HEXAGRAM 44 and Love

[rsrose]

Hi guys. So I have been seeing this woman- young girl 25. And in a way I have been reaching out so much to her. With not much in response. She once cared and now seems indifferent. It was never an equal partnership. The ball always being in her court. I know I created this to some extent. And every time I have had a monsterous women in my life I always undoubtedly get hexagram 44. Nonetheless, I still try and always see the good in this human. It is my downfall but I always try and look for the best. Even perhaps when a relationship is over. i hang on longer than I should .I just am looking for closure at the least. There are some incredible qualities about her but also some very dark ones. She has been quite abusive in the past.
Anyway I said: Tell me what is important to know about X?
And received 44.1.6 going to 43.

I just recently sent a long text asking where I stand with her and just yearning for some empathy in a way. Just wanting to make things right. She has not replied yet.

Please let me know the meaning behind this. Thank you for your time.

 

[diamanda]

44 shows a temporary affair.
Here, 44 was completed from a to z quite fast (lines 1 and 6 changing).
And the matter is already decided (43).
So, a temporary affair is decidedly finished now.

Of course there is good and bad in most people, but good and bad is not so relevant here.
The most relevant thing in relationships is compatibility.
It's hard to explain why two people are not compatible and break up.
I believe it's a mixture of 'chemistry' between the two, their characters, and their goals.

If the two are not compatible, then no amount of goodness will correct the situation.

My best wishes to you to find someone compatible soon!

 

[rsrose]

44 shows a temporary affair.
Here, 44 was completed from a to z quite fast (lines 1 and 6 changing).
And the matter is already decided (43).
So, a temporary affair is decidedly finished now.

Of course there is good and bad in most people, but good and bad is not so relevant here.
The most relevant thing in relationships is compatibility.
It's hard to explain why two people are not compatible and break up.
I believe it's a mixture of 'chemistry' between the two, their characters, and their goals.

If the two are not compatible, then no amount of goodness will correct the situation.

My best wishes to you to find someone compatible soon!

Very fascinating .. Wow. Well, ok then. So it is already decided. It was very quick and it came very easy in the beginning... Then perhaps I have felt the struggle more now bc I am pushing for something that isn't working ? Thank you so much for your reply. Really appreciate you taking the time .

 

[Tim K]

What is important to know about X? 44.1.6 → 1


Richmond:
44.1. The wheel is held by a metal brake. Continuance in the way brings good fortune. A lean pig leaps about.

The brake is applied; there is nothing we can do about it but follow our circumstances. Any attempt to get out of our circumstances will prove unfortunate so we need simply to experience where we are.
A lean pig is an underfed pig and when we are under-stimulated we "leap about" to cause activity.
Here the silence of identity (lines 4,5 and 6 are yang) ignores the activity of the life force and it ceases to have influence.

1.6. Arrogant dragon. Regret.

It is particularly contrary to this tao for us to take charge of things. We are then deprived of the experience of the creative itself; we only experience ourselves.

To accept ourselves as the life force and tao is to confuse ourselves with the whole - in the tao of the creative we then think we are the creators.

I think your problem is being too needy, behaving like a lean pig that wants more food. Some people will lose interest in such partners, because they want a game, push and pull, some intrigue, an obstacle to overcome, a castle to take over.

1.6 can be reinforcing this too, but I think it is the advice line for you: don't try to create a relationship with someone who is just not right for you. Yes you lack the wonders that unity brings but wait a little, the universe will provide if you let it.

 

[rsrose]

Tim,

Thank you for your response. Perhaps, slightly painful to hear but the 6th line advice is very beautiful. She ended up texting me back but in a way it was just like throwing me a small bone to munch on. I think she likes this position. It has in a way been about control on her part. And she's always had it so yes there is not much of a game. I actually would have preferred no response at all... So I could completely move on. But giving a lean pig a bone to munch on i think is crueler than just letting it starve . She said " I promise you I do want to hang out soon " and gave the standard old run around in a way. It is interesting bc I do think I am the creator of this. I do think I in a way created her to be a real ******* when it comes down to it. But again the last thing you said is very profound and beautiful " but wait a little, the universe will provide it if you let it". I appreciate this very much Tim. And thank you for your time.

 

[bradford]

The power of the woman here is not the power that is inherently hers - it's about the power you surrender to her. What's important to know is that you no longer belong to yourself, and this is your own fault.

 

[rsrose]

Bradford, you couldn't be more correct. You have no idea the extent this goes. I'm aware I created it all. I appreciate the reminder. Truly

 

[rsrose]

I have given her power and I will take it away. Not her own obviously .. Since no human can take that from the other... But like you say... power she once held over me in which I consented too.