Hex 57.5>18

[ac1d]

I asked the oracle: "What is the way forward," mostly in reference to a person who I've recently hurt in several ways, but I haven't MEANT to hurt her. We used to be romantically involved, and she's kept calling me over and reminding me that there's still a level of emotional attachment on her part. I'm trying to break it, and I know it's hurting her but in the long run it's probably better for both of us.
She's coming home with me for spring break, and we're going to the desert for 5 days. I'm not quite sure if the Oracle is referring to that trip on line 5, and I fear whatever Hex 18 is trying to tell me.
Personally, i've been going through a lot of thoughtful change in my life. I'm trying to become less dependent on other people and working on becoming a better student and stronger person.

Any thoughts from the community regarding what the Oracle has said about the situation?

 

[ac1d]

well, the Yi is always honest, even if I choose to ignore its honesty. Hex 57, line 5: No beginning, but an end. we spoke today, and she needs a break from me. It was sitting right in front of my nose, and I chose to ignore it! well, perhaps fortunes change in the next 3 days. I certainly hope so, It's going to be a long week otherwise.

The changed hex, 18, talks about the removal of decay. Again, this six-day ordeal of change is mentioned. I imagine that my job is to focus and make some changes in this time.

Quick question for ya'll: I really resonate with line 6 of hex 18, but should I include it in my plans even though it technically isn't involved in my reading?

 

[meng]

Quick question for ya'll: I really resonate with line 6 of hex 18, but should I include it in my plans even though it technically isn't involved in my reading?

That's a good question. I think anything which resonates with your insides, anything which inspires you to grow or to understand, or move in a timely way, could and maybe should be included. Consider, that even as you read Yi's given answers, things are moving and changing inside, you are not the exact same as you were a moment ago. So a particular change line, or a phrase from.... anywhere... can be exactly what you needed to see at that moment. Particularly with such a grand and expansive line as 18.6. I mean, when isn't 18.6 a good reminder or inspiration?

 

[ac1d]

when isn't 18.6 a good reminder or inspiration?

I'm sure there are times when we SHOULD work to please our superiors, but for my life in this moment, now is not the time.

I suppose this is what I love about the Yi: We are incouraged to use the Yi as we see fit, and it's considered a strength (as opposed to a weakness) that the Yi is entirely subjective.

 

[diamanda]

I'm not sure i understand your "problem"...

You said you're "trying to break it", and feeling really bad because you
"are hurting her" - but at the same time going on holiday togther...?

And then straight after you are bothered because "she needs a break
from me"...?

Shouldn't you be relieved then? I thought you wanted to break it with
her. Aren't you relieved that you are not "hurting her" as you said...?

errrmm..?

 

[ac1d]

I'm not sure i understand your "problem"...

You said you're "trying to break it", and feeling really bad because you
"are hurting her" - but at the same time going on holiday togther...?

And then straight after you are bothered because "she needs a break
from me"...?

Shouldn't you be relieved then? I thought you wanted to break it with
her. Aren't you relieved that you are not "hurting her" as you said...?

errrmm..?

I think you've misinterpreted my initial post. although i'm sure that was due to my somewhat abbreviated explanation of the circumstances.

I was trying to break a certain romantic emotional attachment that she had with me, but I had hoped to keep her as a friend. I kept worrying over these kinds of romantic boundaries, but really, I think I kept restating issues and I couldn't just accept things as they were.
In any case, I had hoped we'd be able to go on this trip as friends, but now after I hurt her (by restating issues and... well, i'm not exactly certain all the ways I hurt her) she's going to take some time from me and not go on this trip.

In an effort to not hurt her, I did hurt her. That's what sucks.
Yi warned me (hex 57.5) but I didn't really heed/hear the warning.
But of course, Yi reminds me of the other side of the coin in both hex 57 and 18.

 

[meng]

I'm sure there are times when we SHOULD work to please our superiors

It's just a question of which superior.