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Hello :)

I am new to all of this. Today I did a reading and I was looking for insights. The story:

There is a person I work with that I have grown to care about very much. There is a connection between us. I feel it. He is in a relationship at this time. I must say: I am not trying to pursue him. I would never do this out of respect, even though I have felt myself being drawn to him. It has just happened- naturally. This is what I finally observed; we love the same music, style etc- in fact, we have many things in common. In my heart, I know he is under some stress right now. I don't know what it is; it is not my business, but today it felt like he was taking it out on me. This may sound strange, but not in an abusive way, but in the way that he can't really hide it from me. Just as if there was something wrong with me, he always knows, and will always mention it to see if I am ok. We talk to each other. We are always kind and thoughtful with each other. He looks out for me at work. In my heart, I consider him a friend. I never mess about with something like that.

Today I asked the I ching: Why did he shut me out today? I received Hexagram 55.1.2>32

Does anybody have any insights about this? I am not sure what to think...

Thank you :) ( I hope it all made sense above!! )
 

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Hello, Tiger, and welcome to the Clarity forum :).

From Hilary's translation:

55.1
‘Meeting your partner and lord,
Though for ten days, no mistake.
Going on brings honour.’


55.2
'Feng is screened off.
At midday, seeing the Dipper.
Going on gains doubts and anxieties.
With truth and confidence coming to expression,
Good fortune.’


Hexagram 55 can mean abundance, but it can also mean feeling overwhelmed by everything, or it could have to do with having to make decisions about the abundance. 55.1 mentions a certain time limit, and 55.2 mentions "doubts and anxieties." 32 can also have to do with a certain duration of time, or it could mean something that has to be endured, or it can mean habits - staying in a particular orbit.

It might just mean that he was preoccupied at that moment? Maybe he had his head full of numerous other things that needed his attention. He may not have realized that to you it looked as if he was shutting you out.

It could also mean other things, like maybe he's having doubts about the relationship between you and him, and it's starting to feel like a somewhat unwanted complication in his life (hexagram 55, the challenges in managing abundance)? In a way that would mean that he does indeed have feelings for you, but if he's already committed to someone else (you didn't say how serious his other relationship is), he may want to just stay in that "orbit" instead of turning his life upside down.

Those are two very different things, and there may be other possibilities. I'm not sure if it can be figured out from the reading exactly what the reading is referring to. At least, I can't tell (sorry). It may be that you'll have to wait and see what happens in order to understand the reading (I realize that's not particularly helpful...).

People here on the forum often say that asking what is in someone's head is not really a good idea. There can be a moral component to that, but as a practical matter, things like this happen, where it's hard to tell what the reading means. My own opinion (I think!) is that Yi does know the answer to your question, and may very well be telling you the answer to your question, but we don't know how to interpret it with any accuracy (at least I don't).
 

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Upon waking up this morning, I see I blithely referred to "Hilary" as if you know exactly who that is on your first visit here. Maybe you do, if you've been reading things around the site before posting, but I shouldn't assume!

Hilary Barrett is an I Ching scholar, and the gracious owner of this website. Here is a little bit about her:

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/about.php

As I mentioned, she wrote a book, which in my opinion is very much worth buying:

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/learn/books/recommended-books.php#barrett

Also, if you haven't already found it, she has provided a bounty of information, totally free of charge, under the "Learn" tab at the top of the page:

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/learn/

and also in her blog, where you will find years worth of insights and divining tips:

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/answers/
 

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Hi Lisa :)

Thank you for your response. I found it very interesting :)

On your first post: I totally agree when you recommended that it is not a good idea to ask about what others are thinking. I spent much time thinking about this last night... I guess I asked the question because I do care about how I interact with him. It is important to me. Like I said: I am not trying to purse him, but I do want to be sure that I do not have a negative influence; we still have to work together. It can be difficult sometimes when you are attracted to another, because emotions can become involved. directly or indirectly. I do not know how long he has been in his relationship, but I figure it has been some time. In the bigger picture, this is not really my business- their relationship is between them and I have done well not thinking about it- I know the reality. I do respect that he is in a relationship and I respect him. Overall, I respect myself! There have been times when he has expressed negative things about his relationship... just small things, but I always deflected a response because I do not think it is wise for me to go 'there' with him.

"It might just mean that he was preoccupied at that moment? Maybe he had his head full of numerous other things that needed his attention. He may not have realized that to you it looked as if he was shutting you out."

What you say above is very true. After I left work that day, I was waiting for my bus, and I turned around to see he was walking up the road to the shops. It was only a short time afterwards. He was actually looking at me all the way up the street. I was staring right back at him. I turned away as he was closer because I felt a bit awkward because of how the day had been. I just did not know what to think and I thought I could get a rational answer from the I ching. I am new to this :/ I knew it would be honest.

I am going to look into the links you sent me, tonight :) thanks for that too :)
 
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It might be helpful to ask another, more general question about this, maybe something like, "What should I know about the relationship between X and I?," "Guidance for me regarding X?," "How best for me to be, regarding X?" or even just "X and I?" Put it in whatever words seem best to you.

Personally, I think it was pretty natural to ask the question you did. Possible romantic feelings aside, if someone I know was oddly standoffish to me, I'd want to know why, too. But there might be value in trying to understand the bigger picture with Yi's help, along with this specific incident.

In case you haven't already seen it, Hilary wrote a whole article about relationship readings, here:

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?12642-Blog-post-Advice-for-relationship-readings

Every bit of it won't perfectly fit every situation, but read it through, and you will probably find a lot of relevant advice.
 

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