Hexagram 44 two times in a row

[GrowingAlma]

Hi all, hope you are doing well!

In the last couple of days I felt quite disappointed and disconnected in my relationship.

We had a fight (not a huge one) and the day after he wanted to make up without further discussing the topic (as he often does)

Anyway I still keep feeling disconnected as I said, and as I usually do, I do the mistake of overthinking and dismantling the whole relationship. In any case I feel unheard by him and that my needs are not really met. (am I wrong? I do not know... Sometimes I am quite difficult to appraise I have to admit).

In any case I have asked the book two similar questions :

1) how can I make him more attentive to my needs and desires?
Casted 44 unchanging

2)how should I behave to improve this relationship? (in the foreground the first question kept lingering..)

Casted 33.2 >44.


Quite impressive, isn't it?

It seems to me like a war I cannot win, where he is much more strong than me...

A connection that cannot be broken while at the same time I do not have the chance to get what I want..

Any thoughts about this?

Thanks in advance for all your precious insights.

 

[juaneros]

Hi there. For the first question with hex 44 I would say that it's indicating that you would be too forceful if you 'make' him be more attentive to your needs and desires. Basically meaning that you can't make anybody do anything really. It's not like he can be forced, but maybe he be persuaded if you are gentle within For your second question, hmmm... for me it's kind of saying to hold tight, not going to extremes with him, if you need to it's even good to retreat at times, giving each other space. Good luck there.

 

[GrowingAlma]

Thank you so much for your reply!

It really makes sense your interpretation, just fits perfectly in my situation.


My dark interpretation is lifted up by your positive vibe....

Thanks again