain if I withdraw from this arrangement. I received 19.1.2.4 which, after all the reading I did, I have no idea how to interpret. Please help.

 

[ginnie]

With hexagram 19, which is sometimes hard to interpret, you can be sure that it won't take long before there is waning of your hopes for an improved relationship. It could be that the young man is not very mature and fails to learn from his mistakes, but rather keeps repeating them? If this relationship is to be successful, you will have to take the long view of it -- years, not weeks or months.

 

[louie]

thank you. So would you interpret the answer to my questions as " yes, it's beneficial to withdraw for the moment and focus on something else "

 

[louie]

I asked the question : What do I need to know about my marriage today. And received hex 14, 3.4.6 to 19 again. I am sorry, now I am even more confused. Do I withdraw from this relationship for a while or hang in there and just go with the flow ?

 

[ginnie]

Yi seems to be nudging you to take charge of your marriage ...

Sometimes when we get hex 14, Yi is reminding us that the people we already know and are most familiar with are our greatest possession; our greatest wealth.

Relationships are often brought about by fate and the difficulties we encounter in our marriages will result in great growth in many ways if we just hang in there and go along with the flow, as you put it. You may not be happy with your marriage right now, but there will be a slow learning curve, and things are destined to get better with time. Getting line 6 moving in hexagram 14 is unusually auspicious. But to enjoy that good fortune, we must be ready to correct ourselves continuously.

 

[louie]

Thank you

Thank you so much Ginnie. That resonates with how I feel. I still ask bad questions so struggle to interpret the answers accurately. Emosions are flying and feels so explosive and unpredictable. Your reply shines a light.

 

[viviank]

Louie
Hi
what happen between you two? I am interested because I received the same answers for pretty much the same set of questions.
Thank you

 

[louie]

We are still seperated and we decided that it is best to get divorced. I am very much on 2 mindsets still. The logical intellectual part of me knows that I need to go my own way. Part of me keeps thinking there is something I need to still learn from this and that we may miraculously restore the marriage. (wishfull thinking? ) I was the committed partner. For now, I decided to live as if I am single and focus on my own life, friends and family and to avoid our shared friendship circle and to take every day as a gift and blessing. Just like Yi is telling me to do..... seeding.