hex 57 to 35 / relationship, indecision

[eastern_girl]

2 questions about a relationship with the most indecisive man I have ever met. I should have moved on by now, many times I thought I had, but every time I think I finally found peace and that it's over, I'm done with this story, he's no good for me etc. etc. etc. he enters the scene again. Back and forth...this story is not getting anywhere. This on and off situation, his continual games make it very hard for me to let go and find peace. There's definitely a strong element of attraction . Anyway, we're not on good terms right now, I think I finally made it clear that I'm sick of his games.

Now to the questions I had for Yi:

- what do I need to understand about my relationship with X? hex 57.2.3.4.5 to 35? Hmm..so many changing lines. I guess this answer shows his indecision. Instability. But could it mean more, what do you think?
- what do I need to understand about the feelings he has for me? hex 56.1.4 to 22 He feels this is not serious, I'm a temporary "solution"? He feels guilty maybe? I don't know...Why do I bother, right?

I could use some help, every time I need to read the lines for myself I'm in the dark, I don't see clearly.

Thank you,
Eastern Girl

 

[blue_angel]

Hi,

For your first question "what do I need to understand about my relationship with x?" Answer 57.2.3.4.5>35.

Here is my opinion of your reading...

57- he's like the wind, he comes blowing and you bend like the grass.
Some understanding is needed from both sides as to what is right and what will be good for both of you.

Line 2- you need to find out what the hidden issues are. When you are clear what the real issues are, you can get rid of the issue, and then you can continue to work towards your goal.

Line 3- whatever pattern you have repeated is not working for you, find a completely new way to approach this issue. If you use the same
approach you are going to suffer and repeat until you get burned out.

4- this is a successful line, you will get to the bottom of these issues and find a resolution. You must keep in mind what it is you would like to accomplish and be very clear with him. Everything in moderation.

5- if you can stay firm and correct (maybe tell him what's acceptable for you and what's not and stick to it). Then see what he has to say or offer, think it over. Its not going to be easy but in the end it will work out for the best. The (best) could be with or without him.

35- you have gifts, once you secure these gifts and make peace then you will prosper and work to multiply these gifts. To do this think of what inspires you, then use that energy to advance. Its like a work in progress.

So I see this as its not easy, but you know what you need, want, what's right, and you are capable of achieving.

Blue_Angel

 

[blue_angel]

For your second reading "what do I need to know about his feelings?" Answer 56.1.4>22. I am pretty sure this answer is speaking to you and not answering about his feelings at all.

56- you are in the middle of a transition, because of this you will only be able to achieve small things. Use caution.

Line 1- this is not important or where you need to focus at this time, and by focusing on this you are causing more problems for yourself.

Line 4- even though you know what is right or good for you, still you are not at peace with it. Your mind is going in circles. What you want is more than you are capable of achieving at this time.

22- recognize the beauty of the relationship and acknowledge it but realize there are some issues that need to be resolved and the beauty is not going to resolve them. You can make small advances towards your goal but remain cautious and observant to his behavior.

Best wishes on your journey,

Blue_Angel

 

[eastern_girl]

Thank you, Blue Angel.

Beautiful advice. I resonate with your analysis.
One question though: could 56.1.4 be about him too? I ask this beacuse he is the traveller. Sorry I forgot to mention about that. He has recently moved to a different country, his life seems to have taken a new course there, he has the career he always wanted, yet, for some reason, he keeps coming back to me, then says he has other priorities. He then regrets having decided that and so on and so on...He is indeed like the wind, silly me to have accepted to play this game. But then again, you are right about the pattern that's not working for me and the changes I have to make. He's just not the right guy for me right now and maybe I'm not right for him either.

 

[blue_angel]

I think it very well may be possible. I try to keep an open mind as much as I can. So anything is possible. I try to give people the advice to ask questions only about themselves, because when we ask about others its usually not very clear if the answer refers to them or us. A lot of people believe the universe wont spy for you, others believe if you ask about anothers feelings, the first line given pertains to them and the second line given pertains to you. I hope I got that right, if not hopefully one of the more seasoned on this forum will come along and correct it. Either way, for my own recent experiences I am learning to not ever believe anything is exactly the way it seems. To keep an open mind to all possibilities. To seek your own truth and see what actually works and doesn't, and still remember that can change just as soon as you think you've got it all figured out. Who knows if he is the right guy for you, maybe this is just not the right time. The best advice I have seen, is you never have to leave your path and chase after someone, if its meant to be it will be. Sorry I don't have a definite answer for you.

Best wishes on your journey,

Blue_Angel

 

[Tim K]

I think 56 -> 22 says that he is not feeling serious enough about you. He likes the Image of the relationship, but only the image, the outer form, for now.
Line 4 says that he is like a traveler that has found a place to stay, but still has his axe ready to defend his position, "My heart is not glad".

And 57 -> 35 says, you should see clearly this problem, penetrate it with your mind and introduce the necessary change to make progress (35). I agree with blue_angel here.

 

[eastern_girl]

Thank you, Ash,

Yes, I think he's one of those people who never feel satisfied with what they have...