hexagram 1 line 2,4 changing to 37

[sushi]

I have a son with a man who does not live in the same province with me. Our son is 18 months old. Our plans were for me to move there and live with him in his house. I gave birth to our son in my partner's town and then came back home with him when he was 3 weeks old. Last year I let my partner take our son home with him so that I would be better able to tie things up on my end faster, and move there. Well things did not go well. I encountered setback after setback. These were serious obstacles to overcome. For instance, I live in a condo building and when they were supposed to install new windows, the contractor came to find the whole building was rotten inside the walls with black mold. So work on my condo unit has been on going for about a year now. I also have been working on my grandfather's estate, having to sell his houses. My cousins should have been helping out as it was a hoarder situation in the one house, and it was their mother's stuff! I ended up having to clean out the entire house myself before selling it with some help from my mother. That house sold for 1/3 less than it should have because of their mess and damages. To make matters worse, one of the neighbors to this house has been causing all sorts of problems for me. He likes to do damage to the property and then call the city inspector to say the place is abandoned and falling apart. (my grandpa had 2 houses on the same street, across from each other) He has cut down entire trees. He took down his own fence and piled it in my yard and then he calls the city about the mess in my yard and I get a fine from the city. They do not believe me about what this man how this man has been sabotaging the place. So I have had nothing but head aches for the last year and a half. My partner has been at home with our son, and has only recently been able to get work for the past two months. When I finally got some money for selling the one house, I bought a van and packed up most of my things and went to see my partner and son.
He told me I took too long and he doesn't feel the same way for me any more. He says he still loves me but he is not "in love" with me anymore. He didn't let me stay so I drove back 2000 km to my hometown, heart broken. So I cast the i-ching with some questions

Before I drove out I got a hexagram with 8 as a result which was significant regarding the line about late comers. He did not let me stay. But does that have to be permanent? We have a little boy together, this isn't some light decison to make about a fling.

Hexagram 32 line 2, 4 changing to 15
Line 4 does make a lot of sense here. I was not home to keep the feelings going and when I did come to his field, he did not let me stay long enough to rekindle things. But does that mean the fire in his heart is out for good?

How do I work things out with (partners name)?
I got Hexagram 1 line 2 and 4 changing to 37

Is hexagram 37 a hopeful one? Will I be able to get my family under one roof? I love this man dearly. He is very passionate. He was madly in love with me for nearly 20 years before we started dating. Now he is deeply wounded by absence all this time. Is it possible for me to rekindle things with him?

 

[taoscopy]

Hexagram 32 line 3, 4 changing to 15

32 - Perseverance

One must be careful before committing themself, after they must continue.

3 - Others cannot commit themselves when they don't have confidence.

4 - If one does not care for it while there is still time then they will see nothing.

The advice is to restore confidence before it is too late.

It turns into 7, not 15:

7 - The will

To solve their problems, one will need discipline and continuity.

You will have to fight, there might be competition now.

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Hexagram 1 line 2 and 4 changing to 37

1 - Evolution

Changing to obtain quality work.
1 - Evolution

2 - One has a strong potential and learns.

4 - One can confront the problems.

37 - Relatives

One nurtures their relationships by maintaining contact.


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Maintain contact with him and try to figure what is going on. Ask if there is someone else. Line 4 is encouraging, you should be able to overcome the problems.

 

[sushi]

No, I'm pretty sure it was hexagram 15 I received from 32 > 2, 4
Hexagram 7 would result from 32 > 3, 4

 

[taoscopy]

OK, you wrote 32.3.4,

32.2.4 is different

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2 - One must repair because they lack of means.

4 - If one does not care for it while there is still time then they will see nothing.

15 - Decency

One shall not provoke with initiatives.

Well at this point it's sensitive. There does not seem to be any competition, but on the other hand something has been broken, because you've taken too much time.

From this perspective I would interpret 1.2.4 > 37 as keep consulting the Yi about it, so you get a better view of the situation. It's not encouraging but you might get help if you involve yourself sufficiently.

 

[sushi]

OK, today I asked the Yi again:
What can I do to restore us as a couple?
It gave me hexagram 9, line 2 and line 6 for an answer, changing to hexagram 63
I have never really understood either of these hexagrams.
Line 2 sounds as though he's willing to be lead back
But line 6 sounds as though its telling me not to push it.
Hexagram 63 I cant tell what it means here. I thought it was supposed to be an auspicious hexagram, but is it possibly saying our relationship is complete, as in done ?

 

[taoscopy]

What can I do to restore us as a couple?

9: You have the intent but reality is different

9.2: It's like when someone tells a lie and knows it won't last long. He does not think that it's possible.

9.6: You may succeed at convincing him but it's delicate.

Outcome is 63: it's declining

It does not look good at all.

Hexagram 63 I cant tell what it means here. I thought it was supposed to be an auspicious hexagram, but is it possibly saying our relationship is complete, as in done ?

Yes. But you can fight the decline by doing the appropriate efforts.

9 - Appearance

Something is not yet visible.

2 - One sees that it won't last and leaves with sadness.

6 - One succeeds in convincing, but for now should be satisfied with what they have obtained.
In the making
63 - Maximum

One can make a few improvements to not see the decline.

 

[sushi]

Huh. Well that's depressing. I asked what I can do, and it says I can do something. No clue what though.

 

[taoscopy]

It's a complicated issue, you can't solve it with just one cast.

Let the oracle guide you, ask the follow-up questions.

Something is not yet visible.
-> what is not visible?

One can make a few improvements to not see the decline.
-> what improvements can be made?

Also the comment for 9.6 comes from me and not from the Yi so it may hinder a correct understanding.