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Sylmia

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Hello everyone! I am new in this forum and this is my first post.
So, I asked the Yi "What should I know about whether my ex cheated on me while we were still together?" and I got hexagram 9 unchanging. I interpreted it as "restrained", meaning he didn't cheat, but the word "minor" disturbed me. Could it mean that he did not restrain himself completely? Or that I should not pay attention to details? I decided to become more specific and I asked the Yi "What should I know about whether my ex slept with or touched another woman?", so that I can exclude the possibility of harmless flirting and I got 26.2 to 22. Okay, major restraint probably means he did nothing, at least to my mind. But what about 22? Could that mean that he admired the beauty of women around him but did not act on it?
He broke up with me years ago and we are currently friends on the way to something more. I asked him if he cheated and he said no, but I don't know if I can trust him.
I would appreciate your thoughts and interpretations!
 

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Hi Sylmmi,

What should I know about whether my ex cheated on me while we were still together?
9 unchanging

No he didn't. He probably did flirt though, and felt tension with someone.

What should I know about whether my ex slept with or touched another woman?
26.2 > 22

I think this says that he did only after you two broke up.
 

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Thank you diamanda. There was a lot of tension in this question for me, so it took a lot of time to confront anything that had to do with that particular person, including your answer. Forgive me for that.
In the end, I thought my ex was not trustworthy enough. He would try to hurt me by talking about other women all the time and mixing truth and lies, so I had to move on. He is still a source of anxiety for me.
 
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Welcome to the community Sylmia,

I don't have much experience like Diamanda and respect her insights as she had given me her opinions in the past.

I totally understand where you are coming from, I think it's a bit dangerous asking Yi about him and his affair because things are constantly changing so it's hard to have a complete and accurate picture. Although I say that, I confess that I depended on Yi heavily for guidance and from there, I slowly found out the truth by discovering and gathering evidence. I went through a very painful experience similar to yours and what I learned from that and would like to share with you is you have to let it go, free yourself from thinking or having anything to do with him, then you will be a lot happier.

I tell myself that they have their own journey and it's the path they need to go through, so bless them and move on with my life. I have many loved ones around me and I cannot let one person take away all the beauty around me, I should not give that person that much power. In any case, I hope by sharing my experience so you'd know that you're not alone.

Regarding the reading, I agree with Diamanda.
What should I know about whether my ex cheated on me while we were still together?
9 unchanging

9UC is an image of dense clouds but no rain, so the answer is no, I don't think so.

What should I know about whether my ex slept with or touched another woman?
26.2 > 22

26.2 is about the axle brackets come apart, it is incapable to move forward in this situation so he probably flirted (22) but did not have an affair with another woman.

Best of luck to you!!
 

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Interesting you phrased the question “What should I know...?” Your answers suggest to me that the IC is advising that whether he did or didn’t cheat, it’s probably best for your sanity you assume he did not. (Although 22 does sound like some fantasizing!)
 

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Dear tubinluv, reading your answer was deeply healing. Thank you for sharing your experience with me and letting me know I am not alone. I made the decision to let go after many years of him repeatedly entering my life and leaving me stranded all over again. It was a painful, humiliating and unfair situation, but as you pointed out, letting go gave me some peace, even though I still have a lot of healing to do. It is most peculiar that people who we do not know can help us heal with a single positive comment, while people who we have known for years can hurt us so much. I wish you the best in life as well!
Dear rosada, thank you for your input! As for the fantasizing, assuming that I am the one the Yi is pointing at, it is a fact that my mind is racing all the time, weaving all kinds of scenarios, so you are spot on!
 
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