hexagram 50 withdraw public life

[savannah]

hello everyone, I received this hexagram when I was asking if I must stop seeing my friends, stop going out with them.

The cuestion is that I have a lot of complex about me, I think I'm not funny, I can not provide nothing to me friends, to face this situation everytime I'm with them is very stressing for me and I lose a lot of energy, I feel very bad with myself. I think I'm a disaster in everything, in love, in relatioships.
So I thought maybe avoiding these situations I could find some peace, although I think this is not the most recommended for me.
So IC answered with hexagram 50 no changing lines.
Thank you for your contributions.

 

[pocossin]

Must I stop seeing my friends, stop going out with them?
50 unchanging

Cauldrons are commonly used here in NC to cook fish stew for family gatherings.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cauldron

The Image of The Cauldron says

Fire over wood:
The image of the Cauldron.
Thus the superior man consolidates his fate
By making his position correct.

The upper trigram is Li ☲ suggesting a circle of friends. The lower trigram is Xun ☴ suggesting expansion. To me Cauldron implies that you should expand your circle of companions to include those who accord with your individuality and interests. You might meet such persons by taking classes in your special interests or by going to places where those interests are represented.

 

[themis]

Hello,

You're certainly not a disaster in any domain ... proof's in Hex 50

Hex. 50
The situation described by this hexagram is characterized by the alchemical image of a
sacred vessel which transforms its contents into spiritual nourishment, an offering to
higher powers.
The vessel.
Spring, significant.
Growing.

So ... the Sage advises you to continue seeing your friends, etc. As to whether or not you're
funny is not for you to determine/decide. If you think you have someting amusing to say,
feel free, it's a free world - if it doesn't go down well with one, someone else will appreciate
the humour therein, if not, try something different. You're a source of nourishment and certainly
appreciated by your entourage.

Do read a few other translations/versions of the IC re. Hex. 50: Hilary's online and/or
hard copy, LiSe, Legge, Wilhelm, etc. etc. Everytime you think of the description of
Hex. 50 I sure hope you feel reassured, calm and cool.

 

[savannah]

reply

thank you for your answers, I'm crying like a baby reading it.
I only thought about the possibility of being alone again, and I think I cannot provide anything to others because I don't get involved as I should and they can get bored of me.

Anyway, I know my friends appreciate me, it's only a question of myself, I would like to improve in my relationships, being more natural.

When I'm with people, I'm like a car with the hand break on, something stops me of being cheerful, and open, its like a heavy load on my back.
The problem is the low concept of myself, and the stress that I feel when I'm with them, that's why I thought of the possibility of being alone again.
I know this is very coward but I thought in hidding away and not to fail my friends.

Thank you so much for your help.

 

[Tohpol]

thank you for your answers, I'm crying like a baby reading it.
I only thought about the possibility of being alone again, and I think I cannot provide anything to others because I don't get involved as I should and they can get bored of me.

Anyway, I know my friends appreciate me, it's only a question of myself, I would like to improve in my relationships, being more natural.

When I'm with people, I'm like a car with the hand break on, something stops me of being cheerful, and open, its like a heavy load on my back.
The problem is the low concept of myself, and the stress that I feel when I'm with them, that's why I thought of the possibility of being alone again.
I know this is very coward but I thought in hidding away and not to fail my friends.

Thank you so much for your help.

50 is also about spiritual transformation. You have something cooking inside you perhaps? Sometimes we can't be so "dynamic" and active as others during this period.

But when your inner self is ready, you will shine! But take it gently. Don't be too hard on yourself at this stage, and try not to compare. What you have inside will eventually manifest in the external world and is precious. Don't rush it however and don't be constrained by others' ways and perceptions. I think you have a great deal to offer others.

 

[savannah]

Actually, I don't know what I'm cooking inside, what I'm now is the result of an extrem sensibility and only the desire of being a better person and find the peace I need.

Thank you for your thoughts.