How to act in this situation. Same line for both answers

[itslvr]

Hi! So i'm in love with my friend but he's with someone else. I asked the iching two possibilities:

What would happen if I keep feeding this love that i have for him, hoping that we could get together someday?
42.3.5>22

Line 3 Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere = walk the middle path.
Line 5 If the heart is true, no need to ask = supreme good fortune from kindness as a virtue
I guess the hexagram 22, is right there because we are both artists and i write him songs?
So maybe this could be something like, well, you won't be together but you may create something beautiful



What would happen if i try to move on with my life and stop feeding this feelings that i have for him?
42.3>37

Line 3 Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere = walk the middle path.


So i finally asked what it's my best option.
56.6-62

Line 6 The nest burns up, at first the wanderer laughs and later weeps = losing the cow in the process leads to misfortune. Changes to (62) Small Exceeding
I guess that i should keep the middle path, like having him by my side but not wanting that much so i burn the nest? I don't really know.
What would you do?

 

[rosada]

I have found that 22 as the resulting hexagram describes a vision that remains a fantasy thus I think the reading says that even if you continue to nurture your dream it will still remain a dream, not a reality. Perhaps the lines are describing how you "feed this love", that is, you keep a good control over your feelings, are friendly but don't step over the line - you "walk in the middle" and can enjoy being a part of his life in this way.
I think your interpretation of 56.6 is spot on.

 

[itslvr]

I haven't thought about the dreams possibility. I usually get this hexagram in relation to him and i thought it was about our art because we are both musicians and we work together but this could be also an interpretation! I think they both are similar...The art is a distortion of reality, like dreams!

 

[Amaterasu]

I agree with rosada’s insightful interpretation of 42.3.5>22. I’d like to take a stab at elaborating on 56.6, though, in that I think this line carries a caution.

There is the danger of losing something in Line 6, particularly if you overstep your bounds. In other words, if you value your friendship with this man, follow path 42.3>37 and move on (hex 37 indicates an appropriate behavior), or be content with your love being limited to fantasy (42.3,6>22, as per rosada’s interpretation). However, if you try to take action to get involved with this person—who is already in a relationship—I think the yi is warning that you risk losing your friendship with him in a futile attempt to obtain something beyond your reach (hex 62).

 

[rosada]

37. Family might also be saying that if you are able to curb your enthusiasm for romance you might create a relationship where you come to be seen as a trusted friend, one of the family. How do you get along with his partner?

 

[ClavdiaChauchat]

Hi! So i'm in love with my friend but he's with someone else. I asked the iching two possibilities:

What would happen if I keep feeding this love that i have for him, hoping that we could get together someday?
42.3.5>22

Line 3 Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere = walk the middle path.
Line 5 If the heart is true, no need to ask = supreme good fortune from kindness as a virtue
I guess the hexagram 22, is right there because we are both artists and i write him songs?
So maybe this could be something like, well, you won't be together but you may create something beautiful



What would happen if i try to move on with my life and stop feeding this feelings that i have for him?
42.3>37

Line 3 Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere = walk the middle path.


So i finally asked what it's my best option.
56.6-62

Line 6 The nest burns up, at first the wanderer laughs and later weeps = losing the cow in the process leads to misfortune. Changes to (62) Small Exceeding
I guess that i should keep the middle path, like having him by my side but not wanting that much so i burn the nest? I don't really know.
What would you do?

Hi, I'll just spend some word on the traveller, cause I think it says what really matters to you.

As you receive this cast with a huge background history on you (I mean, you received the 56 after you asked about other possibilities on this situation) and as I think all the casts we receive about a single "problem" or matter are related, I'd say: If you keep on feeding this light alone, you'll loose yourself and that's not worth! Love is a matter of two when it goes on a relationship, not of one. Loosing modesty and the capability to adapt to the situation brings misfortune, which, in my opinion, means that if you don't accept this thing can't go on for you, you'll be alone. If the traveller forget to be a traveller and that what is living now is just temporary, that will be misfortune, so I think its saying that this condition with this guy has to be temporary and not be transformed in something permanent! Hope it helps.

 

[rosada]

I see 42.3 as the energy generated by the sad feeling of being in love with someone unavailable becoming the inspiration for your creativity. 42.5 is encouragement to continue with your projects and 22. continue to create beauty.

So all in all, if you keep feeding this love - and by that I assume you mean continue to care and to continue to produce work with him - I think you'll continue to produce some worthwhile art. I think 56.6 is warning that if you over step your place, try to bring your fantasy into reality, it would be a disaster!

62. Use good common sense. Obey all the social rules. Assume you are here for the long haul.

 

[itslvr]

37. Family might also be saying that if you are able to curb your enthusiasm for romance you might create a relationship where you come to be seen as a trusted friend, one of the family. How do you get along with his partner?

we don't know each other and i think she doesn't like me too much haha (jealousy)

 

[itslvr]

Hi, I'll just spend some word on the traveller, cause I think it says what really matters to you.

As you receive this cast with a huge background history on you (I mean, you received the 56 after you asked about other possibilities on this situation) and as I think all the casts we receive about a single "problem" or matter are related, I'd say: If you keep on feeding this light alone, you'll loose yourself and that's not worth! Love is a matter of two when it goes on a relationship, not of one. Loosing modesty and the capability to adapt to the situation brings misfortune, which, in my opinion, means that if you don't accept this thing can't go on for you, you'll be alone. If the traveller forget to be a traveller and that what is living now is just temporary, that will be misfortune, so I think its saying that this condition with this guy has to be temporary and not be transformed in something permanent! Hope it helps.

Hi! thank you very much. I also think that the traveler means something that it's temporary and i also think that the line that i got means overstepping on his boundaries. Thank you very much for your opinion! I guess we gotta accept our destiny

I see 42.3 as the energy generated by the sad feeling of being in love with someone unavailable becoming the inspiration for your creativity. 42.5 is encouragement to continue with your projects and 22. continue to create beauty.

So all in all, if you keep feeding this love - and by that I assume you mean continue to care and to continue to produce work with him - I think you'll continue to produce some worthwhile art. I think 56.6 is warning that if you over step your place, try to bring your fantasy into reality, it would be a disaster!

62. Use good common sense. Obey all the social rules. Assume you are here for the long haul.

Hi! I also i asked about his feelings and got 42.3. I think that this might refer to the circumstances in which we met, when we have lost another things but that led us to meet each other! That's the only thing that i think that makes sense. Or maybe that if we are not together as a couple it will be better for our future working together. Could it be?

 

[marybluesky]

Hello;

the two first readings say that this love enriches you, be it in a difficult situation, whether you remain or move on (42.3).
By keeping on loving him you make no mistake; it's a true affection, a real love, and you know that in your heart. That's precious (42.5).
Beautiful line indeed!
The best option reading is confusing- I can't say for sure, maybe it suggest not destroying your "nest" because of this love?

 

[silent]

Hi! So i'm in love with my friend but he's with someone else. I asked the iching two possibilities:

What would happen if I keep feeding this love that i have for him, hoping that we could get together someday?
42.3.5>22

Line 3 Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere = walk the middle path.
Line 5 If the heart is true, no need to ask = supreme good fortune from kindness as a virtue
I guess the hexagram 22, is right there because we are both artists and i write him songs?
So maybe this could be something like, well, you won't be together but you may create something beautiful



What would happen if i try to move on with my life and stop feeding this feelings that i have for him?
42.3>37

Line 3 Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere = walk the middle path.


So i finally asked what it's my best option.
56.6-62

Line 6 The nest burns up, at first the wanderer laughs and later weeps = losing the cow in the process leads to misfortune. Changes to (62) Small Exceeding
I guess that i should keep the middle path, like having him by my side but not wanting that much so i burn the nest? I don't really know.
What would you do?

It may be helpful to consider what the nature of feelings you have and what is then causing the issue...

Line 3- Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere
Line 5- If the heart is true, no need to ask...

It's a tough situation for anyone to go through....

-If the idea of not having this person in the way you want them is troubling you. It may be helpful to question the sincerity of or the nature of your feelings....

If loving this person without a romantic aspect doesn't fulfill you, then what is the true nature of your relationship, and what is informing your feelings and desires.

If, on the other hand, you have genuine love for, and resonate with this person then it would be wise to accept the relationship as it is. Finding contentment with one has, also frees them from the pain of desiring what they don't have.

It its important to get in touch with those feelings.... Because either way, you understand yourself more and being sincere with yourself regarding your intentions- is never a mistake. The true value in these questions is what may be enriched by misfortune (the misfortune of confusing and conflicting emotions) is your understanding of what you want and value and need from relationships.

There is no shame in an honest answer- as its always an important step in getting one where they want to be.

 

[itslvr]

It may be helpful to consider what the nature of feelings you have and what is then causing the issue...

Line 3- Enriched through misfortune, no blame in being sincere
Line 5- If the heart is true, no need to ask...

It's a tough situation for anyone to go through....

-If the idea of not having this person in the way you want them is troubling you. It may be helpful to question the sincerity of or the nature of your feelings....

If loving this person without a romantic aspect doesn't fulfill you, then what is the true nature of your relationship, and what is informing your feelings and desires.

If, on the other hand, you have genuine love for, and resonate with this person then it would be wise to accept the relationship as it is. Finding contentment with one has, also frees them from the pain of desiring what they don't have.

It its important to get in touch with those feelings.... Because either way, you understand yourself more and being sincere with yourself regarding your intentions- is never a mistake. The true value in these questions is what may be enriched by misfortune (the misfortune of confusing and conflicting emotions) is your understanding of what you want and value and need from relationships.

There is no shame in an honest answer- as its always an important step in getting one where they want to be.

Thank you everyone for the replies, i finally saw that i was living on an eternal illusion of idealism. Yes, this relationship enriches me but not as i thought, more like on a professional way and keeping more emotional distance has been beneficial for me, because i'm not so attached and i don't feel like being let down all the time due to my higher expectations. I think we've found a healthy balance. And i bet he is more comfortable now, when i'm not putting that much energy on him. I hope this endures and i will not fall back into the imagination's trap!

 

[rosada]

What is your best option?

56.6 Go after him! All's fair in love and war! You may make a total fool of yourself but what the heck, we're only here once!

62. Uh, you may have to apologize later..