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have continued talking to my new (old) friend. Found out that a visit to him is possible( :D ), but still concerned about the should I's and what the actual energies and possibilities are surrounding this man and I. Concerned about making something out of nothing or seeing romance where maybe there is only a friendship. I'd visit either way, as I enjoy him and think his friendship alone would be gift enough, but I admit, that I think my feelings regarding this are not merely about friendship. I'm not at all sure just where his feelings and thoughts about me lie in the spectrum either. He's very attentive to me communication wise, but other than some light and mild fun flirtations, he seems to be staying in the safely friends zone...
Not comfortable asking him directly because it does seem a bit early to put that kind of pressure on the situation/relationship. Taking things light and slow and just paying lots of attention to him and trying to see which way he seems to be leaning...not really feeling certain of his direction though... And trying to decide if a visit is a good idea or not....
Asked IC for additional insight regarding him. Received hex 8. Is this mostly a positive hex for friendship or/and group things?
Asked for more insight into this response (as hex 8 encourages). Received hex 25.1.3.6 changing to 31.
Seems hex 25 is about natural misfortunes/disasters? Looked into the lines and line 3 indicates something about someone having an advantage of someone else's loss! (He has gone through a rough divorce over the past few years I know...and I've had a really difficult and traumatic split from my ex over the past 3 years...) not sure who this is referring to as taking advantage of the other? :eek: I've certainly no wish to take advantage of his pain over his divorce!! Nor to have my pain and loss expounded upon in any way!!! And line 6 says to not act on feelings.... This doesn't seem encouraging:(

....All leading to 31....which i've always thought was a fairly positive message for relationship enquiries....?
Hmmmmmm...any insight on these responses?
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Hex 8 says don't be late or you will miss out on a date with him, he is the central character who is calling to you to join him and there is nothing wrong in doing just that but make your decision soon as hesitating will lose you a good opportunity.

Line 25.1 says follow your heart, while line 25.3 says if you mess about then someone else will grab him him while you are still thinking about it, and line 25.6 says when you go to see him, make no demands of him of any kind as the time is probably not right to start talking about relationship and heavy commitments. Yes, see him but then allow him to fill in the gaps and come to you which will happen later on down the road, so let let this flow.
 

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Willowfox,
As always, I so very much appreciate your time and thoughtful insight. You are so kind to take the time to help so many on here!! :hug: It not only makes a huge difference for those of us trying to gain comprehension of the IC, but also to ppl like me who are scaredy-cats and have struggles with simple things... Really, please know how much I appreciate your time, patient compassion, and gifted insight (!!) with me and so many others here!!:)

Soo..this doesn't sound nearly as bad as it seemed...that's encouraging:D So...a visit is a good idea after all? You are so insightful WF...as I know I'm feeling a great deal of fear and hesitancy regarding this (or any relationship possibility)..and I certainy don't want to live life from fear, but also know that I'm vulnerable...and don't want to seem as though I'm throwing too much onto him, when really it's early in this and I'm quite content to just investigate the possibilities and would be delighted if nothing but a good friendship came of it...but he's truly adorable and delightful as well so i can't help but to have a small wish that maybe someday it might be more..... Not one to be this way usually...and never one who wants to seem pushy or "fast" regarding these matters either....
Sooo...your insight is VERY much appreciated and seems right on (at least for where I'm worried and struggling here!!:eek: )
Yes...if he does actually want me to visit...I think I'm going to chase off my fears, try to just live life for a change...and GO....although this is challenging to me, it's also rather exciting at the same time to face these kinds of fears;)
Thank you!!!!!:hug::bows:
 

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another question

Yes, I am full of stress and worry regarding this matter...silly, I know...but it is what it is...
My friend and I have discussed me visiting...I decided to go after all :)eek:)..so i emailed him double checking that he wants the visit, asking for details about when is good, and also attempting to put some honest boundaries on the visit (as well as trying to subtly feel him out for what he's thinking and/or expecting of the visit).
He typically writes me back very quickly. Yet, this time he hasn't:confused:
Added to my already high anxiety/worry/fear level regarding this man and this situation, I asked the IC how he was going to feel or think about my email..
49.2 changing to 43.
This seems good regarding a visit, but.....it also appears to be addressing some serious fears in there.... Are these my fears or his? Worried that he invited me prob thinking I'd not really ever come...and maybe he either doesn't actually want me to or is having significant fears of his own regarding this whole thing? I do believe we both have our own significant fears and vulnerabilities at this time...I know I do and I'm guessing he does given his situation....
...And I'm really wondering why I'm letting something this silly worry me so much anyway?!! I'm just too excited and too afraid all at the same time and I'm sitting on pins and needles waiting his response...wondering why it's taking so long...:confused:
I'm bombarding the forum with this somewhat silly issue and I apologize! Thank you all (especially Willowfox) for virtually holding my hand through my fears/worries/anxieties and helping me with this!!!
 

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I asked the IC how he was going to feel or think about my email. 49.2 changing to 43.

It would seem that your message is going to spur him into action, plans need to be made in order for a happy and satisfactory visit, i think that you can really rely on this guy to come through for you, and it appears that he feels very happy.
 

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Thank you yet again WF:) I'm so hoping you're right!!!! Never took him this long to respond and here this is such a "critical" issue/email to me....nervous:confused:
He's prob just busy, but of course I'm thinking the worst...:rolleyes:
I'll keep you posted as soon as I hear!! I so very much hope you are right (crossing fingers;) )
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update and more ?'s

I did finally hear back from him! Yaaay:D
However, it's interesting that he chose not to respond at all to my questions regarding me visiting (what dates/days would work best etc...)...
We have discussed this twice and he had extended the invitation, rather casually, but I did feel certain it was genuine. I really thought it over for awhile..(should I really go? what's it all about? what's he thinking about this? what am I thinking? etc..) and decided to take the risk to go, enjoy his hospitality, and just see what happens...
So in order to book my flight, I need specifics from him...can't just tell him when i'm showing up at the airport!!?!! He emails me regularly as usual for us lately, but has not responded to those questions at all:confused::confused: This is very unsettling and confusing and of course I can't continue on to plan the trip without at least the basic answers...what does this mean anyway? He has changed his mind? He's contemplating himself before answering? He's worried that I feel differently about the visit than he might? Hmmmmm....a million questions....
but now that I've agreed and asked for the necessary specifics, I do not feel it appropriate to push the subject and repeat my questions.... After all is this just a subtle (or not so subtle!?!) hint...?
Asked the IC what he's feeling about me visiting:
Response: 48.1.3. to 60
Line 1 is about muddy water....confusion in him? confusion between the two of us? confusion about the visit? hmmm...
Line 3: clear water, sadly not being drank? Sounds like maybe he doesn't to take me up on my offer to visit? hmmm....
6o: Limitations (unpleasant limitations?) maybe he feels me visiting would cross boundaries that he doesn't really want crossed?? Maybe the boundasries I mentioned in my email wreere not acceptable or pleasant for him and that is why he's re-thinking/not responding?
How confusing this business is!!!!:rolleyes::confused: I almost want to just forget the whole thing and just chalk him up as an old friend i'm going to enjoy fun emails with for awhile and nothing more... Yet, I think I might be truly genuinely intereseted in getting to know him better and seeing the possibilities. That is not a common thing for me, so I almost hate to give up on this already...but i prefer to live without confusion and burning questions too...and shouldn't it be much more simple if it is, in fact, anything mutual??
Arghhhhh...I am not good at these things!!!! At all:blush:
 

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What he's feeling about me visiting: 48.1.3. to 60

It suggests that this is either a first or he hasn't had anyone pay him a visit for quite a long time, so it he is looking forward to it, so he also realizes that his time for other business is going to be limited as he will be busy with you. hex 60 is about limiting activities to ensure success elsewhere.
 

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WF,
I know you're right about him havimg to balance his work schedule when i visit because he's already taken his vacation with his family...so maybe that's the hold-up/reservation now? Maybe he's concerned and having doubts about me being there while he will still have to be at work...???
I know i sound like i'm complaining a lot (those are merely my huge doubts and massive insecurities rearing their ugly heads:eek: ) but it's unbelievably refreshing to feel any genuine interest at all in someone and also to look forward to the possibilities..i'm just so out of practice of these things and not so used to all the myriad of feelings and questions the situation brings up in me:blush::eek::rolleyes: I truly feel like a little girl having my first crush ever...lol
Thanks so much for your encouragement and patience WF as I stumble my way through this:hug: I wish someday I could repay you the kindness:bows:
 

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