Hexagram 40 unchanging/Well he failed

[cnmn]

My son failed his first theory test and the second one is coming up. I threw a Hexagram 40, unchanging. The entire class practically failed the first test...this test is on different material...and it is on Monday. I really do not understand this Hexagram as I have to teach him some of the bass clef and other elements of music theory so he will really know it for this test... Hhe is in regular college classes(they don't have another kind) but is registered with the Office of Disabilities as is severely dyslexic, has severe ADD and his Bipolar manic episodes sometimes get int the way of his paying attention in class. He is a a musician(fine one) whop is just beginning a music theory class as q requirement in college. He must pass this course. I am trying my best to help him and he must pass this test on Monday! Hexagram 40...waiting...I can't wait and let him fail again especially when he asked for my help and tutoring. Would love some feedback as to what this Hexagram means for this situation maybe. Love, peace...CNMN

 

[lucia]

Where did you get "waiting" from? Hex 40 is more like "release" or untying knots.

He must pass this course. I am trying my best to help him and he must pass this test on Monday! Hexagram 40...waiting...I can't wait and let him fail again especially when he asked for my help and tutoring.

And that, I suspect, is what needs releasing - your anxieties about it all.

Unchanging hexes often throw you back on yourself in my experience but you don't actually tell us what is the question.

I understand how you feel as a mum and I also understand the determination that your son has for his music. And it is his determination as well as his strong musical talent that will ultimately get him where he wants to go musically. LoL, I was married to a very gifted musician who has never really done anything else. He is successful now and widely respected but it was a long and poverty stricken route - which he has clearly enjoyed!

So Hex 40 says "let go" - release the tension - like an archer pulling back the string of a bow - if you are tense the arrow won't meet its target. That doesn't mean don't help your son, of course not. It just means let go of your anxieties and stresses about the matter because they are interfering with the job in hand.

Your son sounds pretty cool by the way - and it sounds like he's got what it takes. My ex went to Berklee but as a mature student, he got a place for talent, not qualifications and he loved it because it gave him time out to explore and be challenged. But he would have got where he's going no matter what. I suspect your son is the same. He's a musician and they're kind of genetically modified to be that way if you know what I mean.

best of luck
Lucia

 

[willowfox]

It suggests that you need to start teaching him right away in preparedness for the test, help him all you can, and then Monday night you should have cause to be happy.

 

[hilary]

Whenever I get hexagram 40 I watch carefully to see where I'm using the words 'must' and 'have to' and 'should'. You're saying he must pass on Monday. Hexagram 40 might be saying that perhaps his life as a musician will not end if he doesn't. There will be other days, other tests, other courses, and - goodness knows - ways to succeed as a musician that don't involve any courses at all.

You do what you know will work by way of tutoring and helping, you turn back quietly and in a relaxed way from the things that don't lead anywhere, and you untie the whole 'must' knot.

 

[elvis]

My son failed his first theory test and the second one is coming up. I threw a Hexagram 40, unchanging.

hex 40 covers tension release through sudden relaxation of structure (as opposed to 37 that covers tension release through imposition of structure) so perhaps any 'intense' focus may be a bad idea, take a more softly sofly approach. You may also focus on parallel processing, getting learning through feeling the material (and so a mythic thinking focus over a directed thinking focus where the latter is more prone to dyslexia issues).

The feeling emphasis covers different sensory modalities - e.g. some can deal with auditory harmonics using visual harmonics - i.e. colours etc, they learn to PAINT a song etc and that learning includes all about the different 'paints'.

In our brains all sensory data is translated into frequencies/wavelengths/amplitudes and such can cause synesthesia issues.

 

[tigerintheboat]

Multisensory

My son failed his first theory test and the second one is coming up. I threw a Hexagram 40, unchanging...Would love some feedback as to what this Hexagram means for this situation maybe. Love, peace...CNMN

You have received some good advice in the posts above, and I concur with the idea that Hexagram has to do with the releasing of "knots", and "should" and "must" are certainly kinds of knots.

Another perspective is your son's knots. His are not helped by you putting this "life and death" emotion into your thinking. It will certainly be perceived by him and possibly make it harder.

Perhaps you can find a way to get around the dyslexic problem when teaching the material. That would untie a major knot. It occured to me that a multisensory approach might help here, where straight theory taught in words would be hard to absorb. The material below is from a website, as followshttp://www.abrsm.org/?page=parents/advice/item.html&id=252. I hope it is helpful.

The very best way of helping a pupil to remember things is to teach using multisensory techniques. This can be done in innumerable different ways:

Use a stave drawn on the floor (with masking tape) to help your pupil learn the significance of the lines and spaces, scale passages and chord shapes by stepping or jumping around on it. It is a physically interactive way of learning the names of the notes and can be used to introduce the linear shape of a tune.
Use a metal tray and magnets. Place drawings of the score or the instrument on the tray. The magnets, representing notes or fingers, will work just as well through the paper and they can be shifted around with ease to explain all sorts of things.
Make sure that your pupil really internalizes the music – use recordings and singing.

Make or buy tactile aids that represent the lengths of sounds – your pupil needs to be able to feel the length of a semibreve and compare it with a tiny semiquaver.

Tiger

 

[cnmn]

All of these suggestions are so helpful...and I must say the last link Tiger is an answer to my prayer!!! HOW in the world did you find this wonderful amazing link??????????????????!!!
I have looked far and wide on dyslexia and music and never found this page..!!! ..all the problems my son has experienced in music theory are written here as though this person were living in our house and in our heads ... the multisensory approach will be so helpful!!! Today I will start by the floor exercise where he walks on the different clefs I will make by masking tape.. Also...not only did you give me practical advice Tiger but the advice to relax about this issue... Hilary your advice about realizing that "must" is not appropriate here and that in any circumstance he will continue to become a fine musician and find his way was crucial for me to understand. I needed to look at the bigger picture here in order to relax and untie the knot, essential imagery for me. Lucia I loved reading about your ex going as a mature adult to Berklee as I realized there are many ways to approach learning about music and my son does not have to "fit" into any mold..You too mentioned loosening up...so I did finally get the message! My son also plays a rare instrument called the Oud in addition to guitar and drums... so he never did fit the "mold". I have to remember this as his unique gift and not a "problem". I am printing your answers to help me remember when I lose my way here.. So accurate...so helpful and so sensitive one and all, ...I really have the right path now to follow after my first confusion! The what a wonderful friends area here ...friends all... I ching is truly compassionate ...Peace, love and a million thank you thank you thank you! CNMN