Hexagram 25.5

[freemymind]

First of all I would like to say to everyone! I've been observing this website for a few months now. I do my own readings and pop on here for more of an insight to what I may have missed in my own interpretation. I'm really nothing but an amateur compared to you all! What I was hoping for is to have some help with a reading please. I have been seeing this guy off and on for the last year no commitments which I would wish to have with him but have never told him this, but he does know I like him alot. We have slept together a couple times and he has met my kids, and we have hung out a few times. Everybody likes him. I just don't know where I stand. Should I forget about him or wait? My question is

1) What are we meant to be to each other? I recieved 25.5

2) What does he feel for me now? I received 20.2.5

If someone could please clarify this I would appreciate it so much! Thanks in Advance!

 

[willowfox]

My advice to you is to tell him how you feel, just be cool and rational and do it because at the moment I am sure that he is not aware of your feelings and thus needs to be told.

 

[freemymind]

Thank you Willowfox for your reply. Okay I agree I should tell him how I feel as this is eating me up inside, I just don't want to hear that he doesn't feel the same. But either way I'm getting to the point where I need to know where this is going. So I asked

What kind of difference would it make if I tell him how I feel? And got the wanderer?
56.1.2.3 changing to 38

Then I asked what does he truly want from this?
3.3 changing to 63

This does not seem good to me...help ah, I just don't understand what it is telling me.

 

[willowfox]

What kind of difference would it make if I tell him how I feel? 56.1.2.3 changing to 38

Yes, indeed, you are entering unknown territory with this issue. It suggests that you say what you have to say plain and simple, stay calm and collected, don't force the issue then slowly he will come around to your way of thinking and then things could happen. But whatever, you can no longer keep quiet about this issue.

Then I asked what does he truly want from this?
3.3 changing to 63

As he is unsure of this situation, like he has no idea how you feel, he has not made any move for fear of looking stupid and therefore making a mistake, so he has backed off. But he does seem to need a conclusion.

 

[freemymind]

Hi Willowfox is 3.3 saying he is just as confused as I am about this situation? He said he wanted to be friends only at one point and I agreed with him and told him ya thats okay I'm not ready for a relationship yet anyway(but I am) and not to worry because I wouldn't cry, but I did. Then I emailed him and told him I was a liar because I did cry. He phoned me right away and I told him I was afraid to lose him as a friend because I really do like him and he assured me that he wasn't going anywhere. Actually when he suggested that we should be friends it was like a huge weight was lifted off of both of us and we were able to relax a bit and lines of communication really opened up between us. Then we got together one evening and I told him obviously we are (sexually) attracted to each other and we can't just be friends until we get this out of the way. So this is how things are confusing we both like each other and I would like more but I feel he is afraid and I didn't/don't want to push it for fear of freaking him out and scaring him off. But thus far I also fear I may lose out on him and he really truly is a nice guy. I think we confused each other here! So I asked

Does he like me more than he shows? And I received
14.3 changing to 38 Hmm whats with 38?

 

[willowfox]

Does he like me more than he shows? And I received 14.3 changing to 38

This man has a lot to give and therefore needs to be encouraged to do just that, and Hex 38 speaks of opposition but let me quote what the commentary says about this, "man and woman are opposites, but they strive for union", and therefore there is good fortune in small affairs.

 

[freemymind]

Wow, thank you so much Willowfox! I greatly appreciate your help. I'm kinda stuck on the small affairs part though. So pretty much I should go forward telling him that I like him and have feelings for him but not in a pushy manner then. I will do that. Thank you once again.

 

[willowfox]

I'm kinda stuck on the small affairs part though.

Really, when you view your life as a whole, this really is a rather small affair that you are worrying so much about.