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how can I aproach to this situation with 64.2.6 to 16

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Hi everyone.

First of all I want to tell a few things about the matter. There's one girl in my class, and I like her. Since the start of the course I've been "avoiding" her because I was a little afraid (bad experience on a similar story in the past), but the case is we've been very close since day one and we have a good relationship. The thing is I'm very confused. So I started to cast some questions, maybe in fact I overcasted, and I suppose this is a common error for beginners in IC like me. Even I had lot of "good" answers I still feel confused. I remember some casts but I lost the paper were I noted the questions. Most of them were like "What kind of relationship can I expect from X", "How can I approach to her", etc. But most of them were very positive or that's what I think. IC advised me that at this moment the "path" is sort of obstructed.

Today I decided that I need to talk to her, because she want us to be friends but she also told me that for her, before start a serious relationship is very important start as friends. The thing I dislike is that she met a guy and admit that she like that guy but she just want to know him. So, I told this afternoon that I needed to talk to her, but without a hurry, whenever she could talk, I'd wait.

After told her that, and she agreed, I casted another question: How should aproach to her with my feelings to work out this relationship and avoid any damage for any of us? And The result was H64.2.6 to 16.

After some thoughs my first impression was that IC is telling me to not do what I was thinking to do on opening my feelings, and wait a bit more and be stronger because it's not the time yet. Line 5 for me is that I should enjoy with her because it's mutual that we enjoy together. And I can't tell what 16 it's telling me.

Sorry for not show more info about other casts and questions, I'm a mess and probably that's why I'm so confused and I'm afraid to cast again the same questions and get wrong answers and confuse myself even more.

Well, thanks in advance and very appreciate any thoughts.
 
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64.2 → 35 (Progress), Daniels:
Stay on course, but slow down and avoid rash acts.


64.6 → 40 (Liberation), Wilhelm:
There is drinking of wine in genuine confidence. No blame.
But if one wets his head, He loses it, in truth.

I agree with your first impression. Go slow and enjoy what you have, build on it step by step.
But over-confidence (aah she is my soulmate, I've already planned our wedding and chose names for the babies, and colleges they'll go to etc.) will lead to trouble.

It may be that by taking first steps you'll change your mind by discovering some truth about her.

h16 here symbolizes your eagerness to be closer, to do something, willingness to advance although the situation is h64 - unstable.

.6 can refer to taking a small step forward: going on a date, drink wine, talk, catch a movie.
 

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It makes a lot of sense. I guess I'm overthinking the situation, going too far on my expectations and being afraid of not accomplish them. I should relax, forget about the past and focus on the moment. Maybe IC is telling me to not rush in conclusions because maybe it's not what I'm thinking to be, but could be a very good friendship.

Thanks a lot! I see it a lot more clear now.
 

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I'm making an update about this story. I followed ashteroid advice and it went pretty well. We met last Monday to have a drink and talk. I told her that I was confused with my feelings about her, but I wanted to work out things between the two of us. The part I find interesting is what ashteroids told me about changing my mind, in fact, now I'm more relaxed and my intuition is telling me that is something wrong about this story. So I waited a couple of days to see how things developed between us. Everything seems normal. So I decided give it a try with another question (following Hilary's post, Advice for relationships) and I asked: What’s the best attitude to take to this relationship (with X)?
The resulting hex was 19 moving line 1 to hex 7.

My interpretation after some thoughts it's mixed, I don't really get what's telling me. I get the resulting hex 7. I think it means I need to be careful and pay a lot of attention to mistakes, but 19.1 looks like "good ending" and at this moment that doesn't feel right. Don't know. Any thoughts?

Thanks
 

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Best attitude? 19.1 → 7
Well that's a good positive reading - enjoy her company, take the initiative (h7 calls for leadership and wisdom).
h19 does hint that nothing lasts forever (summer will end in August, the 8th month), but you shouldn't focus on that, on some waiting for negative thing to happen, just enjoy it while it lasts. Be approachable and open.
 

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Yes, I know, good positive indeed. For that reason I said that I had mixed thoughts. Anyway, I'm sharing this because could be helpful for others IC newbies like me. Instead of overcasting I'm going step by step following castings advices. It's hard sometimes because we tend to overthink and let fantasies go further, the eagerness of H16. For me it's becoming an exercise of discipline, and more important, let people come and go. It's really difficult because I really like her. But will see what happen next, isn't it what makes life wonderful? not knowing?

Thanks again ashteroids!

EDIT:
I understand that relationships posts are not very appealing, just trying to help sharing my experience to helps others to avoid frustrations :). I'd like to read others opinions and experiences. Anyway thanks for reading.
 

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