Hexagram 15, 25 and 37

[teatree]

Hex 20.3 > 53

Hi,

I'm hoping to get some help in interpreting those hexagrams. It's probably best if I start by describing the situation first.

There is this person in the same class who I really want to get to know better. We have been working in the same group since January. But our conversation never went beyond assignments. He seems to be a very career-oriented person, always busy with work and had to skip classes many times. So I didn't get to see him a lot in person. Even our meeting has been only once per week through voice conference, that lasted about 15 mins each time...

Monday was the last class. He first came to sit next to me. But after a while, I did not have much to say. So he moved to sit next to the other guy classmate. At the end of our presentation, I tried to start some casual conversations (but to no avail) and let him know that I would like to get in touch, but I did not see very positive response from him.

The only good sign I observed so far is that during the few times he ever came to class, he would look for me first and always gave that friendly smile. He also seems to be more comfortable to rely on me (than any other members) and asked me questions regarding the course.

To make the long story short, I don't even know him. So, it is obviously just a crush.. but I wonder a lot about his personality. This is really the first time I found it so difficult to approach someone. I'm ready to give up and let it go. A career person will be very tough to deal with, right ? . Besides, he could have been married, or in a relationship with someone else.

Anyways, these are the hexagrams I received:

1) On Monday, the Yi gave me Hexagram 15 - Modesity, without changing line. I did not really formulated my question because I was kind of disappointed from his lack of positive response.

2) Yesterday, I received Hexagram 25 (Wu Wang, with no changing line) from asking what he could possibly think about me.

3) Today, the Yi gave me Hexagram 37 (Family) with changing line 2, which gave Hexagram 9, Little Accumulation. I asked whether there was anything else I could do...I think the most I could do is to add him to Facebook. If he does not approve, the answer will be obvious.

I've been trying to understand their meanings and how I can relate the answers to each other, but I would like to see any opinions regarding this.

Thanks a lot and very much appreciated .

 

[teatree]

I should rephrase my questions. The above description must be a bit long and complicated So just ignore them .

From what I have seen so far, there is no way to get to know him better if he is not receptive. It takes two hands to clap for a relationship to work. Looks like nothing will happen once our group work is done...although I feel the hexagrams I received before were not so bad. So I asked Yi Jing again for the last time about it.

This time, I asked: What attitude should I have toward him? I don't want to think negatively, and end up judging him just because my feelings are not reciprocated. There must be reasons behind it (it could be he is busy, does not think about looking for someone, or he's committed with someone else).

I got Hexagram 20 with changing line 3, which then gave Hex 53 (gradual progress). How can there be a progress? The Yi probably returned the question to myself...

I pretty much know what I should do (move on and focus on something else, perhaps this is not the right time)...but it is just hard to let go of this opportunity. I just want to make sure I have done enough from my part. I would love to able to tell him, but I think I cannot ask him directly because it will make the situation awkward.

Thanks again

 

[willowfox]

You said that to obtain your first set of answers you simply opened the book and read the hex on that page, well this is not a good way at all of obtaining an answer and that is why I for one did not answer yesterday. Use coins.
Now, how did you obtain your last answer, as it answers your question?

Line 20.3 says that you have to think about the reality of the situation and not just about what you want, as you are only seeing the issue only from your point of view at the moment, so you need to make a sensible choice here, if he is giving you some positive indications of interest then slowly open up to him and go to him. But so far from what you have said you have done very little to endear him to you, you got to be a lot more exciting and outgoing if you want this guy to be interested in you.

 

[teatree]

Hi willowfox,

Thanks very much for your reply. I used the book for the first hexagram as I was quite disappointed right after the class that day, and did not really know what to ask. Then for the subsequent hexagrams I received, I used the automatic online reading on this website. Hopefully it is the same as actually throwing the coins.

I think he is not interested in me, as I did not see any positive response from him. I guess once our group work is done, he has no intention to keep in touch. There is no need for him to ask me questions anymore. I also tried to add him to Facebook, but several days have passed. He probably did not want to be annoyed or too busy to check.

You are right that I did not do very much in order to get to know him. I felt that the only thing I could do was to work hard on our assignments so our group would do well. I thought actions would speak louder than words?....

I actually spent a lot of time for the group work, more than I should have....part of it also wants to let him know. But maybe it does not matter to him. He's always busy and only discussed when necessary.

I do not have other choice. I respect him, so I really don't know if he would mind if I ask more about him. I feel I don't have other things to talk about with him other than our course, and just being myself...

On the positive note, I'm glad that others can see my hard work and appreciate what I have done. Some of them have also indicated their willingness to keep in touch after the class is over . It's funny how things work out this way... it is not him, but a few other people. Better than no one .

Thanks a lot again for your response .