Hex 22

[seeker]

I have gotten this same hex twice asking about this one guy. First with lines 1 and 3 moving, then lines 2 and 4. Does anyone have a really good explanation of this hex? I have searched the archives and all the translations I have, but they all seem so different, everything from grace to superficiality. I sort of see it as seeing the inner beauty, but I am not sure if I have it right.

Also, line 4 talks of wooing at the right time and generally seems to be translated as relating to a relationship or marriage, but could wooing also just refer to someone who was seductive, just looking for the physical or would you get a different hex for that???

 

[void]

Seeker are you asking about these men in advance of meeting them ? Are you kind of using Yi as a kind of character reference system ? Or have you met this one and want to know where its going ?

 

[void]

Asking because might it not be easier to ask about your approach to how you evaluate these guys or about your attitude towards finding the right guy. Asking that because it all seems a little fevered, lol, like looking for an employee rather than a partner.

 

[frank]

Hi Seek,

Seems to me that you should look beyond the packages, beyond the psycical thing... Lines 1 & 3 make Hex. 36... Just be yourself, do not play something that you are not... Lines 2 & 4 is Hex. 40.... Liberate yourself from EXPECTATIONS (there is that word again :-D) and just move on... As you I?m eager for a partnership, but did you realise the intensidy of looking and wanting can scare the people off? Try to stay focused on what YOU want, beyond the packages...

Hug,
Frank

 

[seeker]

This is a guy I met online, have spoken with him via IM several times. We were supposed to go out last weekend but he had to cancel. Not a character reference exactly, more of trying to ascertain his level of interest and the potential. But you're right, I have strayed from my standard questions of what to do and what I need to know.

Frank, can you give me some clarification on your reading? This guy wants to start out just getting together for fun, which Im sure means a physical thing, and see where it goes. Im ok with that, but your interpretation mentioned looking beyond the physical. My feeling has been with this guy that Yi is telling me there is something beyond physical here, or at least there can be. I guess I am actually looking for an approach here. I dont want to scare him off if he doesnt want anything more right now, but I also dont want him to think I am not interested either. A friend of mines husband says women overthink things. Maybe that is what I am doing here. I admit I am not very good at taking life as it comes, I like to be prepared. Guess thats what Yi is trying to teach me.

Would still like some further insight into hex 22 itself, not necessarily in relation to the question. On another thread Bradford finally gave an interpretation for 17 that clicked. I am kind of looking for the same think for 22, that aha, so thats what that means, moment.

 

[seeker]

BTW, took Voids advice and asked how to approach? 7.2.5. Looking at Lises interpretation, I think this is pretty much what Frank said and what I was talking about above. I cant plan out the whole thing, figure all the details and make it go the way I want. I just have to go with it, be myself, take opportunities as they present themselves and see where it leads. Is that about it?

 

[ithaki]

Seeker, I suppose the hexagram can have different meanings, depending on the situation. If we take it to mean sincerity in this case, it might mean that what you see is what you get. If the guy says he's looking only for fun at the moment (and how callous would he seem to be if he didn't also say that he is 'open' to something else), then he is probably looking just for fun. And this is the case for most men. They actually mean it when they say that. It is us girls that choose to believe that, with enough time and patience, we can tame their sensitive souls.

In my opinion, if you are looking for a relationship, you would be better off trying to meet a person that can be your friend. A friendship is more likely to develop into a romantic relationship than a "let's have some fun" approach.

I think this is even in line with Frank's reading. Have friends, i.e., look beyond appearances, get to know the real person, relax expectations on both sides.

 

[frank]

Hi Seek,

I actualy mented the good looks, the nice manners, you know... 'the psychial' :-D. Because it can also come to some kind of lust. Look beyond that. 22 to me is about falling in love with images... empy ones... decoration, and not the guy who's behind that decoration... You only saw his picture! That's the OUTSIDE... decorate the beard and stuff (line 3?). Try to get what YOU want out of this, and do not look blindly to the OUTSIDE... but go for the INSIDE :-D.

 

[void]

I always equate 22 with inconsequentiality - if there is such a word - something that proves to be of little consequence one way or the other. That does not mean however that there isn't some fun to be had.

 

[seeker]

Oh he does want to be friends, didnt mean to imply it was physical only, just that he does not want anything serious right now, he just broke up with a girl a few months ago.

Yes, I have seen his picture, but I have also spoken to him online. But its true that it is not the same as a one on one meeting. I think I need to meet him before I can really make sense of any of this. But in doing so, like you said, I need to not have any expectations, just meet him and see where it goes.

Interesting the different interpretations for this hex. I guess this is one I will have to wait and see what experience says. Ive noticed experiences sometimes differ from person to person. For instance, tonight I sat down and read over all the readings for this guy again. Still a bit unsure, I cleared my head and asked for a clearer picture of me and this guy that would tie it all together, 32 unchanging. Now most people would be really happy to see that hex in regards to a dating situation, but not me. For me it has never indicated an enduring union as Wilhelm defines it. Instead it generally means endurance, something I have to work through and learn from. Guess at this point will just have to sit back and see where it takes me.

 

[seeker]

Oh wow, interesting note, was looking again at Wilhelm for 32, "the husband is the directing and moving force outside, while the wife, inside, is gentle and submissive". The last time I got this hex was in relation to a Romanian guy I dated last Jan. This line actually defines part of the problem. He felt that the man should be in charge and the woman should submit to his wishes. Being an American woman, that did not really sit well with me. But kind of an interesting twist looking at that line.

 

[seeker]

Here I am pondering 22, sometimes defined as grace, and this appeared in my email this morning...

Elegant Blessings
Living A Life Of Grace
Grace exists inside of all of us and around us. It is our inner beauty that radiates outward, touching everyone we meet. It is that unseen hand that comes from the divine, raising us up when we most need it. To be able to live in a state of grace is not based on worthiness, nor is it earned through good deeds, ritual, or sacrifice. Rather it is an unearned favor, freely bestowed and available to all, that is inherent to our birthright. All we must do is open our eyes to its presence and we will find and experience grace everywhere.

Grace is in the rain bringing relief to drought-ridden farms, and the unexpected lead for the perfect job opportunity that comes from a stranger. Grace is what happens to someone when they miraculously escape injury; it is even the simple events that happen to us that we call "good luck," like when we don't get a parking ticket after are meter has expired. Grace resides in the love between two people, the gift or check that comes unexpectedly in the mail, the cozy comforts that make up a home, and in the acts of forgiveness we bestow upon others. It is grace that moves us to go out of our way to help a stranger. In music, a grace note is the pause between notes that is so important to the pacing of a song. Grace is the state we are in when we are doing nothing but just being who we are.

When we accept that we always exist in a state of grace, we are able to live our lives more graciously. Knowing we are graced gives us hope, makes us more generous, and allows us to trust that we are taken care of even when we are going through difficult times. Grace is our benevolence of heart, and our generosity of spirit. Grace is unconditional love and the beauty that is our humanity. When we know that we are blessed with grace, we can't help but want to live our lives in harmony.

 

[seeker]

oh my, and then this one, think someones trying to tell me something.

There’s an old saying that “Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.” When we know who we are, when we understand the truth of our greatness, we will know happiness because we will never wish to be anything other than ourselves.