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Hi guys
I wanted to share my experience on hex. 11 - which i must say has become my favorite!

I got it the morning before leaving on a business trip abroad - and i was quite surprised as those are usually quite stressful and that's probably the last hexagram i expected!

Anyway, albeit in terms of work it was successful , and also i didn't get much sleep as we wanted to do as much sightseeing, shopping and clubbing as possible - the stay went unbelievably smoothly though, and the country itself is one of those small, clean and safe European countries... pure joy, i have enjoyed it thoroughly!

I can't recall having Peace 11. unchanging, more so on a question about business trip - but there you go! Though i would share it for eventual future reference. :)

(I've been lurking into the forum for quite a while and sometimes, when double-checking the hexagrams i got, i feel blessed when i see someone's else's experience to which i can relate - hence my posting. :bows: )
 

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Welcome to Clarity, Littlebuddha. How fortunate you were on your business trip!
 

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Couldn't Resist

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Thank you Little Buddha. Your post is very helpful to me, as I have gotten 11 unchanging at times and have never been quite sure about it without change. Glad to hear it worked out so beautifully for you. I got 11.0 a year and a half ago when I moved to a new residence. I was feeling very nervous at the time and unsure if I had made the right move. I read the judgement on this site: "how will you work with this extraordinary potential?" It put my heart at rest...and everyday that question is still active, because the potential here has been extraordinary, and I am continually finding new ways to work with it.
 

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Thank you, Pocossin!

What a wonderful image, tigerintheboat! Thank you so much for sharing it!

Thank you for sharing your experience, bamboo!!! I am so glad you got 11th hexagram on moving to your new residence!
 

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personally i had mixed experience with hex 11 unchanging.... what i noticed is that when i'm nervous or stressed because i have to manage a well known stressing task.... the outcome for 11 is peace, joy and or success.

the situation outcome is a bit different when i'm asking by being safe about something.
 
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personally i had mixed experience with hex 11 unchanging.... what i noticed is that when i'm nervous or stressed because i have to manage a well known stressing task.... the outcome for 11 is peace, joy and or success.

the situation outcome is a bit different when i'm asking by being safe about something.

Hi Patro and anyone else who can chime in about this.
I just asked Yi about my safety because of a recent situation. I am a little freaked out currently. I asked, "What can I do to ensure I am safe from X"? and received 11 unchanging. I am flipping thru the search hexagram past posts and I found this thread and what patro wrote struck a chord but not sure if it is a good or bad note.
Is it because I am freaking out that I am getting 11? Is it telling me to chill out. I honestly don't feel safe. This doesn't often happen to me.

Back story, a few minutes ago I asked "How should I proceed with X"? and got 26.1>18. This pretty much assured me that something was going on that isn't good and to not proceed at all.

So that is why I asked how to ensure my safety.
Please help.
 

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AQ, here is a thread to my recent experience with a belligerent man and Hexagram 11.

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=14306

Notice though that this person is in another country and bullying on the telephone -- I didn't have to actively fear some physical confrontation.

If you feel in physical danger I would do two things. I would go and stay with family or friends right now -- even ask them to come pick you up if you're worried about driving on your own. And I would call the police. It's not worth taking chances reading the Yi and hoping. See what I did years ago in "Your Experiences With Unchanging Castings -- Hexagram 4," reading the Yi wrong -- could have changed my life for the better to just go for help and not think twice. I found out a couple years too late what I was dealing with. Get help now, now, now.

Love, Arabella:hug:
 
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Thanks Arabella. I called my mom to hear her voice but couldn't bring myself to tell her what is happening. For fear that NOTHING is, and I don't want to worry her.

It's the same situation as yours in that the man is sort of agressive. I met him yesterday at a store and we exchanged numbers and now he is calling, texting etc and he is saying off the wall things like "please please just get back to me".

he wanted me to leave the store right away with him and have dinner. i have never met him before! I told him i couldn't because i had laundry going at home. he seemed nice but I couldn't gauge him. so I said, well maybe some other time. he was extremely flirty as well. he took my number.

Earlier before class today I was out on my front step and I thought I saw him drive by! and then he left me very passionate and extreme texts. Just too much emotion for JUST meeting in a store.

I don't want anything to do with him, but I don't know how to proceed. Yi said 26.1>18 ... I did take that as stop and do not proceed. but I didn't know if I should simply tell him I am not interested. I feel like he could blow up from the sound of things. he is really tall and I am rather short. if he knew where i lived that could be bad but i remember saying the street i lived on because at the store he just breifly asked where i lived. the store is near both of us. I swear.... this whole situation is terrible.
So i didn't know how to take 11UC for my safety.

So, I don't know if i am asking too many questions, but i asked, "what will happen if i kindly tell him i am not interested"? === 40UC.
I am at a lose... and I feel too stupid to tell someone I know right now what is taking place for fear that I am seeing this all wrong. 40 is about removing agressiveness, so I sort of think I should be honest with him and in a light manner say something to him. I have not contacted him once. I only talked to him in the store. Maybe him sending all of these messages and me not saying anyting back is irritating him. (which is a terrible trait to have when you first meet someone) but maybe to relax the situation I could say something. Any thoughts? I am going to call a friend right now and just tell her the situation.
 

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I've had guys approach me at shops and want to go out -- one even left his name and phone number under the windshield of my car and we met up in a public place and dated over a long while. But this is off the wall behaviour and way too intense, needy and desperate. More like a stalker.

I'd make the police aware, see if they would cruise your area and keep an eye out for him if you can describe him [and his car if possible] and I'd get their advice how to handle someone like this. They will have procedures for what to do and from his mobile number can find out who he is and have a chat perhaps to let him know they know and what he is doing just isn't on.

Also, I'd go somewhere else for a while, if only for the reason that you will feel more and more strung out if you aren't able to get proper sleep and relax a bit.:hug:
 

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Sorry, being concerned for your immediate safety I didn't really read the lines did I! I'd read the omen for the first casting, 26.1, as the snake who has suddenly appeared from the underbrush and startled you. Of course, there are poisonous and nonpoisonous snakes but -- to me -- none of them are ever attractive! Any normal guy is going to know he was freaking you out, even if he was so attracted he was anxious to see you again. So this guy is a snake who doesn't belong in the place where he is with you.

Other animal omens here, the hexagram itself I usually think of as the Bull, charging along. A bull will squash you, if for no other reason than it is huge. The line says, this needs to stop, you need to heed your instincts, which you are. So, even if this bull intends to be harmless, he's in the china shop and he's smashing the place up. Hexagram 18, there is something in his background/upbringing that causes him to act like a weirdo. That's his problem --- not yours. If his intention is to be insistent, not alarming, he's going about it all wrong. Time to grow up and realise if he does this with women the police will be at his door!

Hexagram 40 would indicate to me that I need to get loose of the situation. No, just be kind and stay involved. Step back, step out, give it to those to handle who can deal with it. That may see extreme -- it may even BE extreme in the end. But guys can't do whatever they please, even if they aren't stalkers.
 
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I had the worst nights sleep. Ugh. I am really getting a feeling about this. It is so strange. I don't think it is good. I asked today "If I remain calm and do not act, how will things turn out in regards to X? I got 39.5>15. I need help and I am going to get it. It seems that from my instincts and also the readings, AND also the way he is texting me and leaving me "urgent" messages from TWO cell phone numbers, that he isn't going to just back off. He has stated that he is upset that I haven't returned his messages. He get's upset and then in the next message very "sweet". He's very unbalanced.

I went outside this morning for work and there was a huge flock of loud crows flying over my apartment building. First off it was dark. They must have gotten up early to send me their message. And Second, they were flying NE in the direction that he said he lived. In the valley. Crow's to me are a sign and a warning of mischief and trickery. The crows themselves are defender's and trying to make people aware of the dark situation. I am always looking for them to help me. I have rarely seen them before the sun comes up.

I have a couple people I can stay with. :hug:From the bottom of my heart I thank you for responding. I was panicked and it helped to hear some good advice. :hug:

Even though I am going to leave my apartment for a couple of days, I get the feeling like that isn't what the Yi is talking about. I think that it might be saying simply waiting it out will not work.

Hilary's translation and comments on 39.5:
‘In great difficulties, partners come.’

Great difficulties, not just ordinary ones. In these times help comes – allies, people invested in the same things you are. They bring support, but not an absolute guarantee you’ll win through.

I do not have a significant other to protect me. I just have a bunch of girl friends. I feel like the allies might be the cops. I might have to wait to see if something "worthy" of calling happens. Sometimes the police disregard people's cry's for help.

Am I reading 39.5>15 right? That I cannot do this alone.
 

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I had the worst nights sleep. Ugh. I am really getting a feeling about this. It is so strange. I don't think it is good. I asked today "If I remain calm and do not act, how will things turn out in regards to X? I got 39.5>15. I need help and I am going to get it. It seems that from my instincts and also the readings, AND also the way he is texting me and leaving me "urgent" messages from TWO cell phone numbers, that he isn't going to just back off. He has stated that he is upset that I haven't returned his messages. He get's upset and then in the next message very "sweet". He's very unbalanced.

I went outside this morning for work and there was a huge flock of loud crows flying over my apartment building. First off it was dark. They must have gotten up early to send me their message. And Second, they were flying NE in the direction that he said he lived. In the valley. Crow's to me are a sign and a warning of mischief and trickery. The crows themselves are defender's and trying to make people aware of the dark situation. I am always looking for them to help me. I have rarely seen them before the sun comes up.

I have a couple people I can stay with. :hug:From the bottom of my heart I thank you for responding. I was panicked and it helped to hear some good advice. :hug:

Even though I am going to leave my apartment for a couple of days, I get the feeling like that isn't what the Yi is talking about. I think that it might be saying simply waiting it out will not work.

Hilary's translation and comments on 39.5:


I do not have a significant other to protect me. I just have a bunch of girl friends. I feel like the allies might be the cops. I might have to wait to see if something "worthy" of calling happens. Sometimes the police disregard people's cry's for help.

Am I reading 39.5>15 right? That I cannot do this alone.

I think that 39.5 is saying to reach out and you'll find more help than you ever imagined. Just go...the people to assist you are there. Just ask. Also says that when things seem darkest, the forces to arise and help are enormous, and will be on your side. :hug:
 
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I think that 39.5 is saying to reach out and you'll find more help than you ever imagined. Just go...the people to assist you are there. Just ask. Also says that when things seem darkest, the forces to arise and help are enormous, and will be on your side. :hug:

:hug::eek: thank you
 

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Look, you met a guy, he is interested, you gave him your number and so he thinks you are interested. And without saying you're really not that interested, you expect him to back off? What, he should read your mind, or you're calling the Police and accusing him of being a stalker? Really?

I know several couples that the man seemed overly open or emotional to the woman on first meeting, and they could not be more happy now. You judge him a psycho for that???

But let's see what the Yi says.

"What can I do to ensure I am safe from X"?
11 unchanging
"Heaven and earth unite: the image of PEACE. Thus the ruler
Divides and completes the course of heaven and earth;
He furthers and regulates the gifts of heaven and earth,
And so aids the people."

He is not a threat, call him up and tell him you aren't interested in going out with him. Divide and complete the course you started when you gave him your number.

"what will happen if i kindly tell him i am not interested"?
=== 40UC.
"Through clarity he brings deliverance. However, when failings come to light, he does not dwell on them; he simply passes over mistakes, the unintentional transgressions, just as thunder dies away. He forgives misdeeds, the intentional transgressions, just as water washes everything clean."

He will forgive you for making him think you were interested, when you really weren't. Whether he thinks you did it on purpose or not.

Jeez Ladies.... He is going to feel humiliated as it is pursuing you when you really weren't interested in him at all.
 

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I'd be content to see it a hundred other ways, Lavalamp, the way that you are saying -- and more ways besides. But when a woman feels threatened by over-attention then it is time for her to follow her gut -- not just the Yi. And the Yi can as easily be saying the opposite of what you mention.

If it's an overreaction, no harm done and the guy's embarrassed or surprised. He'll apologise presumably for scaring someone with his frightening level of exuberance. He's completely inappropriate and weird to think anybody would be flattered rather than scared by professions of feelings he can't possibly have for someone he doesn't even know. If this is how he comes onto women he meets in the shops without knowing them in the least then he needs to mature in lots of ways and AQ hasn't lost a thing.

I can completely appreciate, considering the headlines you so often read [and presumably he reads them too?] that AQ is going to feel a need to distance herself from somebody so thoroughly off-base in the scale of their emotions and behavior -- and then she has been wise and so much the better for it. She already can't sleep at night -- quite an effect this guy is having! Let it go -- protect and preserve yourself first. Hexagram 40 Unchanging.
 

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Arabella, if she is not interested it would be common courtesy, after giving him her number, to tell him so. She is losing sleep because she did not do this in the first place days ago, looking for the easy way out. If she tells him and he persists that is another matter.

It is a big world, and not everyone draws on the same familial and cultural references. Maybe in your frame of reference, you give a guy your number and don't call back he should know he should know what you mean. But in some cultures, to act in such a manner would be extremely rude and he might be giving her the benefit of the doubt, because he likes her, perhaps thinking if he shows sincerity she'll understand he's seriously interested and not just looking for something casual.

How hard is it to say "Sorry, I understand you are well intentioned, but I'm not really interested in dating you?" I don't see the danger/cause for fear that she is expressing here, and I don't see it in what the Yi says about the situation either.
 
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I got much better sleep at my parents house. :hug:
Thanks for the advice both of you.
I would like to explain a little better. Before I was panicking because I felt unsafe.


When we met at the store he was a perfect gentleman. I had every intention of contacting him further. We talked, laughed and discussed things we liked etc. He contacted me firstly after I had went to sleep for the night. So I did not get up and get my phone and reply. I figured I would take it slow and reply with a fresh wakeful mind. I also work before the sun comes up so I wanted to get good rest for the busy day I knew was to follow. After work I had class and I always put my phone on vibrate. It is a Tai Chi class and so my phone isn't even by my side, it is over on a distant table. When class was over, and I was driving back home, I checked my phone. He had sent many messages, from two different phone numbers mind you, and he also left me one very urgent voice mail. When I say urgent, not only do I mean his tone and his attitude, but also he selected the option on the phone so that when I received the message it actually said "You have one Urgent Message".

I am a busy girl. I also just got out of a relationship that did not end very well(it happens). Everyone (well, most) want to meet someone to share their lives with. I consider myself to be in a time in my life where I am not looking to date anyone. I am working on me. This phase just start about a week ago. I eventually want to share my love with someone. This random meeting of this man was just that.. random. And he approached me. He kept insisting that we go to dinner that minute. He wanted me to leave the store and get in the car with him and have dinner. At the time, that was flattering to me. I considered the possibility that he could possibly be a soul mate. That he could be a light in the darkness from my previous relationship. Well, the fact of the matter is, I should have seen him insisting to go to dinner right away as a sign or a mirror of his personality.

When we were talking in the store, he briefly mentioned he was from DC and had just moved into town. He said that he lived "right over there" and pointed to a close by community. I briefly said that area was nice and I live right up "that hill" on X street. It is a big street with many turns and many different landscapes. Now this is the part that runs more on intuition than fact, but I must listen: I thought I saw him drive by before I went to class. I was outside and a man that look strangely like him, I am not saying it was him, drove by turning his head and driving slowly. Then I go to class and I have all of these messages.

I guess I would also like to say that I have the right to be friendly with someone and then decide that I do not want to contact them further. The decision could be personal, it could be based on something I see very clearly or something I feel very intuitionally. I could also decide this because of no reason at all. It is my right. It is also his right, since I gave him my number, to contact me. That doesn't mean I have to respond (now that it has turned into bad messaging). He has the right to contact me until he would cross the line. I think my friends sensed what was going on and they all decided that it is just better safe than sorry.

I spoke with him just one time. At the store. He has the attitude and mindset that I do owe him something already. Mind you, I had the intention of saying something casually before he started to blow up my phone in a negative manner.


To sum things up, when I started finding out how he was responding to me, it told me that he is not the type of guy that I am interested in. Not someone I would want to devote time to. A "turn off" so to speak. Then it heightened and became even more than that. He is someone I am trying to say away from.

I run on my intuition. There were a lot of little things that were arrows for me that made me come to the decision to not contact him further. The fact is, I am very into symbolism. I use the Yi for heaven's sakes! :rofl: I look for signs. I believe in the divine sending messages if we are open to looking. I was perfectly content with further contacting him. No negative feelings and then all of a sudden rushes of negative signs were flooding me and also his messages. Double the reason to not contact him.

My friend had a stalker situation years ago in another state. She is a very wonderful woman. She is very wise and I love her very much. I take what she has to heart and I know she is always looking out for my best interest when she advices me. She told me it would be smart to not contact him at all. She said I do not owe him that just because of one meeting. She said that if I did, it would open up the communication and he would just keep bothering me and asking "why"? She also adviced that I stay somewhere else for a few days, just to be sure that he isn't going to harm me. I took it all to heart and I am just playing it safe now. I am not a "play the victum" type. I am a very open and trusting person. Sometimes too much. I have never had anything like this happen to me before. I do not want him to suffer and I want to just do what is right and what will keep the situation safe.

Lavalamp. Do you still think I was in the wrong? I was also going off of the readings which to me were strengthening my gut feelings.

26.1 - ‘There is danger.
Harvest in bringing it to an end.’
 
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Let it go -- protect and preserve yourself first. Hexagram 40 Unchanging.
:hug:

Hilary's 40:
'Release. Harvest in the southwest.
With no place to go,
To turn round and come back is good fortune.
Having a direction to go,
Daybreak, good fortune.’


I have no place to go with this situation. I am making a U turn. :eek:

I think that 39.5 is saying to reach out and you'll find more help than you ever imagined. Just go...the people to assist you are there. Just ask. Also says that when things seem darkest, the forces to arise and help are enormous, and will be on your side. :hug:

I am finding out I have very wonderful and quite protective friends.

My one good friend got me some phone numbers to call and get free advice on what my rights are in this kind of a situation. She knows that "nothing" as happened but I have a feeling and I just want to be safe. She knows that I don't want to make an issue if I don't have to (minimal is better) and that I am sort of embarassed by the whole thing. I put too much trust into something thinking innocently. So she just thought it would be wise to simply call and see what the complete situation from a law standpoint.

:hugs: 'partners' and 'allies' are my friends. But if something were to seem like the cops need involvement, I will not hesitate.
 
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Yi said 26.1>18 ... I did take that as stop and do not proceed.

Also, do nothing to avert the trouble. The man has troubles. They are not your troubles. Yi says, "Be peaceful."

So, I don't know if i am asking too many questions, but i asked, "what will happen if i kindly tell him i am not interested"? === 40UC.

You must free yourself internally from the sense of connection to this troubled man. You don't owe him any explanation. He has somehow caught your imagination and you're wondering what you should do. My interpretation is that Yi is saying that if you get your imagination free -- you will be okay.
 
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AND also the way he is texting me and leaving me "urgent" messages from TWO cell phone numbers

Stop reading his text messages.

He's very unbalanced.

You said it. He's extremely needy right now but that doesn't mean you have to respond to his neediness.

This man is intense, impulsive, and he is intrusive. But there is no evidence that he is violent.

I think this is an energy thing. You have picked up on his hyper-intense energy system and it has thrown you into disarray. All the more reason to not answer his text messages or get any further involved.
 
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Look, you have to look at hexagrams in the context of the specific question asked. The question was "What will happen if I tell him I'm not interested" and the Yi said he'd turn around and go back and there would be good fortune. Are you sure you aren't giving him "the silent treatment" because you wish to make an emotional statement about you not being attracted to him, rather than really trying to solve the situation? And to make the point "this is your right," to not talk to him?

The way it looks to me is, this has a lot to do with your sense of uncertainty - insecurity. If you had simply texted him the next day that you weren't really available to go out with him, thanks but no thanks, please lay off it bothers me, you would know for certain rather than have to guess and be scared for what could well be no good reason.
 

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Did I say this is an energy thing?

I think his energy is hyperactive and intrusive and yours, AQ, is quiet and receptive. You were overwhelmed by his driven energy, as many women certainly would be.

I say 'driven,' because one gets the sense from what AQ has written that he isn't intending to stop or that he keeps going past the point that the 'normal' interchange would have stopped. In other words, he's using force when none is called for. It's an energy thing, not a question of overt actions.
 
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I say 'driven,' because one gets the sense from what AQ has written that he isn't intending to stop or that he keeps going past the point that the 'normal' interchange would have stopped. In other words, he's using force when none is called for. It's an energy thing, not a question of overt actions.

That is what I was trying to say and couldn't. Thank you.
 
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Look, you have to look at hexagrams in the context of the specific question asked. The question was "What will happen if I tell him I'm not interested" and the Yi said he'd turn around and go back and there would be good fortune. .

Hi Lava. I appreciate your approach at looking at this differently. I have to go with my instincts. As for the Yi's advice, I think it was, and usually is, talking to me. If I could rephrase your advice - "I turn around and go back and there would be good fortune". I think it was telling me not to pursue things further.

Are you sure you aren't giving him "the silent treatment" because you wish to make an emotional statement about you not being attracted to him, rather than really trying to solve the situation? And to make the point "this is your right," to not talk to him?

My geers don't run that way. I would never even think to approach a situation that way, let alone execute it. And like I said before, I was interested in him. I was going to take things slowly in the beginning. He was a very physically attractive man. Classically so. He was tall dark and handsome. He was also a bit nerdy looking, which I liked. Looks are not everything. Vibes are important. When he originally texted and I was sleepy, I thought to myself "I will contact him soon". But it was a very simple thought. I don't want to rush.

The way it looks to me is, this has a lot to do with your sense of uncertainty - insecurity. If you had simply texted him the next day that you weren't really available to go out with him, thanks but no thanks, please lay off it bothers me, you would know for certain rather than have to guess and be scared for what could well be no good reason

These things did cross my mind Lava. To contact him to at least tell him I am not interested. I care about human emotions and how other people are affected by others. I went over and over it again in my head. But thru this thread, talking to my friends, and just really listening to myself, I think it is best not to open the lines of communication. Things just got a little too odd for my liking. Silence will have to talk on my behalf in this situation. If he is a nice guy and the series of events that took place were missunderstood, he will still get over it. We only spoke (back and forth) one time in a store isleway. ;)

And if it is a more serious situation than that, talking with him would only feed into the bad energy. :hug:
 
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I imagine a world where you needn't be attracted to a person to treat them with respect and as a person, rather than as a non-person.

However uncultured and socially ignorant he may be, you are interpreting the Yi's answers by changing the question you asked to match your actions. You didn't ask what YOU SHOULD do, you asked what HE WOULD DO if you simply politely told him "not interested," 40 says HE would go away, not YOU would go away. Instead you said nothing, and he was too ignorant of women to read your mind, and as a result now everyone has hurt feelings in what could have been solved with a 3 sentence text.

Dealing with the uncultured and ignorant with tolerance brings good fortune, says the Yi.
 
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Thanks Lavalamp :bows::hug:

The question was "What will happen?"
.. and I am not sure if he has hurt feelings. He seems to be not hurt but rather upset/angered if that makes sense. Side note: The Yi doesn't say 'she'.

Unchanging hexagrams sure are an anomaly and I am still not sure how to take it. In the pinch I felt myself in, I went with instincts about what Yi was saying. Perhaps I will gain much knowlegde from this reading.

Wilhelm's Translation of the Image of 40:
Thunder and rain set in:
The image of DELIVERANCE.
Thus the superior man pardons mistakes
And forgives misdeeds.

I believe you might be right about what the Yi's intent was. Perhaps it is saying to clear the air. I think it is speaking of myself still, but you might be right.....

Honestly, he seemed to create a fuzz in my mind. It is starting to clear up and I see what you are saying. Or perhaps the Yi was saying clear my mind first. :eek:

I might have to ask another question, only because that advice was from days ago. I might have missed my 40 opportunity.

Next question: "Please advice me on whether or not to say anything to Adam at the current time".
Answer: 59.4.5 > 64

59: Offerings could be speaking of the communication. Offering him words.
Harvest in Consistancy could be on the other hand saying stick to no contact.

.4 is about thinking outside of the box and .5 is about clearing things up ???

64: My personal relationship with this hexagram is coming into contact with someone where we do not see eye to eye and can not get on the same page.

Care to share your thoughts Lava? I know this seems to be going on and on.
Anyone have any thoughts on this?
 

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I am a little freaked out currently. I asked, "What can I do to ensure I am safe from X"? and received 11 unchanging.

Back to your original question, I think Yi was saying, "Peace, child" or "Please be peaceful." Yi can be very reassuring in moments of extreme stress.
 

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Things just got a little too odd for my liking.We only spoke (back and forth) one time in a store isleway. ;)

Gee, you two only knew each other for a few minutes in an aisle in a store and already you were embroiled in some sort of argument/snafu/conflict/turmoil/fight-or-flight scenario. Doesn't bode well for any kind of relationship in the future, does it?

From what you've written, AQ, it sounds like this man may be suffering from ADHD -- attention deficit disorder and hyperactivity -- as an adult. Sufferers are very intense, and tend to make odd mistakes in communication, like the way he sent you a number of messages tagged as URGENT when you had barely met -- and therefore could hardly have anything urgent to discuss.

But that is just speculation on my part ... based on knowing people like that.
 
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