Hexagam 54 - BOTH SIDES

[amy luisa]

I asked....Will a romance happen between me and C (my friend at work) -

i was given the Marrying Maiden...again, on both sides.

wondering if this is something again, like last year....always coming in as a "mistress" do not want that...this is a special friend that we actually met in august - it has been up/down, between us. much sexual tension and wonderful talks and lunches together, out for a late dinner one time, we were scheduled to go out again this saturday, but he had a change in plans....please help to better understand this Hex. I know he likes me, alot in fact, we are in separate departments now (thank goodness) but see each other through mutual friends gathering.
laying low.....before I get a "halo" AGAIN.


this is how i am interpreting this, don't like it, but we really do get along wonderfully. can anyone explain. Does this mean that THERE WILL BE A ROMANCE? Right now, its just freinds (really close friends) - nothing more than that and alot of tension.

Namaste:bows::bows::bows:

 

[icegrapefruit]

Hi, Amy! Marrying Maiden is someone in a don't-like-it, cannot-win situation either led in it by their own silliness, illusions or lack of experience or by the circumstances. It tells about it through the image of the younger sister of No1 wife. Little sister is given to the marriage as second wife, she has duties, she has no rights. One of the translations I have says that if your question is about a future situation, then do not go in it, if it is your present, then all you can do is to try to keep your dignity, and with modesty you can make the situation at least bearable. So the Yi seems to say, it is up to you if you go in it but it won't fulfill your expectations of the relationship.

But I guess you'll just do what you cannot not do.

 

[amy luisa]

thank you

yes, i read the translation. this is a double edge sword. for the woman. always.

do not want to be second fiddle.

 

[mythili]

What is your assessment of the reason that you are in a H54 situation with C. Is C married or otherwise unavailable, or do you just feel like you are playing second fiddle?

 

[amy luisa]

hi there

no C is not married. He is however, with a girlfriend of many years who does not live with him nor spends time with him. (???) many of our friends see me and C as a great couple, so does C, but he is in this other relationship. could not be too satisfactory, he would call me up at night and talk to me for hours about EVERYTHING. We are from the same town and background. it was amazing that we ended up meeting out here in the desert last august at a training class.

we get along so well. he is a great guy and we compliment each other so.

i am just falling for him, i do not want to get any closer...that is close enough.

just thought i would ask if this would EVOLVE into something substantial. Hex 54 is not SUBSTANTIAL ENOUGH FOR ME.

Do you see that this is going to happen?


I asked the ICHING just now:

Will C want to have a romance with me?
asking with the intention of whether or not he WILL... I received

Hex 60 - Measuring

What limits apply here? - Not to go too far in thinking that this is going to be permanent?
What agreements are at work? - hahaha agreements? that is something to think about
Does everyone understand them and find them palatable? Do you? its sort of like Hex 54, dont you think?

changing to:

Hex 24, Returning

What is just beginning to germinate? - maybe a romance?
How can you follow your sense of direction more closely? do not let this hurt me?
Where might the path lead now? to a relationship?


thank you so much for taking the time to help me.:bows:
do you see this happening for us?

 

[themis]

Just from reading how interaction between you has progressed clearly suggests to me that this
'friendship' should not be pursued beyond the confines of the work/office environment ... well,
do have the occasional lunch together but not dinner. You cannot be absolutely sure about the
type of relationship he has with his partner ...

The lines in Hex 60 are not the most discouraging, but they do convey a message ... keep it
light and don't encourage those late night phone calls. This is just a suggestion. Naturally you'll
decide what's best yourself. I guess it's good for the ego to hear the phone ring and just know
it's him, however ... the more you interact ... the more you'll daydream of being together ... and
this wistful longing will just wrench at your heart.

Take care

 

[amy luisa]

thank you

thank you - i understand