Hex 56 changing in hex 6

[Firiel86]

An old love interest of mine recently have writed me and invited me to a convention. I don’t see him from four years and for what I know he is happily engaged and have children from his partner, so why he now looks for me?

So I’ve ask to I Ching: «Is a good thing for me meet this person?» and I’ve hex 56.2.3.5> 6 and in a second time hex 56 unchanged.

I’ve the impression that hexagrams adivises me to be cautious, isn’t it? What is your opinion about it?

 

[Sifaka]

Yes, if I was in your situation I would be very cautious!
The fact that you received 56 twice is significant; whether it refers to you or him I'm not sure, but...

... if it refers to him, I would take this to mean that he doesn't intend to establish any lasting reconnection with you, he's just passing through (without knowing the details it's hard to say, but, for example, is this convention taking place near where you live, and he is usually a long way away?).
Or, taking an uncharitable view, maybe he wants to reconnect with you on a purely physical / sexual level (whether or not he is still happily engaged & with children...)

... and if the 56 refers to you instead of / as well as him, I would consider the advice (I'm reading the Wilhelm translation here) that s/he "must be cautious and reserved; in this way s/he protects her/himself from evil ...s/he sojourns only in the proper places, associating only with good people."

Of course, he may well be a good person and only have innocent intentions, but nevertheless the two readings suggest to me that you should be wary, perhaps because meeting up with him now after four years might stir up unwanted emotions in yourself (again, hard to say, without knowing the specifics - did you depart amicably, did it cause any emotional upset, would you still be interested in him now etc)

As for the changing lines, I don't know which method or system you use, but if there are three changing lines I tend to focus on the middle one - danger! But if looking at all three...

line 2: "he wins the steadfastness of a young servant" - is this referring to you? Are you younger than him perhaps? Or does this refer to his present partner, or one of his children?

line 3: His inn burns down - not good! maybe that is his home / family life?
"he loses the steadfastness of his young servant. Danger" Not good.

line 5: he offers a gift and wins praise; it's more positive than line 3 but if the resulting second hexagram is 6, Conflict, overall I would say the outlook isn't good.

Again, depending on factors only you know - are you interested in this convention ? Would you be OK at seeing this man again without it stirring up unwanted feelings from the past? Hex 6 suggests to me a compromise, "a cautious halt halfway brings good fortune, going through to the end brings misfortune" - maybe you could speak to him on the phone instead of meeting?

Good luck!

 

[Firiel86]

No, I’m not really into this convention (that is organized in my city) and for sure see him again will stir up some unwanted emotions in me, even if I‘m not in love with him anymore.

Four years ago we didn’t separated well. I’ve worked for him (so maybe this is the reason why we have the second line changing in hex 56), and he had some open relationship whit his girlfriend. But when he started to show some interest in me his lover got pregnant.

I’ve cried, a lot. After that moment never happened between me and him and I’ve continued to work for him in silent untill I‘ve considered closed this job exeprience and I’ve moved into a new one. Since then I haven't heard news from him and I have no idea what his family situation is like right now.

The method I use to cast the lines is a simple online oracle, I’m a true beginner in I-Ching divination.

Maybe the way of compromise could be the best option to follow, even if at this moment I don't know how to put it into practice, or I accept his invitation or I politely send a refusal.

 

[Sifaka]

Now that you've explained some more, I feel that there would be little or no gain for you if you agreed to meet him at this convention, but it does have the potential for harm (stirring up unwanted emotions). A polite refusal would be my suggestion.

 

[Freedda]

So I’ve ask to I Ching: «Is a good thing for me meet this person?» and I’ve hex 56.2.3.5> 6 and in a second time hex 56 unchanged.

Firie, just for your information, if you post a 'typical' reading in in Shared Readings, you are likely to get more responses - unless you have a specific reason for posting here in Open Space.

Best .....

 

[Firiel86]

This is my first post in this forum, I beg your pardon. If some admin can relocate this post it would help me