How does he feel about me? 36.3 to 24

[Cupofteas]

Hi all, I have not heard from a friend in a few weeks after an incident in April. We have known eachother for a year and met while working together, I knew he was attracted to me and he tried to sleep with me one night. Although I share his feelings and care for him, I didn’t think sleeping with him was appropriate at the time so I didn’t. He last texted me the end of April but I didnt respond because I was upset...he basically didn’t keep his word when I didn’t sleep with him. So I wanted to know what he thought of me and got 36.3 to 24. Does this mean we will reconnect soon?

 

[moss elk]

Does this mean we will reconnect soon?

No, it doesn't.

Help me understand?
You rebuffed his advances, then he lied to you about something. Is that right?
Now you want him to return?

 

[Cupofteas]

Yes, I rebuffed his advances and when I did, he withheld a promise he made to me. He didn’t lie, he just never followed through on the promise. I wanted to know how he currently felt about me and received 36.3 to 24. Then I asked the question, is he going to contact me and received hexagram 58 unchanging. 58 UC usually means exchange of communication, but I’m so confused.

 

[moss elk]

Yes, I rebuffed his advances and when I did, he withheld a promise he made to me.

When he originally made the promise to you, did he say that his fullfilling it was contingent on you having sex with him?
(because if he did not, that is called a lie by omission)

Anyone else feel free to jump in.

 

[Cupofteas]

I think the term “reneging” would accurately describe the situation, so if it’s the same as calling it a lie by omission, ok. But bottom line is, he didn’t keep his word. I just want to know the meaning behind 36.3 changing to 24 and 58 unchanging in terms of him reaching out to communicate.

 

[Hexagramer]

Hello there, Last time I got 58 by itself in regards to being contacted, I received a positive form of communication from the poi. So I would like to say that yes, he may contact you. I am no expert, but 36 line 3 speaks of (according to Legge), the subject in the condition of clouded perception hunting in the south, then capturing the chief of darkness. It also warns not to correct everything all at once despite the success. I am going on a limb to guess, that maybe he did all of that under a clouded perception, without thinking things through. I do not understand how capturing the chief of darkness would relate to him though, unless he decided to capture his dark thoughts or bad intentions? If that is the case, he is not going to correct his wrongdoing all at once. It may take some time to correct his behavior. In any case, 58 in terms of contact is usually positive in my experience, so you might be happy about what he says when he contacts you.

 

[rosada]

36.3 discribes a situation where something is pursued too vigorously - perhaps a reference to your friend's wanting to have sex - and 24 could mean this led to the two of you taking a break from the connection so things could Return to how they were before.

58. is about sharing and the back and forth necessary. As I understand it, he reached out to you through a text and you did not respond therefore I think 58uc is saying you will not hear from him again because it is up to you now to respond to his last text.

 

[Cupofteas]

rosada and Hexagramer: thanks for clearing that up. Both of those interpretations are interesting. I do know that he was in the wrong but I still care for him since we’ve been friends for awhile. And if 24 means things returning to how they were before, that would mean the two of us being able to talk again as friends and going back to the same feeling of camaraderie. Which is what I hope. We’ve never had a break in connection so this is new.

 

[Hexagramer]

Every time I got 24 unchanging in regards to a person, they would always come back Not sure about situations, but you may return to the same position of friendship once you two have communicated. If I were you, I would wait a few days to see if he contacts you, and if he does not, maybe reply back and see how the dialogue goes?