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becalm

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My new potential love interest lives in an physical environment of utter chaos and it upsets my equilibrium when I spend time there and I'm sure it upsets his and he just doesn't realise it.
He's a pretty busy person, so housework etc. is his last priority I'm sure.
He works for a celebrity who employs his partner to be his PA so I've suggested to him that maybe he can employ me to be his housekeeper (because I'm sure as hell not gonna clean up his 'stuff' for nothing lol) but I would love to help him in some way and obviously I'll feel better about going to his place. We have these stupid misunderstandings and for me if there's chaos all around it's going to affect your relationships.

What is the potential he will agree to employ me as his housekeeper
41.5.6>60

Not sure about Hex 60 Limitations except that I find the chaos does seem to Limit the ease in which we can move around, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Line 5 - It will help Decrease his workload and in doing that will Increase his ability to clear the way for other things.
Line 6 - Gaining servants, a housekeeper in this instant, but it's not a role to stay in permanently.

To be honest I just hope I only have to do it once and by doing that he find it more manageable in the long term.
 

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Looks like there’s potential he’ll take you up on this! That’s how I would read it. That payment is involved and the mention of “servants” is on the nose for the nature of the query/task.
 
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Looks like there’s potential he’ll take you up on this! That’s how I would read it. That payment is involved and the mention of “servants” is on the nose for the nature of the query/task.
Thank you - is payment implied in the lines?
 

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I think Line 5 “Someone does indeed increase him. Ten pairs of tortoises cannot oppose it. Supreme good fortune.” could definitely represent payment here. Line 6, those are paid positions
 

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What is the potential he will agree to employ me as his housekeeper
41.5.6>60
The potential in him agreeing to employ you as a housekeeper would be that the relationship would be grounded in firm boundaries within which you can both readily function and understand the limitations of. This will be the first step towards bringing a return of mutual respect, peace and calm into your relationship.

...or it may mean nothing like this for you.

Good Luck
 

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My new potential love interest lives in an physical environment of utter chaos and it upsets my equilibrium when I spend time there and I'm sure it upsets his and he just doesn't realise it.
He's a pretty busy person, so housework etc. is his last priority I'm sure.
He works for a celebrity who employs his partner to be his PA so I've suggested to him that maybe he can employ me to be his housekeeper (because I'm sure as hell not gonna clean up his 'stuff' for nothing lol) but I would love to help him in some way and obviously I'll feel better about going to his place. We have these stupid misunderstandings and for me if there's chaos all around it's going to affect your relationships.

What is the potential he will agree to employ me as his housekeeper
41.5.6>60

Not sure about Hex 60 Limitations except that I find the chaos does seem to Limit the ease in which we can move around, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Line 5 - It will help Decrease his workload and in doing that will Increase his ability to clear the way for other things.
Line 6 - Gaining servants, a housekeeper in this instant, but it's not a role to stay in permanently.

To be honest I just hope I only have to do it once and by doing that he find it more manageable in the long term.
The last paragraph implies future disappointment. You're expecting something back that isn't part of the agreement. You'll want to put something that limits how long the employment lasts. The expectation that someone will change for you... is asking a lot.

It doesn't bother him, you say, but you've decided that it must bother him. I think that's an unwarranted assumption.

Celebrities are not famous for successful personal relationships either. Are you sure you want to use that as a template for your own?
 
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The potential in him agreeing to employ you as a housekeeper would be that the relationship would be grounded in firm boundaries within which you can both readily function and understand the limitations of. This will be the first step towards bringing a return of mutual respect, peace and calm into your relationship.

...or it may mean nothing like this for you.

Good Luck
My_key thank you!! I knew there had to be more to it than just the practicality!!
 
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The last paragraph implies future disappointment. You're expecting something back that isn't part of the agreement. You'll want to put something that limits how long the employment lasts. The expectation that someone will change for you... is asking a lot.

It doesn't bother him, you say, but you've decided that it must bother him. I think that's an unwarranted assumption.

Celebrities are not famous for successful personal relationships either. Are you sure you want to use that as a template for your own?
I'm not sure I said it doesn't bother him, I said it appears to impact his equilibrium also.
I said I hope I only have to do it once and it becomes manageable for him not that it couldn't be an ongoing thing. I know a number of people who employ housekeepers to come in once a week or fortnightly so it's manageable the rest of the time, maybe he may see the value in it. If he doesn't then that's a whole other thing.
Also I'm not sure if you know the background story.
I also know a number of people who employ their partner in some capacity. ie. Tradie husband has his wife in administration. It's not uncommon practise.
 

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I had a thought along similar lines about Line 6 here. If we keep it very narrow to the question, yes, it seems affirmative for the query. It does say that this won’t become a real dwelling place or family, too. Since the larger relationship is also involved in the query, or is rather the context for the query and the same relationship you’re asking about in the question, it might be worth thinking about whether this is something you want to do regardless of “what’s in it for you” so to speak.
 
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I had a thought along similar lines about Line 6 here. If we keep it very narrow to the question, yes, it seems affirmative for the query. It does say that this won’t become a real dwelling place or family, too. Since the larger relationship is also involved in the query, or is rather the context for the query and the same relationship you’re asking about in the question, it might be worth thinking about whether this is something you want to do regardless of “what’s in it for you” so to speak.
Yes that's true too. It was just an idea and not something that I really want to take on for those reasons.
Things are still a bit iffy between us and this week I've got 3 sessions of psychology so I won't be seeing him anytime soon anyway.
I only talk to/spend time with people that know me when I'm going through this attempt at healing my trauma based self and he's not one of them.
 
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There is an issue that keeps cropping up but I'm hoping this time it's sorted.
What do I need to know about him pursuing this matter further
Hex 21.5>25
Bites through until he finds the 'treasure' but know he needs to proceed with caution.
 
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I don’t totally understand the question but 21.5 > 25 looks like needing to bite through something in order to break free of it. Getting to the truth or the heart of the matter or maybe impartiality (?) in order to be unhindered.
 
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I don’t totally understand the question but 21.5 > 25 looks like needing to bite through something in order to break free of it. Getting to the truth or the heart of the matter or maybe impartiality (?) in order to be unhindered.
If I worded the question as a yes/no it would read - Is he going to keep going over and over this issue with me.
 
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What do I need to know about him pursuing this matter further,
Is he going to keep going over and over this issue with me?
21.5 > 25

He will punish you by either breaking up or withholding sex.
Because of 41.5.6 > 60 (and also because line 21.5 mentions gold), it sounds like he will agree to what you are suggesting to him and employ you, but will retaliate later.
 
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becalm

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What do I need to know about him pursuing this matter further,
Is he going to keep going over and over this issue with me?
21.5 > 25

He will punish you by either breaking up or withholding sex.
Because of 41.5.6 > 60 (and also because line 21.5 mentions gold), it sounds like he will agree to what you are suggesting to him and employ you, but will retaliate later.
Oh dear that sounds awful but he's actually employed someone else at this point.
 
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That's good news for you! I don't believe it would be to your benefit to be in that position.
There's a chance that he'll still do the 21.5 > 25 towards you - although I hope not.
 
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becalm

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I don’t totally understand the question but 21.5 > 25 looks like needing to bite through something in order to break free of it. Getting to the truth or the heart of the matter or maybe impartiality (?) in order to be unhindered.
Now this makes sense....after my counselling session and a short interaction we had the other day which made me see things very clearly.
 

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