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Hexagram 21 unchanging and manipulation?

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Good evening forum,
Im sorry i didnt respond in other posts..i couldn'y help myself the last days.
Accept an attack from a stranger outside my door and o survived(im ok now)
And then fired of my job but eith very undermanned way.
Unfortunately the guy i still be with wasnt there to support me withb actions but only talk with the phone, the truth is that we live in a distance in qbout 10 minutes.
Only when i said him on phone ," where are you?"
He said me that he wasnt to my priorities... whatever....
I take some time on my one in order to find myself because with all these rhings its been like a strike on my soul and my head.
I ask yi of my boyfriend manipulate me?
And i got 21 unchanging...
What does it mean s this one?
I ront now me my feelings imare so frustrated and i cant see clear.everytime i tell him about my feelings ..he tells me to be in his position of feelings and i feel that he is totally cancels my try to nake him understand how i feel.
 

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I think it means you need to treat this a bit like a legal case. This answer shows there is somerhing to tackle here.
 

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A legal issue? Like to gather more informations and then punish him? Or cut him out of my life i think..
 

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Yes, for you this is already a matter similar to a court case in your head isn't it.

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Unfortunately the guy i still be with wasnt there to support me withb actions but only talk with the phone, the truth is that we live in a distance in qbout 10 minutes.
Only when i said him on phone ," where are you?"
He said me that he wasnt to my priorities... whatever....
I take some time on my one in order to find myself because with all these rhings its been like a strike on my soul and my head.
I ask yi of my boyfriend manipulate me?
And i got 21 unchanging..

So the legal case is you got attacked and he didn't come.

Is that okay by you or not? 21 asks you to be clear and logical and make a decision based on that. The Image says

'Thunder and lightning. Biting through.
The ancient kings brought light to punishments and enforced the laws.'


The law is like teeth biting together to bring out the truth and this is a process of law and justice for you. You have to examine evidence and then decide what is right and true for you. This would be a deal breaker I think for many people 'are you going to come when I'm in trouble?' and if the answer is 'no' what use are they in your life? Only you know but be firm and clear not emotional and soft.
 

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Ok now it makes sense i understand what you say to me trojina...the attack took place in monday and i told him about that in Tuesday but because i was in the police station in order to make my accusation report i was all the time busy and all the time talking to telephone with friends of mine because i put in social media what happened to me in order (for the other women amd girls)to check the characteristics of the perpetrator and avoid a same attack in the future .
So in Wednesday we talk with my boyfriend again and i realised that he didn't said me to meet each other or something like that ... something that people who care for its others say or do..and i asked him then where are you,??
He said to me that he wasnt in my priorities these days
And i was like what,?? Isn't it a totally manipulative behaviour of his side because he cant have relations with really serious issues?
Ι told him that i understand that he didt know what to do but oh God this is so cruel for me.
But i have to brake up with him but im so confused and overwhelming and when i try to figure my feelings and take the responsibility to break up with him . something he sais or do nake me overwhelm and i loouse touch with my pro- decision.
 

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It does sound like you have to be firm and clear. You don't have to settle for someone who doesn't put you first and maybe low self esteem keeps you hanging on do you think? You gotta look in the mirror and tell yourself you're worthy of better care than that.
 

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Your writing is right and insightful i know i must make decisions and stand up for myself.One thing that confused me very much was that he said me that he wasnt in my priorities ..when i ask him what the hell did he mean with that he replied me that i was busy with the police station and officers ti gind wut the perpetrator snd he felt that he must back off...pff whatever .i ask now iching Will it be for my good if i break up with him?
And give me hexagram 60.3.5 >11 which results to Peace.
I think it tells me something like you said me ..try be not overwhelming and to first discipline myself in order to do so..put some limitations on me first i suppose so i can put to him afterwards.
 

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60 limitations
60.3 its all my fault because i didn't put restraint to my behaviour to him .
I was all the time forgiving towards him
 

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60.3 you made a mistake, but 60.5 you must also put limitation on yourself in avoiding this person who does not show he cares about you, and if you do, you will then have 11, peace. It doesn't matter how much we think we screwed up or even if we did screw up, sometimes it just comes down to the other person wasn't for us
 

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Will it be for my good if i break up with him?
60.3.5 >11

I think this is saying that it will be fine to break up with him. Go with the flow of events. 60.3 might be you but it could also be him or both of you; it’s not about blame, there just weren’t appropriate boundaries and so now there’s regret. I think this is saying to keep moving, set higher standards, and that actually something better is ahead (60.5 and resulting 11 both seem positive to me but personally I would assume that’s conditional for you following through on the break up. If you’re considering staying, maybe ask a question about that too)

21 UC

I’m not sure if this necessarily means “manipulate” but I’d say you’re getting closer to the truth that something is off in this situation
 

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Thank you redoleander!!
Iws rhinking youe response and you are right both of us we didnt put limitations in each other ehich cause all these problems all the time
Well i asked how things will be if i stay with him.
And got 64.3.4.5 changing to 57 Penetration.
Hex 64 is about before something make its circle smd 57 about studying..learning something.
Now the lines 3 and 5 are similar suppose because its says the 5th about a leap forwarded but 4 oppose the other two lines.
 

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This appears to me a very slow, difficult, and possibly rewarding outcome. I’d be very curious to hear experiences of those who have had this casting and how it turned out.

following the lines:
64.3 Right now is not the time for major action of any kind, there’s a block. This could be about you coming back to the relationship instead of leaving, or it could simply be saying the relationship itself can’t move forward for some reason at this time.

64.4 There’s so big work ahead with this person. I see Demon Country as being things that are unconscious or habitual or ingrained. Not easy to change, but possible with work.

64.5 This is a successful line. Successful to where? I’m actually not sure! It could be learning what you need to learn in the relationship or it could even potentially be the whole thing working out.

57: The best approach is subtle and slow. You would have to be able to have a lot of patience, self-control, and gradualness and so would the other person. It’s about learning what the situation needs rather than imposing a direction on events. And going for the ride, it sounds, according to the others lines.

your first casting, in light of this one, could be about not having boundaries with this person and then setting them or improving behavior together, then things go better. I’ll admit to being biased based on the story of the situation; it sounds like this would take a lot of work. But you would know in your heart how much this is something you want to pursue. I think you’d really have to believe in it and stay open to new info along the way because 64.4 is requires someone heroics in my experience!
 

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