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Further to this thread I started today https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?25144-Groping-and-a-naked-photo-request
I decided not to tell my friend and was just going to let things work out as they would....unfortunately (or fortunately?) it seems her husband decided to fess up about what happened as my friend sent me a message making excuses why I couldn't spend the weekend renovating with them....not that I was going to go anyway in leiu of the present circumstances.
Of course I don't know what's transpired between her and her husband but I'm again wondering about our friendship
What do I need to know about my friendship with her
Hexagram 13.1.5>56
This reading doesn't look too bad but not exactly great either, understandably I guess.
Looks like our friendship will survive once the dust settles.
I just responded over on the other thread too. Yes I think your friendship will survive. I also think by 13.1 that you and her need to meet in neutral territory without him. Maybe a café or park or somewhere, your place ? Now you don't know what he's told her you need to get your version across and show her the text. She must be terribly embarrassed since her husband's actions humiliate her too.
After that, well I think the friendship will have to be between the two of you unless you feel his actions weren't that serious ? I only say that because well you know him better than me. Personally I'd have nothing more to do with him and alert him to the fact you do take it seriously, are keeping the texts to show the police if need be. Even having apologised he has shown he think of you in a sexual way which can't be comfortable if you were friends with them as a couple.
I think it's hard being friends as a single person, woman in particular, with couples anyway. One does tend to end up enacting, being the point of all insecurities in their relationship which is a pain in the backside. Who wants to get drawn in to all that, let them do it themselves.
The main thing is I think you can go on being friends with her. Let's hope she dumps him.
I can't know it, but you said that he is emotionally abusive, so I wouldn't count on that he told her a true story about what happened. Maybe he realised that it is likely that you tell her about his text messages and then he decided to do the flight forward and gave her a version of the event, that makes him looking less bad, like "she flirted with me agressively so I felt encouraged to text her" or "she sent me some signals..."
So better be careful that he doesn't try to play off her against you.
(P.S: Don't want to sound too apocalyptic or making you paranoid. Just double-check if there are doubts about his honesty here)
I remember a woman telling me a long time ago after she'd had a fall out with her best friend that she will deal with it when she's ready no matter how long that takes - that made me realise some things just cannot be fixed straight away if at all.
Spot on - she rang me today and spoke as if nothing had happened, which in her World it had not because she didn't know....once I told her and sent her the conversation she just fell apart physically and emotionally. Gosh she's just nursed and lost her sister from cancer amongst other things - WTH is wrong with her partner.....I've no words, honestly!Have you responded to that text? If not i suggest you not answer it. That's very typical behavior. Anything to get a response out of you. I doubt he will tell her but then again, he may. But you don't need to discuss it with him. You don't need to discuss anything with him.
Did you talk to your therapist, and if, what did he say?
And yes, good that you didn't respond to him.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).