hexagram 36 changing to 30

[anubis1984]

i consulted the iching with the question " what can i do to help my friend?"
and got hexagram 36 changing to 30 in return.
we've been in a relationship and we're still co-workers so we meet alot and we're still friends, caring about her required a lot of patience before,(because of her condition) i was thinking maybe we should sit down and talk things over, and while thinking about what is right to do i consulted iching... so what does this exactly mean? should I abandon the idea of talking things over completely?

 

[pocossin]

Welcome to Clarity, Anubis.

Should we should sit down and talk things over?
36.4.6 > 30

The movement from darkness to light suggests that you should talk.

Six in the fourth place means:
He penetrates the left side of the belly.
One gets at the very heart of the darkening of the light,
And leaves gate and courtyard.

Discuss the issues in the relationship.

Six at the top means:
Not light but darkness.
First he climbed up to heaven,
Then he plunged into the depths of the earth.

Get down to fundamental issues. Some aspects of the relationship were heavenly, some otherwise. Talk things over completely.

 

[anubis1984]

Thanks, Another One!!

Thank you so much!!!
But Just to make sure i asked the book of changes how our relationship will turn out?
i got hexagram 3 changing to 8

now i think it tells that all will be well!! but what exactly does it mean?

 

[pocossin]

How will our relationship will turn out?
3.1 > 8

The casting is auspicious that if you take action to improve you relationship by talking over issues, the relationship will improve. Hexagram 3 Difficulty at the Beginning implies that it may be difficult to get the process started, and line 1

Nine at the beginning means:
Hesitation and hindrance.
It furthers one to remain persevering.
It furthers one to appoint helpers.

suggests you need helpers. Do you and your friend have a friend in common with whom you could discuss the situation -- someone with a perspective on the overall situation? Hexagram 8 Holding Together [Union] is auspicious that matters turn out well.

 

[anubis1984]

thank you for the interpretation..
curious enough I've already asked people(in particular a mutual friend of ours) for help..discreetly though....