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SandCat15

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Hey guys, im really new to all this so need some help. My ex broke up with me about 2 and half weeks ago. it was out of nowhere and the reasons he stated made no sense to me. he said he wasnt happy and kept restating how we have been together for 15months. Anyway a week after breakup i did the iching and got hexagram 41 changing into 19....and i really dont know how to interpret this. I was told it was positive but im not sure.Help!thanksss
 

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Hi SandCat15,

I can’t quite suss out your question, which could make a difference in possible interpretations?

In general, tho, I read 41.6 changing to 19 as implying that something has gone past its prime and gets let-go (41) ~ which is neither good nor bad, but appropriate for growth in changing times (line 6) ~ with the result that you are now open to the approach of something new (19).

So, while most people look at decrease as ‘bad’ ~ “I’m losing!” ~ sometimes it’s ‘good’ in the sense that it allows you a better alignment with the stars ~ “Wait, I’m winning!"

I hope this helps!
 

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Hi! Thanks for the reply! And sorry I totally didn't let you guys know my question which is the following, if my ex and I are meant to be ? It's been very tough because like I mentioned before, I didn't see this coming at all everything seemed perfectly fine and our relationship. So I don't know if I should interpret this as something that needed to happen in order for our relationship to grow further in the future ? Not sure
 

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Let us know if something changes. It would be interesting.
 

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update

so just updating you guys. After three weeks of no communication we saw each other and ended up talking for hours. I thought he didnt want to get back and the following day he asked if we could speak again...we did and he vented on about his insecurities and how he pretty much ended it because of his inability to communicate and express his emotions....he finally said he didnt know if I would take him back....i told him i couldnt jump back into the relationship because now i would be afraid of him leaving me out of nowhere again...he said he understood and in order to prevent that he had to work on himself and communication skills....we agreed to take things slowly because its the healthiest way we can try to build a relationship. We are taking it day by day and see how it goes....now im just wondering if he will make it official again or not :(....i am giving him his space though...
 

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"Communication skills" don't just develop in a vacuum. You might get value from really focusing on this area and getting some help. There are games that encourage talking like "Taboo" where players pick cards that have questions that you then have to answer. Like, "What are you most proud of?" and "State an embarrassing moment and how you handled it." It's fun and encourages honest, deeper communication even after the game is over.
 

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