Hex 48, about a new home

[elienos]

Hi I have been reading these forums for a while, but just now became a member! Hi!

And I did so because of Hex 48. I am looking for a new home for my daughter and I. I really want to move soon. I saw a place yesterday that was acceptable (the first of 4 places I have seen that would have worked) but there were a couple things I didn't like (the breaker was no washer dryer hookups plus the tiny tiny kitchen/no dining room), so I didn't apply. It's not the perfect place, but I could live there. But rentals are scarce around here, in my price range. I am afraid I won't find the right place. I asked Iching if I should apply for the place. I got 48, no changing lines. I first thought it meant that the place will leave me unsatisfied. But I am not really sure. What if that is as good as it gets? Doesn't anyone have any thoughts?

 

[icastes]

This is not the time to move. Maintain your present position until the time is right.

 

[elias]

hmm... more than a caution against moving at the present... look more deeply into the issues. Are there other possibilities that simply moving? Is it possible/advisable to share with another person or family? Is there a way to improve the situation where you are at the moment?

 

[nebu]

Hello elienos

I really like Hilary's idea (not sure if it's Hilary's per se, but I'd love to give her credit for it lol) that an unchanging hexagram is a question back to you.

One the one hand, I think 48 unchanging is a perfect response when you ask about a place where the kitchen and dining room (the centres of family sustenance) don't work very, errrm, well

But I also think instead of giving you a straightforward answer it's saying back to you, 'do you think this is your Well? Can you put this place at the centre and have it become a wellspring of your life for you and your family? Is this place capable of being the nucleus for you and your daughter, at least temporarily? Can you 'plug in' here to what sustain you and your daughter at least for a while?'

Beyond that, the bigger issue it's offering you to reflect upon, IMO, is: it doesn't matter where you live on the outside if where you live on the inside is deeply connected in a way that supports and sustains you. You can move the well/house, but the underlying resources that you draw on in your life need to be there permanently, no matter the outer changes, the circumstances, the comings and goings in your external dwelling place.

Regards

Nebu

 

[elienos]

The whole story and thanks for the feedback (long post)

You know I love Iching, and one reason is this. When I ask the same question I get the same answer. So what the iching said about moving in general twice (the last time about a week ago) was Hex 12, standstill, stagnation, the most recent toss with moving lines 4,5,6 > Hex 2, the receptive. This sounds very much like things are stagnated (the stagnation is obvious to me) but are about to start moving, or are starting, with the moving lines. Nine in the fifth place means:
Standstill is giving way.
Good fortune for the great man.
“What if it should fail, what if it should fail?”
In this way he ties it to a cluster of mulberry shoots.

Let me go back a bit. I had to move from my house in Feb because the landlord wanted to move into his home, that had been mine for almost 4 years. I was in a horrible financial situation and ended up moving with my daughter into a room in a house shared with another family. My daughter and I are very artistic, musical and scientific, we do a lot of weird stuff in our house. Most of our stuff doesn't fit here, so we feel very stifled. I also feel like it isn't my house, my roommates have lived here 5 years and everything is theirs, except all the stuff in the garage which is mine. I fortunately recently received a housing assistance rental voucher that will help me pay for a place of my own. I have 90 days to find a place (I still have over 2 months). I am having trouble finding a suitable place within the price guidelines around here. I really am exhausted from moving and not having access to my creative materials. I want to move and and then stop moving for a long time. But housing seems to be very competitive. I think I have a really big fear that I will pass on something suitable and not find anything better. "What if I should fail. What if I should fail?" Sounds just like me right now and worrying about this place. The place I was going to see this week already has applications pending. But I feel like Iching is saying things are becoming unstuck...success. And then the Receptive:
THE RECEPTIVE brings about sublime success,
Furthering through the perseverance of a mare.
If the superior man undertakes something and tries to lead,
he goes astray;
But if he follows, he finds guidance.
It is favorable to find friends in the west and south,
To forego friends in the east and north.
Quiet perseverance brings good fortune.

So I just need to wait, listen, persevere towards the home I envision? "But what if I fail?" Funny thing is...The south-west part of town is where I lived before, it is where I love it and where I feel connected. It is my ideal place to look for a home.

Back to Hex 48. Besides a creative space, I need a home that has a warm hearth. I want to have friends over for dinner and music, I want my daughters friends over for dinner and crafts. That would make me happy. It is true about the kitchen/dining area being a problem. If I lived there we would eat at the kitchen bar. So, yes, you are right, the question is, "Is this my well?" Well, no...it could work temporarily, but there would be annoying issues with it. It doesn't feel right, but it is the first acceptable place (but then I would be off to the laundromat every week). And I would have to move again. But what if I fail? I guess according to the hex 12.5, I should honor that. "But such periods of transition are the very times in which we must fear and tremble. Success is assured only through greatest caution...danger arises when a man feel secure in his position."

Anyway, there's a story for you. Thanks for the feedback. And yes, I am trying to improve my situation in my house. Something that was getting really hard. But honestly, I don't want to be around my roommates. Not that they aren't nice...I just an happy when they aren't around. Thanks Nebu, elias, icastes.

 

[elienos]

Oh and about the well, nebu, I was also thinking of the well as the house. Not in actually moving the well, but the well is the well, one can move but not take a well with them. Can this well nourish me?

 

[nebu]

True.

And also....

If you can find the well inside, it wells up and you nourish your surroundings by your presence there....

Easier said than done, however, hence the unchangingness of hexagram 48.

Be well.