Hexagram 12 all lines changing > Hexagram 11

[sushi]

I've been out of communication with my ex for nearly 3 months now. We had an argument and he hung up on me and hasn't spoken to me since. Mostly, our arguments were about his bad habits and the type of people he hangs around with. He still has my house keys and his stuff is still at my place. I've texted him and he has not replied. Frustrated, I asked the I-ching. What would make him compliant? I got Hexagram 12, all lines changing, to Hexagram 11. A dramatic answer for sure, but I am confused as to how to interpret it.

 

[chingching]

make peace, and that will remove all obstruction, 11 is heaven under mountain, so there are still boundaries to be kept but the vast energy of heaven go quite well in such a situation, a bit of let go and let god but also keeping the stability of mountain.

 

[sushi]

Ok, so how does one make peace with someone when they are blocked off completely? It's not like I haven't tried. KWIM?

 

[chingching]

feel peace in yourself, its like just letting go from within, give it up for you cant make them do anything, give up trying, instead- flow

 

[sushi]

I could see that if I had gotten Hexagram 17, but that's not the kind of flow suggested by number 11. And, I've already let things go for three months already. It's not produced any result. I need my keys back.

 

[gnar]

I think there's your answer.

In any case, this is about a dramatic change. But remember it's only a potential. All the lines you must look into if you have the patience.

1. Reminds us that some things go deep beyond the surface. We seem to be who we are, or things seem to be simple from the outside, or from other people's view, but there are deeper reasons why we are the ways we are.

2. Two options here presented: for someone in service, we adopt. For someone who leads, it's best to not bear anything that is not in accord with your purpose.

3. Reminds us that we don't have to bear with others and suffer with them. We feel this wrong inside. It's about seeking your own roots regarding the situation, and facing it.

4. This tells of finding a purpose. Finding something good, and moving along with it's call. Those who will follow it will have the good it produces. Those who don't will not. This reminds us of opportunities of good, or getting inspiration. Leave the dead to bury themselves, so to speak.

5. This reminds of securing one's position. Taking care to be prepared for whatever comes to be able to stick to the good one follows.

6. This reminds us that nothing stays the same. Everything opens a way to another. One phase or situation leads to another. The imbalance finally gives way to harmony. Perspectives change too.

If I were the one to write what you wrote in the opening post, I'd talk to her, and seek to make things more equitable. We don't have to get back together, but I'd show her I'm willing to listen. Not so that she can prove herself, but that now, I really want to find peace. And the only way to have that is to understand her, what she thinks, how she thinks, her reasons, her judgement, everything as much as possible.

To come into balance with her, so I can come to terms with myself, so to speak.

 

[sushi]

I think there's your answer.

In any case, this is about a dramatic change. But remember it's only a potential. All the lines you must look into if you have the patience.

If I were the one to write what you wrote in the opening post, I'd talk to her, and seek to make things more equitable. We don't have to get back together, but I'd show her I'm willing to listen. Not so that she can prove herself, but that now, I really want to find peace. And the only way to have that is to understand her, what she thinks, how she thinks, her reasons, her judgement, everything as much as possible.

To come into balance with her, so I can come to terms with myself, so to speak.

Thank you. I appreciate the time you took to write out this reply. I am still stumped however since I can't talk to him because he will not answer my phone calls nor my text messages.

 

[gnar]

Why not ask why he doesn't answer your calls nor try to communicate with you?