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bluestone

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Background: My relationship with a person has been going through lots of problems, most of these came from jealous friends, relatives and family.

My question is "What is the state of play in the next few weeks".


Can someone help inteprete this please?
 

dobro p

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Well, you're in a state of confinement, right?

My understanding of 47.4 is that you're very gradually coming to an understanding of the way you've been letting the situation carry you along rather than pulling your own weight. If I relate this to what you say about the problems in the relationship being due to 'jealous friends, relatives and family', I'd have to ask, 'Sure, but what have *you* been contributing? And how come you've just let things tick along like this?'

The nicest part about this line is that as you come to a realization of the part you're playing in the situation, the problematic nature of things starts to come to an end.

It's about taking responsibility, I think.
 
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Bluestone,
you need to drop the "formalities" and be emotionally honest in this relationship, and with yourself above all. get outside help if necessary, however, you must primarily enlist the help and support of your other half in dealing with what you perceive as outside interference between you - and do it by curbing your tendency to always be viewed as in control. you may find this to be a weak and embarrassing approach, and it might invite even more unwanted outside criticism, but you need to remember what is more important here - we teach others how to treat us by what and how much we allow them to get away with. oftentimes, emotional honesty is the only appropriate resolution, even if and especially because, the ego's pride, which is responsible for the problem in the first place, suffers a blow to it's rigid container.
 

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