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laylab

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Deliverance, not the scary film but Hex 40 no changing lines

Hello Everyone,

I took a break from the IC over the past week to let some things settle and sink in.
I highly recommend this for people new to IC..it helped me to let my subconscious process a bit.

I have a question regarding a friend (not the man that I posted about before) who seems to be very busy lately, too busy to follow up with me about some issues that we were discussing.

Someone suggested to me that I just back off and and let her come to me, that I should go about my business. This friendship is important to me though I wondered if I offended her but there is no hint of that, we have only ever had great conversations and a good dynamic.

I asked the IC how my friend would respond if I backed off and I got

Hex 40 Deliverance with no changing lines.

She says that she misses talking to me too but that she has alot going on. That is a bit difficult when we have always been so close and she is normally as attentive as I am to our friendship. Lately though there has been very little reciprocity.

Any thoughts out there on what Hex 40 with no changing lines could mean?
 
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Hello, laylab...

I have a suggestion while you give your friend a little time and space which is part of
hexagram 40...How about consulting The I Ching with a question similar to:
What do I need to know about my friendship with...?? While your giving your friend
time away from your friendship, this reading may help you to get your friendship
back on track,...When your friend is ready...
Good Luck,
Peace;)
 

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yeah, she's done it before when she goes off her medication...so my response and curiousity is also rooted in feeling worried.

I will ask that question though.

Still, what is 40 about?
 

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uh, ok..I got hex 54 but hold on I have to check about the changing lines..
 

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that is obvious, and why i have already backed off. The situation is that she has bipolar disorder. When I see her begin to stay up all night, act jumpy, and most of all disappear for a while..I know something is up.

She asked me about changing her medication, if I thought it was a good idea...(I work on research projects regarding bipolar)..we were going to talk about it more but then she began acting this way.

With a friend like this, one has to be careful...to be balanced and not push but also not neglect.

Again, can anyone tell me what Hex 40, Deliverance is about?

As last time "deliverance" was in play it involved me picking her up from a metro station and taking her to the hospital as she thought the police were trying to kill her.

Does this make more sense now?

as far as i can tell about 54 it is pointing out that one should not make herself (me in this case) indispensable..perhaps meaning my friend has to learn her lesson over again a few times and figure it all out for herself. As she is the person ultimately in control of her life and of this particular situation.
No one else holds her hand, her family ignores her, she moved to another country (not necessarily good as family support would be good for her)
 
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Its not weird I deleted it as I was offended by your response to it .

You only hear and understand what you want.

You can play that game well enough without me.
 
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Trojan how did my response offend you?!!

You only hear and understand what you want.
Well that is an unfortunate human characteristic. But basically your response (that you deleted) had a slightly agressive tone to it. You didn't answer anything about Hex 40 you just said, "hey, leave her alone"...without asking for anymore clarification from me.

That's not the first time you have been aggressive towards me....I take it somehow that my other situation with the man (were fine by the way) irked you (If I remember correctly)

Perhaps, if I am guilty of understanding only what I want, you are also projecting some of that behaviour yourself.
There is no need for a mud-slinging contest. Or accusations of "game playing"

why the aggressive responses?
 

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"I asked the IC how my friend would respond if I backed off and I got

Hex 40 Deliverance with no changing lines."

It seems that she has had a bad time of it lately, and so she feels that if you back of then she can return to her normal way of living, get her life more under control, that things will proceed nicely for her. She basically feels that you have been obstructing her, so she would, in her mind anyway, be quite happy if you back off.
 

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She says that she misses talking to me too but that she has alot going on. That is a bit difficult when we have always been so close and she is normally as attentive as I am to our friendship. Lately though there has been very little reciprocity.

Any thoughts out there on what Hex 40 with no changing lines could mean?


I think it's pretty clear that you should back off on this one for her sake, regardless of what you want in this respect. Friendships also ebb and flow (especially when there's the added difficulty of bi-polar!) and real friends will always remain solid.

40 is about getting out of trouble in my experience and waiting it out. But that doesn't mean being inactive, just circumspect. Tension is gradually disappearing and things can be allowed to improve and grow if you let them. This may mean allowing your friend to do as she pleases without any pressure. That means relieving the pressure of expectation on your side as well.

Topal
 

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She basically feels that you have been obstructing her, so she would, in her mind anyway, be quite happy if you back off.

Good..thanks Willow.
I have a tendency to over-protect and think that once someone makes a mistake, assume they will only repeat it.

got that from my mother I think ;)
 

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Deliverance is about release of tension. So basically your friend would be much relieved by your backiing off. The image counsels to pardon mistakes and forgive misdeeds so maybe you need to be doing this toward your friend.

Best regards,
Ken Wanamaker
 

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Thanks to everyone for your feedback. I will do just what the IC and everyone else suggested.

and thanks to Trojan too..Trojan, I did not mean to offend you. If I did, it was totally unintentional. This subject, causes stress and anxiety when I think or talk about it. Please accept my apology.
 

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